I use to know this guy in high school and I had moved away..after ten yrs we meet again and we are both excited due to the fact that we went to school together.....he always talks dirty to me and tells me how I am beautiful...and tells me everything I want to hear..He just got married and I have been married for five yrs now.. He says he loves his wife but flirts with me..what should I do....
2007-04-30 14:41:48 · 20 answers · asked by sosoqueen 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Hi, sosoqueen. You really know the answer, don't you? Stay away from this man.
I'm wondering why you would even be considering doing anything at all with this guy, knowing that you're both married.
Are you not getting what you want from your husband? Maybe you need to talk to him about that before your marriage falls apart. Tell your husband, if he thinks you're beautiful, you need to hear that from him. If you like dirty talk, tell him you want that, too. But tell him that in bed, not while rushing to go to work! Tell him what you need from him, so you don't find yourself looking for it somewhere else.
In the meantime, just stay away from the creep who's betraying his wife and trying to wreck your marriage. Don't go where he goes. Don't accept invitations from him. If he calls you, tell him you don't want to talk to him and hang up. If you can't completely avoid seeing him, for example because he lives in your neighborhood, tell him to stop flirting with you and remind him that you're married. Don't respond at all when he does it. Even if you're enjoying it, don't let him see that. Walk away.
2007-04-30 14:57:15 · answer #1 · answered by OlderAndWiser 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he is married and flirts with you then he will do the same thing to you. Meaning, once a cheater always a cheater. If I were you I would not give him the time of day. I would find hate in the fact that he sneaks around behind his wifes back and flirts with someone that he could have married way back when. Enjoy your husband and let the past go.
2007-04-30 14:48:48 · answer #2 · answered by butterfly 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You would have to put yourself in his wife's shoes.
How would you feel if it was your husband flirting w/ another woman who was interested in him?
The fact that you're considering that you're actions could very well end their marriage says something good about you as a person. You are being faced with this temptation, but yet your hesitant. Aren't you happy in your own marriage? It could just be nostalgic feelings you're having after not seeing him for 10 yrs.
If this guy and his wife are having problems, you should step back and allow them to try and work things out, if that's possible.
B/c after all, they made that commitment to each other(as you did w/your marriage), so they have that right. I don't think contributing to their divorce would weigh well on your conscience, and it will also end your marriage. How would that make you feel-losing your husband? And how hurt he'd be knowing you cheated on him?
And I don't think you'd like to be in his wife's shoes if he ends up leaving her for another woman(you).
Seriously think about this..
Good Luck.
2007-04-30 15:06:56 · answer #3 · answered by (no subject) 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Step 1: You need to get away from him, he is married.
Step 2: You need to work on your self-esteem and your own relationship.
Any woman who feels good about a man, other than her husband, talking dirty to her is in obvious need of some serious esteem boosts.
Any woman who takes the time to talk dirty to a man other than her husband is putting energy into an unfaithful relationship, when she should be putting this energy in her own relationship.
2007-04-30 14:52:58 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Walk away. Stop talking to him. You will ruin not only your marriage but his, and the likelyhood of you having a successful relationship is iffy. He shouldnt be talking to you this way if you are both married. And if you acted on it, you will both be cheaters. Then, you will always have trust issues because if he is talking to you this way while he is married, he will talk to someone else this way when he is married to you. Stay away from him.
2007-04-30 14:50:00 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Get it together. He is married and obviously is and has done his wife wrong before and you will only get hurt. And you could potentially lose your husband. Don't give in. And think about what if your husband was in the same situation. What would you want him to do?
2007-04-30 14:50:35 · answer #6 · answered by pinky5159 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You probably don't really have feelings for him. You are just feeling flattered by his attention. All of us women like to be flirted with. He is just playing with you. He likes the reaction he gets when he tells you those things. Be a smart mature woman and see past it.
2007-04-30 15:01:25 · answer #7 · answered by I39 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's very inappropriate to talk with him like that. You're both married and it's disrespectful to your spouse to talk to another man in such a way. This can only lead to trouble.
2007-04-30 14:45:54 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
You do NOTHING. You are both married and it doesn't have to take a bunch of strangers on this board to tell you to do the right thing.
2007-04-30 15:01:53 · answer #9 · answered by Zsasha 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to pull your head out of your *** and stay away from him. it's b/c of homewrecking whores like you (sorry honey) that cause other women such anger and stress. Try this - don't do anything with him without his wife around. Oh yea, how about this - spend sometime with your husband !
2007-04-30 14:46:29 · answer #10 · answered by abby 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋