My ex-husband and I have been divorced for 16 years. it was not an ugly divorce, and we always maintained a cordial relationship. We are thinking about beginning a relationship again? Would like some opinions.
2007-04-30 14:43:46 · 23 answers · asked by mo 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Take your time. If he always was and is a good man then maybe you should take it slow and see where things go.
Always remember, if it was meant to be it will be and to let things flow naturally. Don't force anything. GOOD LUCK!!!
2007-04-30 14:47:28 · answer #1 · answered by pinky5159 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Think about why you divorced.
At the same time keep in mind that a lot of time has passed and over time people change and mature.
If you two get along really well and both want to give your relationship another chance then there's nothing wrong with that at all. Maybe you were meant to be together but the timing was not right.
Go for it!
I mean, who knows maybe you'll find love again.
Good Luck to you both!
2007-04-30 14:51:31 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not weird, I think it's great you can still be friends.....or more? Basically 16 years is a long time, just go for it. I mean he's not a stranger, he was or was supposed to be your soul mate at some time. What have you got to lose? just don't make the same mistakes you made as a married couple, take it one step at a time and see what happens. It actually sounds like a soap opera! Can't wait for the next episode!!!!!
2007-04-30 14:50:55 · answer #3 · answered by Dannyboy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think this is wonderful! You fell in love once before....separated because of personal differences. Now that you are both mature and older, and you're trying to "get to know" each other again. If you do date, pretend like you are discovering each other for the first time. I wouldn't talk about anything negative from the past. Talk about fond memories that will make both of you smile. You just may find out it's better the second time around. Good luck!
2007-04-30 14:50:10 · answer #4 · answered by pep 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well 16 years is a long time but if it wasn't a bad divorce then I would go for it just take it really slow cause people change alot in that time.
2007-04-30 14:47:04 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My 1st husband and I are still friends. I just got out of a 14 year relationship. He is single. He has told me that he wants to get back together. But we broke up for a reason, and those reasons never change. Besides I believe in moving forward, not backwards.
2007-04-30 14:49:38 · answer #6 · answered by Teslajuliet 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As long as you take it slow. I would be very careful. You got divorced for a reason so you need to be sure that these reasons will not reappear in a relationship with him now. Have fun at least and see what happens.
2007-04-30 14:47:32 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go for it.
You have probably had time top grow up a bit and become more mature in relationships. However I wouldn't expect the fireworks that may have been there in the beginning of the initial relationship.
2007-04-30 14:49:02 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It isn't weird. But if one of you had issues in the past that resulted in the divorce, then the same cycle may happen all over again unless the issues have been overcome.
2007-04-30 14:47:41 · answer #9 · answered by Krish K 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i imagine that's bizarre that you both want to come again at the same time yet you at the instantaneous are not remarrying till he receives back from Iraq. Why? You both be conscious of that the armed forces advantages for spouses (noticeably medical) is surprising and well worth reclaiming in the previous he leaves. this may sound chilly, yet are you nevertheless his existence insurance beneficiary? If no longer, why? i do not comprehend the "waiting". Are you going to counselling?
2016-11-23 18:49:34 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you want to begin a relationship again, you can. Just be sure that you are able to work out the differences you had before.
2007-04-30 14:45:57 · answer #11 · answered by Stareyes 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋