I'm 18 weeks pregnant, married and I'm not in love with my husband anymore. He feels that it is mainly because of the pregnancy, but I don't. Any advice?
2007-04-30 10:18:47 · 15 answers · asked by sugar_n_spice1687 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
Since you are pregnant would you consider counseling? It's difficult to offer advice with such little info. But since you are pregnant, I really think you should try to lock back into what caused you to love him before you fell out of love. It certainly would be best for your child and a divorce / seperation is stressful and not the best thing to do through while pregnant.
Wish I could offer more. Good luck.
2007-04-30 10:23:46 · answer #1 · answered by c_crum 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that counseling is a good idea. Pregnancy can significantly affect your moods and feelings. I went through major mood swings while pregnant, so don't entirely write-off the possibility that the hormones could be affecting you. Women who have survived abuse also experience a lot of additional issues when becoming pregnant. Call and talk to a counselor about these problems. It might help you to realize that it can be a normal part of being pregnant. Not exactly what some people picture, but it is normal. A psychologist recently had a discussion with me about this, so it happens.
2007-04-30 10:24:59 · answer #2 · answered by Sweetness 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweetheart... don't burn your bridges...
Where you in love with your husband when you got pregnant? If so I would guess you are having a hormonal swing. Which can be very common for some people.
Talk to your OB/GYN. He/she has seen this many times and can direct you to a counselor who may help you both greatly.
What I mean about burn your bridges; is during this time that your hormones are changing preparing you for childbirth and motherhood, you might find in 12 to 18 months, after your hormones have returned to normal, you have completely changed your mind and realize you really do love your husband.
2007-04-30 10:25:49 · answer #3 · answered by ♥♥The Queen Has Spoken♥♥ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It could be your hormones, but you have to think about this: did you love him before the pregnancy? or was the romance already starting to fade before pregnancy? Hopefully, you did not get pregnant just to see if that would save the marriage. If you didn't, then you two really have to sit down and talk about it. Seek some kind of marriage counselor so that you can get a third person perspective.
2007-04-30 10:22:49 · answer #4 · answered by Jess 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have been married for ten years now, and there have been times where I wanted to kick him out, or leave...Then, there are the times that you are sooo in love with him, you dont want him to leave for work...Wait..There are the ups and downs.. The love will return...Also, treat him as though you are madly in love with him.. Sounds funny, eh?? Try it..Make him the best meal you can, tell him how wonderful a husband he is, etc...Fake it if you need to.. Keep this up for a few days and just watch the reaction.. At first, he may be really taken aback by the treatment, but keep it up and watch...
2007-04-30 10:33:08 · answer #5 · answered by Momto8gr8 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Pregnancy wreaks havoc with your hormones and your emotions, if you loved him before the pregnancy and this feeling has just come on now maybe its your body talking not your head. Only you know your heart and all I can suggest is really really thinking about any decision you make, talk to someone who really knows you well and I'll keep my fingers crossed for you that everything works out the way you'd like it to.
2007-04-30 10:25:43 · answer #6 · answered by tartweeble 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get counseling AND remember your body is going crazy so give it some time. Talk to professionals, not friends. Your friends could remind you of all of the bad things your husband has ever done to you. You need to be reminded of why you feel in love with him (and then created a baby) in the first place.
2007-04-30 10:24:31 · answer #7 · answered by aggiegrad84 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow...that is a very difficult situation...make the best decision based on what you value the most and what overweighs what...... what is most important to you? is abortion an option for you or not? are you sure you're not in love with him? how do you know? and so what if you're not in love? you can still raise a child together as an unmarried couple?
professional or alternative (meditation etc) counseling always helps!
2007-04-30 10:26:16 · answer #8 · answered by googlemaniac 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do not make any major decisions while you are pregnant! There is so much going on with your hormones, it may seem real, but after you have your baby, you will laugh about all the things you had going
2007-04-30 10:22:06 · answer #9 · answered by laura D 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Its the pregnancy messing with your hormones. Give it a rest for a while. Perhaps you need some pickles and ice cream.
2007-04-30 10:22:47 · answer #10 · answered by willberb 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋