Do you think there is anyting wrong with a woman NOT wanting children?

Question

I don't want kids, I don't think I will ever change my mind.

Bonnie, I couldn't agree more!

My husband feels the same way as me.

Answer 1

I don't think there is anything wrong with it. Just as long as the man you fall in love with and marry understands you feelings and doesn't try to change you.

You just have to be up front with your relationships about your feelings about children.

Answer 2

There is absolutely nothing wrong with your line of thinking and your choice not to be a mother. Its a very personal choice anyway and no one should be judgemental in this issue. I have two children ( now grown up ) but if I had married a woman who simply didn't want kids then I would probably have gone along with that as well. Being a woman doesn't mean that you have to brood or be maternal ... far from it ..... you simply choose to live your life in that way and that is fine. It is your choice, no one elses. I suspect that you feel you are being judged because of the way you feel and that is not right. If you have no wish to have children, then you probably wouldn't make the best mum anyway. Good luck!

Answer 3

I don't think there is anything wrong about not wanting children. It is a VERY big and life-changing decision.

( I know what you are talking about because I always felt that way...and my friends and mother's friends would look at me like : "You've GOT to be kidding! EVERY woman wants to have children!!!" )

I got married when I was 30 and had my child at 31. WHOA! (( Big surprise.... And I had all kinds of mixed feelings about it.
Fortunately, everything went well and everybody in both families flipped out with delight! Amazingly, I turned up to be a great mom...! But that was it. I had my tubes tied 3 years ago and felt great about that decision.))

I think you are brave and I applaud your honesty. Many people will think you are strange, or selfish, or whatever, but I personally think it's much better to admit this instead of having children because of other people's pressure.

A child is a wonderful gift, but not everyone should be able to have one.
It is not easy to raise a child and my heart breaks when I see all the unwanted children brought into this world by selfish and irresponsible so-called adults.
Good luck!

Answer 4

I've known all my life that I don't want kids and that will never change. I don't dislike children and strangely kids always really like me, but I'm way yoo selfish with my time to be able to devote at least 20 years of my life to a child.
They always say its the women that want kids, but in my experience, every single partner I've had its been him who has wanted to have children.
I always explain when I get serious with someone how I stand on the topic so that they know right at the start and we may have a relationship for a year or so, but right from the start you know its got no future because of the man someday wanting kids.
I haven't yet been in a relationship with a bloke who doesn't want children. I'm determined to find one, one day!

Answer 5

Of course not. It's better to not have children when the maternal instinct isn't there as it will only affect the child i later life big time. You have made the right decision, speaking as a mother myself.
My father was born maternally to a woman who had absolutely no love for him at all and it was her aunt who raised him and adopted him as her own. The cheeky so & so cam back into his life after 50 years and tried to live in his earhole, she even bought a house directly behind him and expected him to look after her having not seen him for over 50 years!
It devastated him until she died a few years ago. This woman hadn't got a maternal bone in her body.
Trust me, you have made the right decision.
If your feelings change you will know .

Answer 6

Absolutely not. I have a 26 year old daughter that doesn't want children. I would love grandchildren, but would never force that decision on her. I love her unconditionally, and she is a very intelligent woman. Works 2 jobs, and is heading for her bachelors degree. I don't think she will ever change her mind either. But I cannot predict the future, and have trust in her and her decisions. It is her life, and she is in control and is a very confident young woman.

Answer 7

There is nothing wrong with that decision. However, a woman is in the unfortunate position that if she changes her mind, she may later be too old to conceive. Men can continue to have children in their old age. So the question is whether you can live with your decision if you feel differently in 10, 20, 30 years' time.

We all change ...

Answer 8

Then you're making the decision that is right for you now....

Why sacrifice your independence for something that you don't want?! (Children)

You only have the open not just the local paper or national to learn that yet another child has died, due to neglect, abuse, starvation etc. Yet the parents of these children have other children whom are then taken into care!!! Yet these monsters keep having children....why???

You stand by your decision...you shouldn't have to justify your life and choices to peeps whom neither understand nor share your feelings on parenthood.

End of rant!lol

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Answer 9

As a man I don't think so just as long as you make guys you are serious about, aware that this is how you feel and also, if you find a guy who doesn't want kids either and then you do get actually broody, well then that will be a difficult conversation and decision for you

Answer 10

I find nothing wrong with a women not wanting children. Think of Queen Elizabeth the first. She was pressured to get married and produce an eair to the thrown. She wouldn't listen and didn't back down. She didn't want kids, and she never had them.

Answer 11

I don't want kids either, there are too many people in the world as it is and people like us are helping the world by not contributing to the over popullation of people on earth that is harming the planet.