A few weekends ago, I went to a party & I saw this guy I was involved with earlier this year. We started kissing & to make a long story short, we ended up back at his apartment. We were both pretty drunk, & I was on top of him, & he started pushing upwards to try to have sex with me, but I told him that we weren't going to. I kept telling him no & I kept saying we weren't going to, and he kept saying things like, "Why not? It'll be fine, come on" etc. I continued to say no, & he kept pushing for it, including physically trying to push himself inside of me. I don't remember if it went inside of me at all, because I was confused about the sensations I was feeling (because I was drunk & because stopped self-lubricating after an hour of hooking up & manual stimulation)...but if it was ever inside of me, I would have felt it, without a doubt, right? (I'm guessing I would because I've only had sex a few times, so I'm "tight")... And if it was, would that be considered rape? thanks.
2007-04-30 13:06:01 · 8 answers · asked by thisday.andage 1 in Health ➔ Women's Health
1) get tested for STDS
2) take a pregency test
3) Call the COPS
i'm sorry but he raped u.
if u need help call the rape crisis center (totally confidental)
2007-04-30 13:55:24 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, There are several things to consider. The moment you said "No," the line was crossed. It just needs to be clear what line. Rape is only if penetration takes place from (vaginal penetration) Sodomy is rectal penetration. Things to consider are that these crimes are hard to prove after time & bathing, showers wash away critical evidence that could prove or disprove your case. Rape can be categorized several ways, through physical force, mental force, even being blackmailed into sex, can be considered rape. You may not have felt being penetrated intially, but I suspect that you would have felt pain the next day if you had stopped lubricating, & he had forced an insertion. I do believe that sexual battery has taken place. But it really depends on the evidence & your testimony @ this point. If you can't remember what happened, then it's all about evidence. Find a local rape crisis center, talk to the professionals. There are other things to consider such as STD's. This is very important. They will have more information on the local laws, & be able to point you to the resources to get the help you need.
2007-04-30 20:44:20 · answer #2 · answered by Medic Kris 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Being under the influence of alcohol can make details about what happened that night fuzzy. If you were really drunk, he very well could have penetrated you and you not fully remember now.
There was UNWANTED sexual activity. You said no, no, and no again. Things should have stopped right then. This was sexual assault, indeed.
Please call your OB/GYN, let them know what happened, and make an appointment to be tested for STDs and pregnancy.
You can call RAINN (Rape Abuse Incest National Network) for support at 1-800-656-HOPE or get help online at http://www.rainn.org.
2007-04-30 21:38:03 · answer #3 · answered by Lilith 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What this guy did was really pushy and obnoxious and disrespectful, but no it could not be called rape since he did not forcibly have sexual intercourse with you - i.e. according to you there was not penetration.
You probably already know this, but drinking heavily and then kissing guys often leads to situations like you're describing. Women should be smart about what choices they make.....because choices lead to some unpleasant consequences.
Are you so surprised that he tried to have sex with you and didn't believe you when you said no? Getting drunk and making out say loud and clear to a guy "let's get physical" and "I'm letting my guard down."
You were asking to be taken advantage of.
Still it does not excuse him being forceful after you DID say no.
There's a very small chance you could be pregnant if some of his sperm or pre-ejac. got in you or near your vaginal opening.
2007-04-30 20:13:55 · answer #4 · answered by Veritas 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Rape? After YOU went back to the apartment with him? And after YOU got on top of him? At that point, it's human weakness...it's not fair to call it rape, especially when he's drunk and not fully in control. Or just learn to say "no" properly. Don't encourage him. Give us a break will ya?
2007-05-01 02:54:56 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
first of all sweetie you should have not been kissing him know that he was drunk. he;s a man and then ya;ll alone in the room. but anyways if u told him no its considered rape because u said no. and if this just recently happened obviously you'll didn't use protection so i consider that u should go and get plan b. so u wont get pregnant from this azz whole. plan b is a birth control that works up to 3 days after sexual intercourse. so if 3 days haven't pass go and get. unless u want his baby.
2007-04-30 20:14:50 · answer #6 · answered by gutkarina 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
well you said no so that is rape. Maybe you should trying talking to this guy. since you guys were both drunk maybe he was acting weird too.
2007-04-30 20:11:52 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would consider it rape.
2007-04-30 20:11:32 · answer #8 · answered by nicole 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋