I was emotionally depressed which led to me being verbally abusive to my ex, and not providing financially like i should have. We have two girls, have been split up for a year and divorced for 6 months. I have been going to therapy for 9 months now for depression. I now feel so much happier than ive ever been, but i get upset knowing how happy my wife would be if we were still together. We talk on a constant basis, she has fallen out of love with me to some degree, though she has agreed to date, but she has made clear that she does not want anything serious right now also wants me to know she will treat me as if im anyother man. Here is the big But, she says she doesnt know if she will ever be able to trust that things will be different and that i can overcome my issues. She has admitted that in the past few months i have seemed a lot happier and more of the person she fell in love with, but she still doesnt know if she could ever trust again. So my question is... is it possible??????
2007-04-30 15:05:18 · 9 answers · asked by Miah 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Forgot to tell we were married for 7years together for 8.
2007-05-01 08:02:24 · update #1
apparently, you and your wife went through a lot because of the depression and other issues. it definitely takes time to heal, and if she is going to trust you again, that will take time to rebuild.
perhaps she doesn't want to relive the same marriage situation, with the same, old problems.
she needs time to feel more secure and rebuild the trust... then, take it from there.
meanwhile, keep yourself occupied with activities you like, spend time with family and friends... get out and socialize. dont' just sit there like a bump on a log.
take care.
2007-04-30 15:23:31 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That you can exhibit your spouse how you could have converted by means of doing the entire matters that she has been telling you from the opening. You can reassure her and be trustworthy. Which you can be a best husband. Lamentably, when trust is broken, it's so hard to get again. Your spouse is on the whole really damage and not definite about what she wants to do. I am certain she still loves you but looking to get trust again may be very hard and it'll take her looking to trust you once more and you displaying her you could be that character she at first fell in love with. I am not pronouncing it's over however just the commencing in all places once more. Good luck!!!
2016-08-11 10:26:08 · answer #2 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes and no. Personally, I wouldn't trust an abuser regardless. Talk is cheap and though I can appreciate your efforts to change, it would make it difficult to want to get back into a similar issue all over again. Make yourself better but don't expect that your old life is ever going to be your new life again. She may be willing to be friends given your past but really you should be looking to move on. If you are actually getting better, you should be able to understand her reluctance and do just that. Give her and your children that respect.
2007-04-30 15:15:15 · answer #3 · answered by dawnb 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes it`s possible, she said she doesn't know if she could ever trust you again....she didn't`t say she CAN NOT trust you ever again, she left the door open but you have to give her all the time she needs. Don`t ask for answer, work at gaining back her trust, there is no other way around it.
2007-04-30 15:10:55 · answer #4 · answered by Jane Marple 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are able to tutor your spouse the variety you have replaced via doing each and all of the flaws that she has been telling you from the commencing up. you are able to reassure her and be easy. you will possibly be a large husband. regrettably, whilst have faith is broken, it is so no longer basic to get lower back. Your spouse is possibly rather harm and not sure approximately what she desires to do. i'm confident she nevertheless loves you yet attempting to get have faith lower back is rather no longer basic and it will take her wanting to have faith you lower back and you exhibiting her which you will possibly be that individual she initially fell in love with. i'm no longer asserting this is over yet purely the commencing up all over lower back. sturdy success!!!
2016-10-04 04:21:31 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The mere fact that she has agreed to date you means that she is still interested in being with you. Take things slowly, impress her with who you have become, and you will have her back in no time!
Trust, however, takes time to grow. It has to be nurtured over time.
2007-04-30 15:18:10 · answer #6 · answered by LovablyMe 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes. Its possible, but only time will tell. Be patient and give her more space.
2007-04-30 15:17:31 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
not important that's why you guys aren't together pay your child support and make sure your daughters trust you
2007-04-30 15:11:07 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
when there is stil breath in your body there is still hope.
would i go to the bank on this one..... no way
2007-04-30 15:10:15 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋