Why are people intimidated by a?

Question

very assertive, articulate, charming and beautiful young lady. My history teacher says that I intimdate other kids and most of the teachers. Do they just want me to giggle and say stupid stuff such "like awesome" and "oh" all day? why is there such a stigma to being a smart girl?

I am 16, and rather spoiled. Thank you and good day.

I think you do Emawee, you are smart.

Victoria-I am glad you can relate to my plight. I say "good day" meaning "day" in the generic sense, as morning, afternoon, night are all part of the day. That's what they instructed us to say at charm school. Thank you and good day.

Victoria - I believe it's a 2 hour difference. So 10:16 in Texas is 8:16 in California.

Answer 1

Sometimes being assertive can be mistaken for being bossy.It can be intimidating to those who are less vocal or are less secure.I don't think anyone should have to "dumb down" to be accepted.I do think it would be better at school, and in the world in general if we did not feel the need to victimize others for being perceived as different. Remember we are all entitled to our opinions but we are also accountable for what we say.Take care.

Answer 2

Are you really being assertive or are you being aggressive instead? There is a big difference! If you are being assertive you not only care about your rights and feelings but other peoples as well. It's hard to imagine how anyone would feel intimated by someone being assertive.

Are you sure you are charming? The test to determine whether you're charming is whether other people see you as charming, not that you think so.

You say you are spoiled, that tells the whole story. People who are spoiled think that they should get their way and also that they have the right to be the center of attention. Other people usually don't like to be around people who act spoiled, they find them a pain in the neck.

There is no stigma to being a smart girl. Only to being a smart@ss, which it sounds like you are. Please forgive me for the pun as my Yahoo nickname is Smartassawhip :).

I'm sorry that someone spoiled you, they didn't do you a favor. Now that you are almost an adult you will have to learn how to act as if you weren't spoiled and become a normal considerate person if you want adult friends and a happy marriage.

My best wishes for you in your future life.

Answer 3

Ok, I've never really encountered anyone quite like that. I am pretty much everything on that list and more, which has caused me lots of problems.

Why do people get intimidated?? Simple: jealousy and fear of differences. Teenagers are always jealous of kids with more, and no teenager can handle a child who is somewhat different.

The only bizarre thing is that you seem like a somewhat "trendy" person. You keep up with popular music, television, and clothes, I'm sure, and that's what makes no sense. Most of the kids who have the fear of differences thing are kids who lack to keep up with these. But I assume, maybe incorrectly, that you do.

Anyway, you're a great person. Don't change yourself. And hey, since when did some intimidation hurt anyone?

By the way, I was thinking about it, and I was wondering if you all knew my name. Just a thought that maybe you didn't. My name is Victoria, in case anyone didn't know.

Good luck, Lori!
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Answer 4

It probably has something to do with your attitude. There is nothing wrong with being assertive, articulate, charming, and beautiful. But there is something socially wrong with acting too proud of yourself. You are intimidating not because you are smart, but because other people are uncomfortable with the overbearing way you portray yourself. What you should really be asking yourself is, how can you fix your attitude?

I don't believe you when you say you are "charming," because a charming person is by definition one who enchants everyone they come across -- not by making them feel in awe of *you,* but by making them feel better about themselves. A truly charming individual can make anyone feel like a prince or princess. You, on the other hand, are a princess complaining that the commoners don't appreciate you. Really, it is you who does not appreciate the commoners. Putting yourself up on a pedestal like that, it's no wonder that people are intimidated. You need to either step down from the pedestal or put everyone else on pedestals, too.

And you have to do it honestly -- bending down from a pedestal only makes people feel talked down to. Just like you feel talked down to by me right now. Wouldn't you have preferred me to speak nicely to you, to tell you that you are justified in your position up in the stratosphere? A charming person would have told you that a princess deserves her pedestal. I bet you that a lot of people are going to answer your question saying things like, "Of course you're wonderful! That's so unfair that people dislike you!" That's because they're charming, and I'm not. I'm telling you this because I was just like you when I was 16, and I was unable to fix my attitude, which is why I have so few friends now.

Now, it's your choice: continue to be judgmental of everyone ("Do they just want me to giggle and say stupid stuff" is pretty judgmental), and become a social failure like me; or become someone that everyone looks up to, not because you look down on them, but because you reassure them that they can lift themselves up to your level.

Answer 5

If you want people to respect you then you have to respect others. The golden rule from the bible, "Do unto others as you would have them do unto you." In english "treat others how you want others to treat you."

You don't have to be giggly and talk like a valley girl. lol Just look at them in the eye and talk to them kindly with respect.

I don't think people are intimated by you it just may be the way you come across.

My daughter is almost 11 and at times she'll look at me from the corner of her eyes or sigh while I talk to her. I don't like that. I am a person and when I talk to someone I like them to look at me and answer me.

You don't need to be a machine and say, "Yes sir." to everyone. Just treat the person how you want to be treated.

Do I sound to old fashioned? I am sorry. I don't mean to.

Answer 6

I don't know. People are funny. I get intimidated by people that are smarter than I am if they make me feel like I couldn't possibly have anything to contribute to the conversation that they don't already know all about. I try to avoid people like that.

People seem to prefer people that are more "down to earth" I guess, because those people are not threatening or "snotty".
Here's a question somebody asked about what "down to earth" means:

http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;_ylt=At.6IPz_SKY3naaoxci8zdAjzKIX?qid=20070106103318AAXRpV1

Answer 7

Ugh, I feel you. I am naturally very assertive, and was actually told that I need to tone it down if I want to survive in my college and career. Honestly, I hate to tell you this, but you need to play the game. Don't play dumb, but play nice. Don't insult people (even slyly--they always find out, jerks!) and smile alot.

You can still be yourself with your friends.

Answer 8

When a teacher is talking do you correct them or show off?

Answer 9

You forgot to tilt your head and gnaw on your hair.

Don't be an idiot, and if they're intimidated by you, then do it harder til they cry.

Answer 10

I agree with contrary ^^