Thx for reading
its been 9years that i knew i was gay and 5years that ive been openly gay . and recently ive got satisfied with who i am and who i want to be .
with tht said , i want to tell my mom im gay , it will make me feel so much better and maybe ill even be able to handle a relationship with a man better .
BUT , im so scared ive tried already for the last three weeks and chicken out everytime
shes too far away for me too tell in person , so i want to ask how should i tell her , and is it normal too be scared ?
2007-04-30 08:43:28 · 10 answers · asked by 4ryan 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
i am a mother of 3 children and if anyone of them is gay i would still love them and respect them if your mom totally rejects you i would be ashamed of her not you as woman we carry our children inside of us for 9 months but fall in love with our children the moment we realize we are pregnant we take the best care of ourselves to take care of our kids before they are born be proud of who you are i am just startin to realize how big a deal sexuality is but at the same time there is more to you than just being gay and hopefully she can get beyond that well best of luck and take care
2007-04-30 09:05:49 · answer #1 · answered by giggles47532000 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it's normal to be afraid to share important news that you feel might adversely affect your relationship with someone as important as your mother. However, if you are indeed satisfied with who you are, and love your mother, you should tell her the truth. AND, if at all possible, MAKE the effort to tell her in person. Otherwise, call her when you know it is a convenient time for her to have a long discussion with you, and start with "I have something really important and personal to share with you and love you so much that your support would mean the world to me..." I am sure that she loves you so much that she may even already know in her heart of hearts this truth about you. Mothers are special that way...and she will continue to love you (even if it takes her a little bit of time to get used to the idea). Have faith in your relationship, have faith in yourself, and be strong. Good luck.
2007-04-30 08:52:20 · answer #2 · answered by kitkat1988 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Write her a letter. Explain why you couldn't tell her in person and MAIL it. So many people freak out and never mail the letter. If you don't feel strong enough to form the words let the letter say it for you. There is no shame in doing it by a letter. Many counselors will also encourage this as part of therapy. Best of luck to you.
2007-04-30 09:23:12 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's totally normal to be scared to tell your mum....
I wouldn't tell her by letter or over the phone though, it's better to tell her in person...
Maybe you can arrange to meet her in a restaurant...it's always easier to tell when there are a lot of strangers around...helps preventing that she would start screaming, put you out the house or run away...
It won't be easy but go for it, you'll feel so much better afterwards...
Good luck!
All my love!
2007-04-30 10:09:55 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it is normal to be scared, and I think that you should either tell her in person the next time that you see her, or write her a letter and then call a little bit later after she's had time to let it sink in.
2007-04-30 08:49:12 · answer #5 · answered by Rat 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Sure, it's normal. Probably the easiest thing to do (for both of you) is to pour it out in a letter. Give her the whole story, how long you've known, etc., and your hope that she'll continue to love you for who you are. Best wishes, and good luck!
2007-04-30 09:41:04 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Its freaky! the thing most people tell me is the same thing that I will tell you she probley already knows. Its definatly freaky however I went with the phone caues well were talkers in my family weather to write or talk depends on how she handles information so its your call cause you know her best.
Either way we still love and respect you; your always welcome here.
2007-04-30 09:06:04 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If she's far away, that means you don't rely on her financially, which helps a LOT.
Tell her. Just tell her. Be calm, be upbeat, be prepared. She may suspect already.
2007-04-30 08:49:30 · answer #8 · answered by GreenEyedLilo 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i would tell her. Have you ever thought that she may already know you are gay, but waiting on you to be ready to tell her.
2007-04-30 09:04:36 · answer #9 · answered by reznor5172002 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
your poor mother
2007-04-30 11:49:53 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋