Are there any truly happily married couples out there???

Question

It seems that I always have people telling me to avoid getting married at all cost (I'm single) and they begin to tell me their "sob" story, always leaving me feeling uneasy and questioning whether there are any more happily married couples anymore, I mean truly connected (emotional, spiritual, physical connections) in love kinda happy marriage and not just one where it seems like a successful business arrangement of two people who happen to get along. Help, I need to restore my faith in people and the institution of marriage.

Answer 1

people are insecure. Its just the way it is. When you find that person you'll want to spend the rest of your life with, you'll know. My parents have been happily married for 48 years now, and still going strong.

Answer 2

I've know my husband since 3rd grade and we've been married for going on 3 years. We are expecting our first baby, a little girl in just a few weeks and I love him more than ever. We have a wonderful relationship and sometimes when I think about how lucky I am I can't help but cry tears of happiness. We had a rough patch when we first got married but it was just typical first year stuff. I truly believe we are soulmates and I can't imagine my life without him. Several of our friends comment on what a "perfect" couple we are. Don' t get discouraged by other people's negativity. Know that there is someone special out there for you and you will find them! Both my parents are on there third marriage (and still unhappy) and I thought I too would be cursed but I know my husband and I will be together forever. Good luck and when you least expect it, love will find you!

Answer 3

Well every marriage has issues there no doubt about that. If there aren't issues then someones in denial. Marriage is a decision to love someone for the rest of your life not till something better comes along. Even the best of marriages at some point one or both might wonder is there someone better? The thing you have to think about is there might be a better one but who knows and how long will you wait for this perfect person? Thats not to mean you settle for second best either. The thing with marriage is finding someone who is mature enough to get married to and truely loves you enough to put up with all your bad habits as well as theirs. The problem I see is people try to hide behind first impressions till they get married then you find out the ugly and their excess baggage. And once they see all the ugly stuff they shut down instead of dealing or compromising.

Things you need to bring up before marriage:

How willing are to stand by me and not family and friends when the **** hits the fan?

Do you want kids and how will you raise them?

Whos in charge of the finances and if you keep them seperate how long do you really want to be married?

Don't forget sex questions (because the hidden true behind divorce is sex causes as many divorces as finances if not more)

Answer 4

My husband and I met 13 years ago and we've been married for 8 years. It is the best life I could possibly have. We could never be apart and we will naturally spend the rest of our lives together.

The reason we spent 5 years together, before we were married is because we wanted to know eachother inside and out and become incredibly close in every way possible. That's what you have to do if you want to get married

Marriage is too excellent. In this day and age, it has a bad reputation, because too many people have ruined it. Don't listen to their problems about marriage and certainly don't cause one for yourself.

If it's true love and you are together only to make eachother happy, get married and live happily ever after.

Answer 5

I am very happily married. The key here is hard work. All marraiges are not perfect and never will be. There will always be disagreements from time to time this is healthy. You argue, discuss the situation out together, come to a conclusion and it's done. Life goes on and you feel alot closer for being able to talk through it and discover your not perfect and have flaws this is normal. Always listen to your heart in making those right decisions for you. Ignore all the other people out there telling you differently. As I said all marraiges are not the same.

Answer 6

Let me just start by saying if you have to take a poll before doing anything major in your life, you're already on the losing end. Who cares about other people's "sob" stories? If you know who you are and what you want out of life and a partner, you make your own story. The only path you can follow is your own. Do your homework. Make sure you are on the right path mentally, physically, and morally to begin looking for a marriage partner. Most people just don't unfortunately and they are always the ones to complain later how unfairly life dealt them. Take charge and know what you need and want before you jump.

Answer 7

I think the "happily ever after "is a myth. Ive been with my hubby for 7 years. We have had major problems and have managed to work thru them. We love each other. You really have to work at it. You have to TALK when things come up. Everyday is not a Brady Bunch show. You know you love each other so sometimes it gets taken for granted. I think love comes in waves. Sometimes 1 spouse will do or say something to make you fall in love all over again. Its really great!! Marriage is something you both have to want to make it work. Everyone wants that feeling of just falling in love. But when kids, work, money troubles come into it that feeling goes away. Thats when you need to find the strength to make it work. So many couples back out then. but once you get your problems ironed out it is well worth it. Marriage is great if you are committed to making it work!!!

Answer 8

Okay nobody is deliriously happy in any long term situation all the time. Define happiness. Happiness is where you find it. We have been married over 30 years. I am happy that he is faithful, loves me, works at a good job, is a good father, helps around the house, has a good relationship with his family and mine, is dependable, is healthy and in good shape,etc. What else could I possibly want? We know each other inside out. We are also not so stupid to think that the grass is greener on the other side because once you get to the other side, you are looking back where you were and hmm, the grass looks greener over there. So think about it. What do you want out of marriage after that long of being together?

Answer 9

Yes, there are plenty of truly happy marriages out there. Nowadays people rush into marriage way too soon, or choose their spouse poorly. Lots of people don't want to work on marriages either - first sign of trouble and they are out. Or they put all the blame on the other person without looking at how they are contributing to the problem. So of course you'll hear the sob stories. Choose better friends that won't burden you with intimate details of their failing marriages. There are lots of happy couples out there!

Answer 10

Well restore it! I am very happily married to a wonderful husband for 10 years now. We have so much love and respect for each other. It is one of the most rewarding things besides becoming a mother I have ever done! As the saying goes "To love someone is Nothing, But to be loved by the one you love is Everything"

Answer 11

I hate to hear people be so negative towards marriage.

I have a wonderful marriage. My husband and I have been together for years and have two beautiful children. We have been through ups and downs, better and worse and sickness and health. We are more in love today then we were the day we got married.

With each day and each event we went through together we have grown stronger and closer.

There is such a thing as a good marriage, don't let them get you down. Marry for love, marry for life.