I've been with my husband for almost five years now, and he doesn't trust me. Iv'e done nothing that i know of to make him feel this way. I barely ever go out with my friends b/c he thinks I'll cheat on him. He says women cheat. Period. Whats the deal?? He wasn't always like this!
2007-04-30 17:57:09 · 17 answers · asked by ♥ R.I.P Spike ♥ 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
bummer.....you have a bleak future ahead of you if your husband doesn't change his way of thinking....
2007-04-30 18:01:37 · answer #1 · answered by abc 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Either he cheated with a married woman or you just aren't doing the right thing to alleviate his insecurities. You need to ask him what you have to do in order to make him feel safe, and if he says that you aren't allowed to go out, then just get out, because you are going to start to hate him. He could also be having a mid-life crisi so he's the one that needs help not you
2007-04-30 18:17:32 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like your husband has gotten burned before and is scared of it happening again. Its tough living with someone who doesnt trust you even when you have shown that you are a trustworthy person. Its not about you. Every time he indicates that he is feeling threatened (probaby by accusing you of smething) I would kindly tell him that you love him and when he treats you as though you're untrustworthy it makes you feel hurt and not close to him. Then (and this is the key) do what you were going to do regardless of his reaction. He will never have to get over his insecurities if you allow his fear to imprison you.
good luck!!
2007-04-30 18:09:17 · answer #3 · answered by Reneejah 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
sounds like he has an issue maybe with your friends or maybe he is just insecure. whatever it may be you will not have a happy health relationship if he does not trust you. you need to find out why he doesnt and work on it the best you can some men just get possesive even if they have not been that way before
2007-04-30 18:02:25 · answer #4 · answered by treys girl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Theres a reason hes so insecure, did he get cheated on by a past girlfriend? Is he guilty because he is cheating? I would demand couples counseling imediately or you will soon be a prisoner whos miserable instead of a happy wife.
2007-04-30 18:01:16 · answer #5 · answered by bighelp 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can only think of two reasons:
1. He is cheating and is deflecting his guilt onto you to make you feel bad, AND/OR
2. He has been cheated on in the past, has trust issues, and insecurities.
Good luck
2007-04-30 18:09:26 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
my hubby of 6 yrs also like that but in the end he is the one who keeps womanising, having affairs after affairs. Even now he has another new woman outside but he accused me of having sex with his buddy before. Right now we're on the verge of divorcing. Really no point continuing.
2007-04-30 19:02:26 · answer #7 · answered by le_snowangel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Seems you may have two problems going here. First you appear to be able to read minds. Which thing no one can do.
Second he has a past and we build our understanding from past items in our lives. May i make a subjestion work on building his ego. Little things like saying out of the blue, God sure was good to me when he made you. builds the ego. Other things like maybe after having good sex, give a great review. Building the ego is part of the wifes job in a marriage. And i is right to want you to himself, because you are so special. You also have to become aware of the wisdom of great people of the past. If you hang around with divorced people you will become devorced, The rotten apple thing. And if your out with the girls, Are they all happy and married.
Because if they are not then you are going to end up like them. There mind set will become your mind set. There mind set will become your mind set. There failures will become your mind set. Great marriages have to be build and they have to be nurtured, and protected.
So your husband has some real concerns in your going out with the girls, a wife is a woman and not a girl. The kindergarded years are over. It is ok to have friends they should be friends that are couples and married. And which have morals. A wife is to cleve to her husband. Solomans wisdom here. That means she should not depart from his side and should be his pardner in life. Those are the best marriages. Also "a man/woman who sets his counsel in the mist of fools, will become the chief of fools" "destruction comes to the unwise". "The feet of the wicked runs to folly"
"great are the sorrows of the wayward" The find no rest.
Wisdom has to be researched and put on like a fine garment.
Marriage other is Husband wife then children. The wife is to respect her husband. Do you respect your husband. HOw do you show it. The husband has to charish a wife. how does he show it. And the wife should never put the children before the husband. That is 100 percent true. These things i have told you are what God said about marriage. And each one brings a blessing is done right and a cursing if done wrong.
Your husband works i would think, When he comes home at night do you give him a chance to rest for 45 min. before unloading your cares and taking about your day. men are different the woman. They want atime of quite just like you do at times. Men do not change hats at the drop of a hat. Woman like to talk alot most of the times. To express themself, men express themself differntly.
Marriage takes work and eduction on both sides.
2007-04-30 19:16:27 · answer #8 · answered by the light exposes the darkenss 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
That's a bad sign. Paranoia strikes the actual person who comitted the sin!!!
Maybe he's trying to turn the tables on you.
2007-04-30 18:02:23 · answer #9 · answered by LIA 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you have not given him a reason not to trust you then it sound like he has some issues with trust that my have nothing
to do with you. and also he could be the one that cheating
that why he accuse you. but what every it is you both need
to get some help to deal with what every is going on.
2007-04-30 18:15:42 · answer #10 · answered by luckystar 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋