I am working my way through college!!?

Question

What other job besides the one I have could I make good money ? note nothing Illegal . I am a part time dancer right now love it , but my boyfriend is insisting I quit..

Answer 1

Honestly, I really think that if you're working in a clean and safe environment then you're probably bringing home much more money than you will be able to make from most other everyday kinds of jobs. Unless you have a certain skill, not illegal, then you're looking at a minimum wage job.

First you must realize that both you and he will miss the money that you bring in from this. Be sure to point that out to him.
Infact, try this: convince him to try this for an experiment if he says that the money doesn't matter:
-figure out what you would make from a regular paying job working the same amount of hours that you work now...
like if you're going to go work at McD's then figure minimum wage times 30 hours or whatever, then put that amount of money out to use each week just like that was your whole paycheck
-put anything else over that amount into the bank in YOUR NAME ONLY and don't touch it at all, no matter what
-If you use only the regular paycheck amount then that will give both of you an idea of how things would be if you quit.
The only way to see how it would be to live on that smaller amount is to try it first.
You have to be true though, so figure up the real amount that you'd be making and whatever you'd be spending to get to this different job and any amount you'd have to spend for uniforms or whatever that you'd need.
Make him see that it's easy to just SAY quit, but doing it sometimes makes a bigger difference than what you planned on. That's why so many girls keep going back to it over and over. The money is good and easy.

Now, from his perspective, think about why he could be wanting you to give up this job.
Is there a particular reason that your boyfriend is wanting you to quit?
-is it unsafe?
-is it in a drug or prostitute laden environment?
-have there been any problems with "customers"?
-is he just jealous?
-does he have reason to be?
-are you having problems with your family because of this job or do they even know?
-is there any chance that someone else is pressuring him into trying to get you to quit- like a mom or something?
-does he feel insecure, maybe because of you displaying yourself to so many men or perhaps because you are being successful by making more money than he does?
-has he always felt this way about your dancing or is this a sudden change? If it's sudden, why?

I think you should talk to him before making any rash decisions. Go over the kinds of alternative jobs that would realistically be available to you with whatever job experience you do/do not have. Try to work up a plan for your future together, figuring out points like school tuition, graduation, rent and such, maybe even talking about saving for a vacation or car or down payment on an apartment or house. Talking about the future, bringing your job into the discussion as a real part of it, may make him feel more that your dancing is a job, and not as a threat to your relationship.

Most importantly, how do YOU feel about this?
If this is something that you want to do, that you enjoy doing, and it is safe, then it is not up to someone else whether you quit or not.
If you are in a stable, good relationship with this man, then you will be able to talk to him about this and he will be able to accept your decisions.
It is not right if he is "insisting" that you quit, giving you an ultimatium. That is giving you no choice.
Please try to explain to him how that makes you feel, even if he tries that "you'll do it if you love me" line, it still is forcing your hand.
Lastly, even if all this works out and you decide to stay dancing, it is a good financial idea to do the exercise written above all the time. It will help you save toward a future goal. You don't have to give up everything over the minimum wage amount, maybe take away 50% of the extra to put into savings, but by putting anything up in savings you are making sure that if something happens you will have a nest egg to fall back on. And, with many dancers, whether just dancing or stripping, it is easy to get so used to the money that what you are making isn't enough anymore and that's when the problems start for real, or when you do decide it's time to quit, then the regular life leaves you wanting more because you never saved anything from the dancing.
Good luck with the dancing, the boyfriend, and college.

Answer 2

Were you a dancer when you met him?

If so, he's the one who needs to quit unless you've given him the message that you intend to.

Dancing, waitressing and fast food delivery are prime choices. Dancing is more fun and pays WAY better.

This boy won't be around once he can't control you anymore. What's more, if he's controlling what you do for money now, will he be controlling it while you are on your career path?

If it is his morals that make him insist that you quit dancing, than your morals are unmatched, anyway.

He's probably a great guy and you probably love his company, but these two issues alone tell me that it won't last.

Be true to yourself and the life that you are trying to cut out. That's what you started without his guidance. A good choice and a habit that you should continue.

Good Luck

Answer 3

Every university has a set of general education requirements, like English composition, science, etc. Then there are the requirements for your major. Some majors require certain classes that you can take whenever they fit in your schedule. Some majors have a strict sequence that you must follow - for instance, as a biochemistry major, I had to take calculus and general chemistry during the first year, general biology and organic chemistry second year, upper division bio third year, and finally specific biochemistry major classes fourth year. When people transfer, they complete part of their undergraduate education at one college, then finish at another college. Most commonly, people will complete their general education requirements at a community college, then transfer to a 4-year university to work on their major requirements. Far less commonly, people can transfer from one university to another. But once you have your undergrad degree, you don't need to transfer, because that means you already have a BA or BS. Perhaps you are confusing the terms "undergraduate" (bachelor's degree) with "lower division" (classes at the 1st and 2nd year level)?

Answer 4

hi,
well working as a dancer is fine for as long as you are happy with that...the kind of dancer although makes a difference when seen from a social perspective, what i mean is that a ballerina is considered a respectable artistic occupation where as a half naked dancer with around 100 men around her looking is not that respected.
I believe that if you do belong in that same category it is quite normal for your boyfriend to have an issue with that and quite honestly you will not easily find a serious person that will be totally ok with it!

Answer 5

Flipping Burgers (contrary to popular belief) is an honorable profession.

This is dealing with Customer Service.

Answer 6

yeah find a job and use your mind instead of your body-is the way to go. Better to make less and be proud of your job instead of ashamed. Look into the insurance biz or inside sales work--easy to do + better paychecks!

Answer 7

bartender, server, local small businesses are always good to work for. or even a bank, what are you going to school for?
you could look into interning or if there is a job connection thing at your school that hooks you up with jobs pertaining to your major....

good luck

Answer 8

How about Al Gore's campaign manager?

Answer 9

many delivery companies are looking for women drivers to fill their EEOC quota. In michigan you can drive a box truck with a chauffers lic. it is a 15 question test and 35 bucks to get it. good luck.

Answer 10

keep your job, if it pays well. if your b/f doesnt like it then ask him to source you another job that pays as well and is comfortable. if he cant then tell him that you cant leave your job!