I just received a call that from my niece's School Principal in Anaheim that she was denied a Inter-District Transfer due to her not making it up to par at that school and needs to start her HOME school in Buena Park tomorrow.
I'm accountable for her being under my roof and she is devestated to be moving from her friends (who are not a good crowd), so Im thankful for that but I was pretty pissed off and gave a "reality"speech. I told her how she doesn't need to justify her "rough life" and throw it away and to move forward. I see her lowering her standards to be accepted by her gansta "friends"and I don't want her associated with that negativity. She is such a smart, beautiful and very capable young lady to getting a higher GPA. She has shown effort since she's been in my care she had a 1.5 gpa and bumped it up this qtr to a 2.0 but its not enough for this school. Im pissed still but my heart is torn too.What would be the appropriate discipline in this matter and issue? Any one...
2007-04-30 12:26:00 · 6 answers · asked by anabanana 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
I did this same stuff when I was younger. At least she has someone who cares enough to get involved. The move will help im sure but them kids are everywhere. I'd sit down with her and talk to her about where her life will go if she stays on this path. Theres so many things that can happen when these kids think they are bad to the bone so to say. Theres jail and thats the lesser of it all she can end up seein somebody killed or even killed herself Let her know shes a great little girl the way she is let her know she is loved and show her. Tell her they aren't true friends if they don't like the true her and want her to change. Feel free to email me and I can let you know more squirrellchica@yahoo.com I know if I was showed more love or that someone actually cared for me I wouldnt have done the things I did. I ended up having to move states away to get away from it. Good Luck to you and ur neice I hope all turns out great for yall
2007-04-30 12:35:33 · answer #1 · answered by squirrellchica 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
A friend of mine is going through something similar with her 14 year old step-daughter. The girl is down to a 0.9 GPA for the quarter, and is resigned to dropping out and living on welfare her whole life (as her bio mom does). She put together a little "real world" assignment for her to do. She's having her look through the classifieds to see how much an apartments costs, then she's having her figure out how much it will cost to furnish it, and pay for monthly utilities. Then she's going to pick a car out of the classifieds and figure out monthly payments, insurance, gas and upkeep. Then she'll have to make menu of a weeks worth of meals and go to a grocery store to price out the groceries. She also has to figure out how much she'd like to spend each month on clothes, movies, and other fun things. Finally, she has to budget a bit each month for savings. After she has all her monthly expenses added up she has to figure out how much money should would make each month at a minimum wage job and how far short she'll be on her bills each month.
I don't know if something like that would help put things into perspective for your niece. But I would caution you against becoming a broken record with speeches because they'll ultimately just go in one ear and come right back out the other.
2007-04-30 19:49:10 · answer #2 · answered by Heather Y 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well i don't know if i would punish her as you said her GPA has improved, but unfortunately for her (at least) its not up to the requirements for her to stay at her present school. Other then suggesting what you think about her "friends" they are her choice. I didn't always see eye to eye with my mom on my choice of friends but she was usually right. If she can bring her grades up you to can then discuss about trying to get re-enrolled at the school in Anaheim for next school year (or at midterm).
Best of luck
2007-04-30 19:36:54 · answer #3 · answered by jalopina98 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Id say moving and not seeing her friends is enough discipline. If she cant get into the school you want send her to another new one (where she has no gangsta friends) and tell her to start getting good grades or u will send her to boarding school (that will scare her) hopefully she sees the error of her ways ans can get into the school she wants in the future
2007-04-30 19:31:10 · answer #4 · answered by ce_ben1 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Before giving the reality speech, again.Give her some quality time,and listen to her point out her pros and cons, and then express your opinions, being careful to acknowledge the progress, she has already made.
2007-04-30 19:38:07 · answer #5 · answered by Mzg2u 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Man oh man oh man. I really don't know what to say, but I send up a quick prayer for the situation. Hope things work out and she does have an "AHAH!" moment.
Love
me
2007-04-30 19:41:42 · answer #6 · answered by MamiZorro2 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋