I sold my car when I was with my ex bf (we broke up 2 months ago) to pay for renovations to my house, to sell the house, so we could buy a decent house together. That didn't work out, so he let me use his car (he has another one that he uses every day), with the stipulation I had until October to give the car back. I have paid for the registration until Oct, I have bought new tyres and I am getting it serviced. There is a problem with the radiator, and if it is expensive to fix, do you think it is fair to ask him to pay for all or half of the repair work? The catch is that I know he wants the car back so he can sell it and get some money, I have decided that I am going to buy it off him, and I hope to get a good price as I know there is money that needs to be spent on it. Do you think it's sneaky asking him to pay for all or half the repairs if I know I'm going to offer to buy it off him (he doesn't know yet)? Keeping in mind that I am maintaining the car right now.
2007-04-30 14:25:05 · 13 answers · asked by dogcazza 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
OK, all confusion and past relationship set aside, there are two facts here that are relevant. 1. Honesty is the best policy. 2. Honesty is the best policy. ;)
I would go to him and say that you know he is considering selling the car, and that you also know there is work to be done (that your driving it did not contribute to -- if that's the honest truth). I would go to kbb.com (Kelly BlueBook site for value of cars), and see what a fair price is. Get an inspection, find ALL the things that might need attention (as you would with any used car purchase), and present everything to your friend.
I'm figuring you do want to remain friends, and want to also sleep well at night, heh. I'd have a fair (not overly fair) figure in mind, and ask him what he wanted to do. He might come up with even less than you were thinking of! The fact that he would have to do repairs, run an ad, meet with people, etc., etc. may not at all appeal to him. But I'd say the sooner the better for the discussion, so all is above board and decided. Best of luck, too!
2007-04-30 14:34:16 · answer #1 · answered by hllywdgrl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are using the car, you should be paying to maintain it. Be honest and let him know about the radiator problem, and ask if he is willing to sell as is. He loaned you this car, and it was your house that you sold your for. How much does he owe you? I think honesty is the best policy, if you tell him about the problem, and offer to buy it, he may work something out with you.
2007-04-30 14:37:13 · answer #2 · answered by lilly 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I suggest that you make an offer on the car now (with terms that permit you to pay when you can). Your intentions to get a better deal in the manner you describe seem selfish and lack compassion. Though he may be your ex, he's still a human being like you.
2007-04-30 14:30:21 · answer #3 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since you are maintaining the car, I would suggest that you go ahead and ask him to pay for at least a little more than half.
2007-04-30 14:29:47 · answer #4 · answered by lex_824 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it weren't for the fact that you two sold your car for a house,,and now that has changed!
I'd say,,,Don't be sneaky!
But that's not the case!
Your without because of a decision the both of you made, and then backed out of.
Your at the loss,,Not him!
2007-04-30 14:32:13 · answer #5 · answered by kudo452 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would just ask him now if you can buy it. I know it sounds tempting to let him pay for all or half the work, but remember.....everything you do comes back on you,
2007-04-30 14:29:19 · answer #6 · answered by abadgirlwithgoodintentions 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To ask for half is not bad, remember you could just give it back now and he would have to pay for all of it, especially if you don't have a written agreement.
2007-04-30 14:28:55 · answer #7 · answered by whatchamacallit 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why not? you can say you decided to buy the car much later
2007-04-30 14:27:44 · answer #8 · answered by brjacobso 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask him. As of now, it's still his car.
2007-04-30 14:29:29 · answer #9 · answered by Alice K 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tires...and if you like being sneaky and he doesn't care...go ahead and get him to pay for half...just remember, what goes around comes around...and payback is a b*tch.
2007-04-30 14:29:25 · answer #10 · answered by Chrys 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋