What would you do if your entire family were killed in one day?

Question

There was a woman and her three children ages 7,6,and 1 killed in a car accident last week near my town. I sa a picture of her with her husband on the news and couldn't imagine how he felt. I don't think I could I could go on after something like that.

Answer 1

Easter a couple years back a tornado came through and destroyed a guy's house near where I live. His wife and 3 sons were killed. It's only been 2 years and he's re-married and has a little girl. It's nice that he's happy and all, but 2 years is quite fast. I don't think I could get over something that traumatic so quick..

Answer 2

I can speak from experience... direct experience. I grew up under a dictatorship and for the first 13 years of my life was exposed to government soldiers who indiscriminately took lives, maimed, injured, raped and took from us. This went on for decades and continues to this date.

While the details are many and retelling the story is emotionally draining, what I can tell you is that a huge vacuum is left... there is always a vacuity of spirit, a missing part if you will, a sense of never having lived completely now and a hunger that is never fulfilled, a deep seated abandonment, a weeping and mourning as opposed to mere crying, within all of my being. I always wonder what my life would have been like if my family was with me now.

And I wonder... and ask my Heavenly Father, the Holy One, why I had to see these things... why was it important that I experience and know these things.... how can I pray and say I love a Heavenly Father who watched as my family suffered and suffers. And in the end, I know only that we are promised life, nothing more, and that at some point a conversation will need to be had between myself, my family, those that suffer still and God. And there will be questions, many questions, about the distribution of pain, why some groups and people suffer more than others... why some suffer for centuries and suffer in way few others ever do.

So, in the end, there is pain, hope, loneliness, a deep sense of loss, a vacuum, feeling of abandonment... there are no longer words, only images, feelings, smells, sights and sounds. Finally, the remaining "gift" of these memories has been severe PTSD.

Answer 3

I don't know either. In a way I think I'd just get on a plane and fly to a different country and block it out til I could deal with it. I'm just so thankful that my family is safe.

Answer 4

If my entire family was killed in one day... I'd call my grandfather who lives in Texas to come and get me, then cry my eyes out for years, possibly commit suicide.
But I'll not dwell on that.
Happy!

Answer 5

I don't know how people carry on when their entire worlds have been destroyed. I just wish that man the best and I hope that he has friends and other family who can help him with his loss. I hope that no one else has to face that.

Answer 6

wow, he's in my prayers, thats pretty tough but you'ld have to pull yourself together and go on with life but never forget them! but remember that since his kids were alll under the age of understanding they'll be in heaven waiting for him!! ^^ so hope he's a Christain and his wife was too they'll be together soon!!

Answer 7

I believe I would be totally out of my mind in grief and probably would never be able to adjust to life again.

Answer 8

Go into shock and let some social worker make my decisions for me and get me help.

Answer 9

That's sad. That poor man. That would really upset me and make me feel depressed if that happened to me.

Answer 10

I can't even imagine losing my son...I would just shut down, cease to function.