I am in my new home with my new partner. I have lots of nice things from my previous marriage (pearl necklace, some nice crystal pieces for holding jewelry, a shoe rack that the prior husband made me for example).
I have mixed emotions on weather to just put these away in a box or to keep them out and use them. They do hold some sentimental value. I am just questioning if it is illogical when something is nice and useful to hide it away just because of who gave it to you. Any feedback is welcome.
2007-04-30 07:07:33 · 10 answers · asked by peace over power 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I think that you should use them, not only becuase they are practical and you need them; but also because of the sentimental value. Although the marriage didn't work, it's not fair to just hide those things, becuase when you recieve them they were given out of love and respect.
As for your new partner, if he really loves you, he will not mind. Your marriage is a part of your past, and although it did end in divorce, it still was a huge part of your life. There's nothing you can do to change that, and it's absurd to assume that if you get rid of few things, your association with your ex-husband will cease to exist. You should keep them just out of respect for your past.
2007-04-30 07:18:00 · answer #1 · answered by slavica_amun 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know how recent your "recent" is, but you shouldn't be moving in with someone so quickly after a divorce. By the time you're ready to have another relationship you'll already know the answer to that question.
I kept my wedding rings from my first marriage and gave them to my son. I never kept them out, they were in the safe. No need to make my current husband wonder.
The shoe rack is just a shoe rack. It doesn't matter if you use it or not. If it is traumatic for you to look at it, just burn it.
If you feel uncomfortable wearing jewelry from your ex, then sell it or give it away. That simple. If you aren't reminded of your ex, keep it and wear it. If you are going to get all misty eyed every time you take it out of the box, simultaneously telling your new "partner" how much you miss the old partner, then do yourself a favor and throw them out.
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2007-04-30 14:14:03 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
look, they have a sentimental feeling but if they are useful and logical keep it in your life. there's no hard feelings remembering a time that was good in your life, as long as you aren't dwelling on it or shoving it in your new partners face. embrace your past and be considerate and tasteful in your judgment. ie. if your new partners says no to his shoe rack understand his feelings and be able to say ok. don't get rid of the pearls r the jewelry, they have value and could be passed down.
2007-04-30 14:15:05 · answer #3 · answered by spadezgurl22 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
everyone comes with a past..pictures of your ex put in a box for just you. Do not throw them away. The things from your past...use them..unless its an engagement ring.
Stop worrying...guys are not like that..they aren't as sentimental as we are.
2007-04-30 14:13:00 · answer #4 · answered by debbie2243 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If the items are useful, then use them.
We all have items from past relationships that are floating around the house. And unless these items are in a shrine of sorts, then I could see there being a problem.
2007-04-30 14:16:06 · answer #5 · answered by Ella 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Answer has more to do with what your new partner
will think ... if he or she is going to freak out, then
you should probably sell them.
Hiding them is only keeping around a land mine
to explode when it is least convenient.
2007-04-30 14:11:26 · answer #6 · answered by Elana 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go ahead and wear your jewellry - just not constantly. Use your shoe rack - but keep it in the closet.
2007-04-30 14:11:20 · answer #7 · answered by laughingbadger01 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Materialistic things are of value to you so keep them.
Just because your divroced doesn't mean that you must destory things that were goiven to you. That would be childish.
2007-04-30 14:11:13 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i have a neclace from a past love, I still wear it, not because it was from him, but because i love the necklace
use your things
if your new partner does not understand, then explain to him your reason for using them
2007-04-30 14:23:42 · answer #9 · answered by lissa_marye 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Those are your belongings! Use them!
2007-04-30 14:10:17 · answer #10 · answered by Starla_C 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋