If I had a baby at age 17, without knowing a thing about me ~ do you call me a HOE? WHY? Can I change?

Question

What could make me different? Why do teens call each other such terrible names?

I am just rying to understand why some people are so mean? AMY

I am 35 now! With 4 kids! Almost 18, 15, 8 and 7!

Answer 1

no, i would not.

Answer 2

I wouldn't call you a hoe...but I would call you foolish. At that age I'm sur you knew what a condom was and how to use it. and then to get pregnant again 3 years later. That's really very foolish because you were SOOOO young, but I'm sure I don't have to remind you. Honestly, I couldn't call you a hoe based on that, i just say you were a young person who made some bad decisions. Now, if each of your 4 kids have different dads... You might be treading on hoe territory. if you have doubts about the paternity of any of those kids...you're very probably a hoe. If there were multiple abortions from multiple men in between each child...you're definitely a hoe. But I don't have that information, and quite frankly I'm not the one to judge cuz even though I'm a guy, there have been times in my life where I could have easily been called a hoe myself. So, really, it's up to you. If you feel like you've behaved like a hoe, then you're a hoe...if not, then you're not. just that simple. And as far as changing hoish ways are concerned, you have to make up you mind that you're better than your hoish behaviors and you have to realize that you're only harming yourself when you do whatever it is that you're doing. And finally you have to resolve to stop it and lead a life absent of harmful, unhealthy, and unfulfilling sexual/romantic relationships; a life that would be more pleasing to God (if you're a believer).

Answer 3

No, I wouldn't consider you one, but some people are just mean. Teens today feel the need to put others down as a from of raising themselves up. I think is this why so many kids now days are so horrible and cruel to each other. Others just go along with the crowd in order to fit in. I also think it's rude, and mean how some of the people have answered you. You shouldn't judge anyone, especially someone you don't know. People altogether need to learn more respect and courtesy.


Just so you know I'm answering this as a fifteen year old that attends a public school, so I see this happen to people all the time.

Answer 4

Having a baby is not enough for someone to ba a whore, There may be circumstances that many people don't understand, specially teens cause they are young, so if you have a baby at the age of 17, most teens will think that you had sex with someone without marriage and so you are a hoe. But any matured person will think different and try to know what happened to you before judging you.

Answer 5

Amy, are you pregnant? Unfortunately, teens can be very cruel and while you should never take what they say personally, you should take a look at yourself and the image that you are projecting to the public. The way you dress or the way you act are two major factors you should be aware of. Most importantly, if you are happy with who you are and you're not hurting anybody, then don't worry about what other people think. Getting back to my original question, you need to go to a doctor and get the help of your family if you are about to have a baby. You're going to need alot of support. Yes, you absolutely can change. People change and grow every day. Good luck to you.

Answer 6

I had my 1st baby at 17 and i was fortunate to have some good friends who stood beside me and never called me names! I had my 2nd at 18 and my 3rd at 22 and the only time I had to deal with these issues is when I went in public! But I am 30 now and when I see a young girl with her baby I feel bad for her only because a baby takes so much of your time,time that you should be spending with friends and having fun! I do not regret having my kids so young but I did miss my prom and I just had the oppurtunity to go back to school and get my diploma. My kids are 13 11 & 8 now and I am more responsibile when I go out and do things! The most important thing is to take care of yourself and your baby!!

Answer 7

17 is really young to have a child. I would say 99% of the teenage population doesn't know enough about life to BRING ANOTHER LIFE into the world. I'm 21 and I consider myself too young and immature to have a child at times. I have been through A LOT of stuff in life that most young adults haven't and won't experience for many years and if at all. Hopefully if you are pregnant, you have a supportive family and still do what you want to do in life. Not only do you have to think for yourself now, you will have to think for a baby. Make the right choices and you should be alright.

Good luck

~Sarah

:o)

Answer 8

teenagers will always be ruthless to eachother, especially the girls.
just because you are having a baby doesnt make you a hoe neccesarily. i mean a healthy girl could have sex only one time and get pregnant. since when do you call a girl who has only had sex one time a hoe? and even if you have had sex more than once, if it was with the same guy every time, then youre still not a hoe.
as far as how you can change, well you didnt really describe anything so i cant tell you much, you didnt even say if you were actually pregnant or not.
but always be safe when it comes to sex. and remember, it is a misconception that girls should have sex witha guy to show him she likes him, or so that he will like her. cuz the guy will have sex with you, they are horny, what else can i say. it doesnt assure he will like you though, in fact he will more likely think badly of you. good luck

Answer 9

Ever heard the phrase "Never judge a book by its cover"...?
Well, that's important. Kids today automaticly look at the perosn and judge. No background check. Nothing. It's cruel, but its how they are.
Some people think it's "cool", yet others do it to bulley or are just plain mean. This is really a question that can't be answered unless you actually talk to someone that has or would do this type of thing...

Answer 10

Depends on the circumstances... if it was a result of rape, then I would definitely not think anything negative, especially if you had the dignity to keep it. But just as a result of fooling around would be something I would think would be irresponsible, especially considering all of the contraceptives that are so widely available. I wouldn't call anyone a hoe period, though. I think it isn't my place to judge people and I have better things to do with my life. Teens who call each other names like that are just spiteful and have nothing better to do with their time.

Answer 11

Of course people throughout life are going to call you names. Thats just something you have to deal with throughout life. Just from the questions that you are asking definetly shows that you have some insecurities about yourself. Perhaps questions like these are better to talk to with someone like a counselor. You are not going to get the answers you want from a place like YA.

Most teens call each other there names because they are jealous of a person or just want to cause some type of drama and get a reaction out of you. Dont let the names people call you bring you down. If you show them you are weak, they will thrive on calling you names.

There is no need to change if you have already had a kid. Just learn from your mistakes, and try to better yourself each day.