I have been married for a number of years, and slowly my Wife seems to have lost all interest in me. I am at point where I think just touching her is repulsive to her. We do not fight at all, and there is no hatred. Its more like her “lust” for me is gone.
Do you think its me? Or she might be seeing someone else, or just been married too long?
2007-04-30 15:18:19 · 9 answers · asked by Duncan123 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Once you've been together for a while, the "lust" part of the relationship, which once came naturally, becomes more difficult to hook into. Have you talked to her about this and told her how you felt? Maybe she feels the same way. Once the issue is out in the open, then you can discuss reasons for this. I'm sure you'll get a lot further talking to her than to strangers on Yahoo. Good luck!
2007-04-30 15:27:00 · answer #1 · answered by Faith 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some women when they get married, go for the fusto-meaning they want to have sex all the time to please the man, but when they know they have you by the wallet or other things, that is when sex goes downhill.
I wish there was a law stating that all women become the proprty of theman and he shall do whatever he wants (within reason of course) to her whenever he wants and whereever he wants. And there is nothing she can say to stop him from doing it.
2007-04-30 20:58:08 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
she may be having a emotional affair on line with someone and all her lust has gone there. or you need to ask her what is wrong and see if you are not doing something that she need. Good luck
2007-04-30 15:42:40 · answer #3 · answered by celticdragon 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I went through this with an ex boyfriend of mine that I was with for a number of years. What happened with me, was that I found myself looking at him as my friend. I couldn't see the lust and passion for him anymore. He was always there for me, and a great friend. I started to look at him as 'just one of the guys' and not someone I was intimate with at one point.
Maybe you and your wife might want to see a sex therapist. I am assuming however that you have talked to her about this. If you have not talked to her, please talk to her. Get your feelings out. Maybe something else is going on that has taken away her sexual desire. She may be on depression medication and you don't even know it. Alot of medicines out there have horrific sexual side effects.
I hope things work out for you.
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2007-04-30 15:25:50 · answer #4 · answered by Leia 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That happens, you know after years of working , kids & stress...this is what happens. The more you have sex, the more you want it...the less you have it, the less you want it. try a new approche without asking her..hun want to have (sex). Try massaging her back, legs , feet and that should relaxe her and hey..who knows can turn out to be very nice after!! Try it!!
2007-04-30 15:30:41 · answer #5 · answered by ♥Gab♥ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe she no longer respects or "likes" you for whatever reasons.
women are funny about having sex with a person they don't respect.
i think you need to ask HER.... she's the only one who can tell you how and what she is feeling. that would be your best solution.
2007-04-30 15:25:49 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are marriage retreats at my church, that talk about this helping to get back to the loving feelings. Any catholic church can tell you about them or where to find them, and its a good thing--non demoninational. Or check your church. Good luck
2007-04-30 15:31:12 · answer #7 · answered by kim 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
she should have her hormone levels checked! Seriously!
2007-04-30 15:26:23 · answer #8 · answered by Nick Name 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
could be both.
ask her and stop guessing.
2007-04-30 15:23:58 · answer #9 · answered by Cher B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋