My husband is gone, my children are gone and I'm alone at home trying to patch things back together by myself. All I do is pray to God everyday that things get back to normal. But, it hasn't so far.
2007-04-30 14:00:10 · 23 answers · asked by 9BLESSINGS 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
praying is fine, but if all you are doing is praying, it's not going to work....you have to do it, one step at a time......God helps those who help themselves.....doesn't it go something like that....do you work? if not, get yourself a job, get around people; fix up your apartment / house; make new friends, volunteer at a nursing home....or the zoo....get busy....
2007-04-30 14:06:12 · answer #1 · answered by abc 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋
If your husband is gone permanently and so are your children your life will never get back to "normal" You need to make a new life for yourself. Volunteer with different groups, get out and try to meet people. I know that it is hard but you can do it. The longer you stay at home thinking about the past the harder it will be. You didn't say how old you are but if you are a Senior try the Senior Center, volunteer at a school or library. Volunteer at a hospital as a "pink' Lady. Everyday get dressed and at least go out and take a walk somewhere, say hello to the people you see and you will make a new "normal' life for yourself. God does help those that help themselves and not those that just sit around feeling sorry for themselves. Sorry if this sounds harsh.
2007-04-30 21:11:18 · answer #2 · answered by karen w 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You find yourself alone and praying to God. This is exactly where you need to be. This is a time for you to get real clear about what you want for your life, what kind of mother are you going to be for your children, what makes you happy, what do you need. Ask yourself , "What do I need to do to feel better". Spoil yourself get plenty of rest, play music, take long baths, spoil yourself, eat well. You have prayed to God so now you have to let Go and let God. Continue in your faith that God will enlighten you as what to do next if you can get still (by yourself) and listen. This is why you find yourself alone. We think that being alone is a negative thing. It can be the most empowering and rewarding time if you don't fight it.
Have you read The Value in the Valley, A Black Woman's Guide Through Life's Dilemmas by Iyanla Vanzant. I highly recommend it.
Keep ya head up your blessing is on the way if you just hold on.
2007-05-04 20:11:25 · answer #3 · answered by newyorktilson 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well first I'm sorry you're going through a depressing situation and I commend you on praying. I dont know why you are alone but I know that staying isolated is a big danger. You need to keep yourself busy in the meantime perhaps by giving of yourself to others less fortunate than you because yeah, there are worse situations out there. what is the saying, there is more happiness in giving than in receiving, and you'd be surprised at the serenity and peace you feel at making someone else smile. Soon you'll find someone knocking at your door or friends you didn't know you had (and not cuz you won the lotto either) but because you are a good person doing good things. God gives us common sense to care for ourselves and humility to care for others despite our trials. He doesn't take problems away(for now) but helps us to endure them. Hang in there, stay busy, and keep praying for guidance and comfort never forgetting the good He has blessed you with. I hope the best for you.........
2007-04-30 21:21:34 · answer #4 · answered by Hannibooboo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know why your husband and children are gone....but I understand you are in a lot of pain.
If you are a victim of this, seeking counseling and guidance from a pastor or priest will help you. Friends and family can be supportive, too.
However, if you did something really bad and that is why you are now alone, I'd say be brave and do what you can to repair the damage. Sometimes this is possible; sometimes it's not.
I hope you feel better soon.
2007-04-30 21:38:55 · answer #5 · answered by Nena S 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The advice I got once was to take it one hour at a time. Pray that you can get through the day, then take it 1 hour at a time. Set goals for yourself that are easy to achieve - going for a walk, cleaning a cabinet. That should make you feel better.
You can also try buying some inexpensive flowers for yourself and reading inspiring books. I am reading "The Secret" and I like it so far.
2007-04-30 21:08:17 · answer #6 · answered by Stareyes 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sometime thing happen with a cause,
maybe you're not ready for what you have at the moment,
it give you sometime to think thing over,
sometime it is something that you have done or doing that make everyone turn away from you, take a good look at yourself, what have you done right or wrong, how can you improve yourself and make others accept you, but bear in mind you do all these on your own and nobody have ask or force you. so don't expect anything in return, start off with the kids first, do something for them to win their heart and patch up thing, than go for you husband, one step at a time,
you willingness to patch up is already a first step to victory,
good luck and happy trying
2007-04-30 21:28:51 · answer #7 · answered by transformer 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know how long your husband has been gone, but if it's a recent split, you'll need a lot of time to get back to "normal." I take it your children are either on their own or in college and are pretty much independent now. That makes it harder for you.
Is there a support group for you to attend? That is one option.
Good luck.
2007-04-30 21:06:35 · answer #8 · answered by Juanitamarie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Reach out to your friends and ask them to pray for you and your situation. Keep having faith and be the best you that you can be. If you need to work on yourself, get busy. I am sure there are older ladies in your community who would love to help you. Get brave and make some calls. It is horrible being alone, so find people who can guide you with love and understanding perhaps at church. Keep praying and good luck!
2007-04-30 21:11:36 · answer #9 · answered by L S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need help with this one. Huge change can make you ill. Praying is great, sleep as much as you can, rest, eat small meals often, talk to someone you trust, keep to your routine of work and home and play if you can (don't isolate yourself or drown in self pity). Find a good counsellor/wise person and work out how to get through to a better space in your head and heart.
2007-04-30 21:18:35 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go to the mall, see a movie, relax with music at the park, talk a long walk, exercise or hang out with friends, if there are no close friends then make some new friends, save your money & take a short vacation or a long one.
do something for yourself and remember there is only one life and one you. Take care, take charge and enjoy it!!! Be true to yourself.
ANd last, Wait on the Lord, Be of Good Courage and wait upon him!:)
2007-04-30 21:28:02 · answer #11 · answered by Shonnie 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋