I know my friend (girl) for 12 years now, two years ago I have left my wife and moved out, I had a number of flings, but my friend was always there for me when I want to talk, we can talk for hours, sometimes right through the night, We were a couple of time intimate. She has problems with spirits and can not stand me touching her as she is very touch sensitive.
I’m always there for her, and she is always there for me, I listen to her and her problems and help and give her advice, the last month I just got so tensed up not having sex with anybody, touching another person, as I spend so much time with her, and not dating for a while that just lost it. I demand sex from her, and set an ultimatum of not having sex I will no longer be her friend.
Well we have not spoke to each other for a number of days, I feel miserable for setting that ultimatum as our friendship mend much more than sex. Any Ideas on how to fix this.
2007-04-30 11:30:32 · 13 answers · asked by thunder_sa 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
tell her exactly what you said in your question and how your friendship is much better than sex. apologize and a lot and make sure you get it across to her how important she is to you.
2007-04-30 11:34:19 · answer #1 · answered by ahnmsc 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Did you seriously give your friend an ultimatum? That is rediculous! She doesn't need you in her life if that is the kind of friend you are going to be to her.
If you really need this person in your life than you better go apologize for being an jerk (and I only say jerk because this site will not let me say anything else) and then get on with your life.
If she wants to have sex with you then she will. If she doesn't don't push it! You push it then you are going to loose a friend who may be someone that means the world to you. But I guess that is worth losing to you just so you can try to get a night of sex...
2007-04-30 11:44:43 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I really think the damage is done. You probably made her feel like an object, or that nothing else you two share is important. The only thing you can do is try to explain yourself the best you can, be honest don't make up a lame excuse. Explain you want to be intimate with her and you were frustrated and you are sorry and you shouldn't have taken it out on her and respected her. But to be honest, if I were her, I wouldn't care. So you may really need to get creative.
2007-04-30 11:38:18 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
First things first, buy her a gift something that you know she'll like and then call her and tell her you want to call a truce. Explain to her that you allowed your penis to get the best of you and had built up sexual frustration that you took out on her. Advise her that, and mean it, that it will never happen again. Tell her that you hope you can go back to having the close relationship you had before. If you like her tell her and then pursue a relationship, but if you just want a booty call, maybe you should consider other women for that.
2007-04-30 11:36:13 · answer #4 · answered by cutie_pie28 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
SHE deserves much better than YOU. Real friendship isn't based on ultimatums. Especially for SEX. You are a real JERK
2007-04-30 11:48:26 · answer #5 · answered by mimegamy 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Call and apologized and then shut up, you've done enough damage already...
YOu also need to find another sex partner...never sleep with friends if you planning on keeping them.
2007-04-30 11:35:47 · answer #6 · answered by D A 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
thats just wrong.. the safest bet is to apologize sincerely and promise not to ask her to do that ever again if she doesnt like the idea..
2007-04-30 11:38:02 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her you were wrong, and ask her what would be her solution to your need for sex and physical contact.
2007-04-30 11:34:37 · answer #8 · answered by Your Uncle Dodge! 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dude, friendship is way better than sex. apoligize and tell her you are very sorry for this incident and it should NEVER happen again, ya hear?
2007-04-30 11:39:54 · answer #9 · answered by JJ's Advice Column 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you guys were just meant to be friends. Ask for her forgivness and just back of.
2007-04-30 11:40:33 · answer #10 · answered by Megan C 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋