I love my girlfriend with all my heart, and I know if I get rid of her or she gets rid of me, I will be so depressed and go through a withdrawl. I don't want to go through that. I know I would find another girl to love and care and have babies and all that, but I want to do that with this girl. She's EVERYTHING I look for in a woman. I recently found her texting back and fourth with some guy talking about giving him a bj, and going over to his place. I called the guy up and said if you want to be with her man, she's yours, take her. He said no big misunderstanding, just friends joking around, and she said the same thing. But she never told me about him ever before, and she said shes known him for 10 years, he says they met 6 months ago, he said they met at a burrito stand, she said they met in college. I think she's scared to tell me things so she has a bad habit of lying. What should I do, I love her so much. I want to be with her more then anything...
2007-04-30 09:40:46 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Everytime she is near, like down the hall, I can smell her scent. I can't go a day without being with her, I get jealous everytime she talks to another guy, and I feel like she lies to me so I don't get worried. I sound like a pussy, but I'm just a sensitive good hearted, trustworthy guy.
2007-04-30 09:41:43 · update #1
I am very sorry man. This is hard for you I can tell. First of all, go up to her and spill every bit of feeling you have for her. Tell her that you love her more than anything and that you would easily and readily give your life for her. Tell her that she is more beautiful than an angel. all of whatever you feel for her. Then, ask her about the guy again. Also, i used to be the jealous type, but then I realized when she told me face up that she wasnt going to leave me for some guy, I believe her, and she hasnt yet. If she really loves you, she will tell u the same... I hope everything goes well for you.
2007-04-30 09:48:22 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Trust me - you don't sound like a ****. The foundation of a relationship is trust. If you don't have that, then you don't have anything. You are right to feel hurt, betrayed and confused by your love's lies and half-truths. I'd venture to say that you even have a right to be suspicious. She has no right to be that way with you. If she truly loves you, she would not sneak around behind your back like that. I have many guy friends and I would NEVER joke around about giving one of them a bj while I was in a relationship. That's just disrespectful.
Sounds like you are so committed to the ide of her being "the one" that you are rendered incapable of calling her on the carpet for this.
If I was you, I would sit down with her and have a long talk about things. Explain how you feel. See if she'll come clean. If she won't, move on. It will hurt, but time will help heal.
Good luck!
2007-04-30 16:56:38 · answer #2 · answered by YSIC 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YOU CAN NEVER BE WITH SOMEONE UNLESS YOU CAN BE BY YOURSELF
you and her both need to already be whole before you can have a productive relationship. If shes lying to you know about little stuff and it hurts now save your self from hurting in the future if you end up married and have kids then it will be harder....the hardest things to do are to break up with someone you love and making a sacrifice so you you will be happy in the longrun and making decisions in our lifes now that wont affect us till later. ask yourself ...Do I really want someone to have that much control over my thoughts,feelings and emotions? I dont think you do and if she really was everything you looked for in a woman she wouldnt be lying or even joking about a bj what if it was the other way around and you were "joking" with a female friend about oral..... it wouldnt be too funny to her LOOK OUT FOR YOURSELF NO ONE ELSE WILL
2007-04-30 17:01:54 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you can't trust her then there's no point for you to be with her no matter how much you love her. Try to find out for sure if she is lying or not. If she is lying then why would you still wanna be with her. Even if you love her a lot and she means everything you have to learn to love yourself first n foremost and realize that you will be better of without her.... that is if she has been cheating. So start with trying to find out the truth and take it from there. Good luck
2007-04-30 16:52:50 · answer #4 · answered by heartbroken 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what you should do is just talk to her about it, sounds to me like you just dont want to leave her, but if shes cheating on you then you need to do somthing about it, you seem like a great guy, you need to just tell her you feel like she lies to u so she doesnt hurt you, tell her it just makes things worst, and she needs to just be honest because if she keeps lieing to you its just going to cause a big mess in the end, to only truely go back to being happy and the same way you were before u should just be honest about everything, and talk about it all.
maybe shes just not ready for a serious relationship, and even though that might hurt you alot, you should ask her if shes ready for a serious relationship, or if she just needs her space for now. it might hurt worst then any thing youve ever felt but if you love her then you would give her space to get her thoughts straight, IF that is what she needs, if not then just talk about the honesty issues
2007-04-30 16:55:27 · answer #5 · answered by Niki 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would sit down with her and tell her how u feel and if she is lying u can't get anywhere and it wasn't meant to be...goodluck!!
2007-04-30 16:49:27 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you might get hurt on this one, if she is lying to you, then i don't think you can trust her. if you can't trust her, then the relationship is doomed.
2007-04-30 16:46:16 · answer #7 · answered by Chrispy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋