Everytime my husband and I disagree about anything he runs and tells any co-worker that will listen to him. If they ask him what is wrong he will tell them we are having a fight and actually stretch the truth to make me look like the real bad guy when in actuality we are fighting about him doing this very thing!
2007-04-30 08:12:32 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
did I mention that it doesn't matter if it is a male or female, he talks to everyone! Then he barely talks to me about his personal friendships at work.
2007-04-30 08:13:30 · update #1
i have to add that I may talk to a close personal friend if I have a serious problem or my mother who wouldn't judge but not complete strangers at work nor every person that runs in front of me. My husband and I are having a problem due to an emotional affair he was having at his last job and now he has gone to his entire family and about 5 people at his new job and not only told everyone about our problem but made me look like the bad guy.
2007-04-30 08:25:42 · update #2
He is doing the same thing many women do regularly. So what is the problem?
2007-04-30 08:17:25 · answer #1 · answered by Sir Richard 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow I was searching for the same anserw as I share the exact same problem, only thing with my husband is he has personality that makes you just want to believe everything he says is true (I'm always the bad guy no matter what) and has many of stangers believing it as well. I'm alway's an issue I'm alway's the wife that can come to work and many of his close co workers/ boss immediately starts whispering amonst themselves and things grow uncomfortably quiet until I leave. His attitude also shifts from being loving and caring to agitated and passive when I'm around his work folk. We have a fight my husband text his boss about it behind my back instead of trying to work it out with me its like he wants no real solution in reality with me, just to have something juicy to tell his friends to always look like he is constantly going through it.Dont know what he is trying to justify but sometimes I feel like he wants to pick fights to have something to tell on me. Trust me at one time I completely fount myself comforming to him completely to prevent this from happening and he still found that one little thing to ***** about. Hmmm
2014-10-17 15:52:47 · answer #2 · answered by Kentuckygirl8713 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think your husband is trying to get some approval from other people so if they know what's going on with him, they will feel for him. It doesn't matter if its all the truth or half of it are lies, he still trying to make sure that his always right. Your husband do not think for himself, he doesn't know how to handle a simple problem nor a big one. His self esteem is so low that things that happened with the two of you or your life will be your fault.
My husband is and was like the way your husband is, but our issue is a bit different than yours. For so many years I put up with him not communicating with me, not showing his affection and passion to me till last year I asked him why, but instead of facing me and explain to me why he never, he went to his family, friends in church, joined the dating site, got involved with a married woman that he met on dating site. When I found out the adultery that he did behind my back and talking to those people that never knew me, I got angry at him and I told him that he didn't have the rights to run to those people that does not know me as a human being. I told him that he needs to leave the house, and I can't never forgive him for cheating and not respecting me.
How about next time that his in a good mood,talk to him and tell him that respecting others goes 2 ways, and tell him that what if it was you that run to anyone that you know and talk to them about him, will he feels good about being the talk of the town?? Don't let him run your life, you do deserve some respect and his not giving it to you. If he wants you to respect him as a man, he needs to respect you as a human being that do not deserve the emotional abuse...
2007-04-30 09:07:34 · answer #3 · answered by islandgirl06 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
and as a woman and wife you dont talk to anyone about whats going on? If not, then I say you have a right to request that he keep your personal life personal, if you tell others as well, thats the pot calling the kettle black now isnt it?
You should talk to him about this behavior as it isnt healthy for your marriage or his career. Personal problems should stay between the two of you, but sometimes a man or woman needs an outside opinion.
2007-04-30 08:19:12 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's got a self-esteem problem and is looking for validation and support from others instead of dealing with it between the 2 of you. Sounds like he's a "me" monster. That is really just plain disrespectful to you and your relationship. Most people that do things like that don't realize that they are just making themselves look bad....dont worry. Not that strangers matter anyway - but anyone with insight will look down upon him, not you.
2007-04-30 08:20:36 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I guess he doesn't have a close friend outside of work to talk to. You need to get him to stop talking about your personal life with co-workers, it's not a good practice. Sounds like he wants the attention from them. Tell him you will now talk to his family and tell them all about what he does.. maybe that will zip his lip!!
2007-04-30 08:19:55 · answer #6 · answered by mayihelpyou 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
A Man like myself does not go around discussing something personal like that about your marital affairs to people at work.
He should learn to be a Man and keep his mouth shut. Now if there is a problem and he wants to confide in someone, it should be of one with a great repertoire.
He also should confide in you since your his wife.
Now you want to learn why he does thigns like this and it is obvious that he neds to grow up alittle bit more Thank You!!
2007-04-30 08:20:42 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hey! My husband does (DID) that very same thing! I figured out by talking to his co-workers that it made him feel like nothing was his fault and he could justify the fight if he could make people believe everything was mine. UNTIL.... they met ME! They would tell me " Your nothing like your husband describes" It`s a big ego thing for them. Men like this don`t like to take the blame for anything that goes wrong in a relationship.
2007-04-30 08:24:14 · answer #8 · answered by MISTY 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had one the same,weird ,I know,I would say that's our personal,private life ,it has nothing to do with work,you are embarrassing yourself.I think they must like or be addicted to sympathy,maybe they think they can sit on there pity pot at work and have to do less!
2007-04-30 08:21:00 · answer #9 · answered by RAINBOW 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like a girly man.
2007-04-30 08:16:58 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋