Do you believe the obedient behavior of a woman is important?

Question

When my husband comes home from work, I never let him see me in sloppy looking clothes and or my pajamas, my hair is always brushed and styled nicely. Never does a complaint come out of my mouth; I prefer to discuss it with him instead.
The meal is always on the table unless otherwise decided; somedays we order out. I never allow him to help me with the housework and or help raise the kids; though he is a wonderful dad. I go out of my way to do these things for him as I belieive it is my honor and pleasure. I am always at the ready to do as he would have me to do.

I am not a doormat until I say I am a doormat. I say I am not a doormat; therefore I am not.

Edit: MOM... I am dead serious.

edit: theartis,
Oh I assure you that I am strong; stronger than you will ever know.
No worries about me alright?

Answer 1

Aaaaah. You sound like the June Cleaver, Caroline Ingalls, Proverbs 31 woman I WANT to be! If this is a serious question, then I commend you for your efforts, and you will be well-praised in the "city gates." If this is a tongue-in-cheek question, then shame on you for joking about the kind of woman who truly desires to be a selfless blessing to her hubby!

To answer the actual question, yes, I believe a woman's obedience is very important. Not her subservience, but her obedience. They are two different things. The man is head over the wife, just as God is head over the church. Wouldn't it be silly if the church said to God, "You want me to do what? I don't think so!" Likewise, it's just as foolish for a woman to say that sort of thing to her hubby.

Many blessings!
MomWtrmn

Answer 2

If a man is going out and making a living to support the family and is able to do that, then it is possible for a woman to stay at home with the kids that is her job to take care of the house and the family. If she works and he works then it is a mutual responsibility. If she works and he doesn't work then it is his responsibility. Yes I believe partially in this, but I am not and never will be a fancy person with strict rules to follow. Whatever flows the most natural for me is what is best. If he can't love me no matter what then why would I love him if he can't help me why would I help him? To say that we always have one set of rules and expectations is a phony life, it is a plastic stick figure life.

Answer 3

I don’t see anything you said as being “obedient”. You are how you are, and you like to do the things you do. If you are happy serving dinner every night, and taking care of the kids, then I don’t see any problem.

Some people probably think you are a little extremist, and I myself think that too. But if it makes you happy, then I don’t see any problem.

Of course, you didn’t give details about the relation and your husband. If he is the only one working and bringing money home, then is very nice for you to be like you are. But if you also work, then I think you should leave some “duties” for your husband as well.

Either way, what is really important here is to be able to communicate with your husband. Don’t assume he is happy. You need to be sure he likes things as they are, and at the same time, always try to “balance”: the equation, meaning, you both should share everything, including obligations. As I said, if he works and you stay home, then is good to assign duties to each, like he works and brings money, you keep the house and take care of the kids, etc, etc.

But always make sure you both know what the other like, dislike, and always try to be happy. If any of you don’t like something, it needs to be said, and together work it out.

I personally admire your dedication. I hope your husband appreciate you and what you do, and hope he sacrifices as much or more for the family as you do.

Answer 4

I think it's awesome that there are still women out there who are obedient to their husbands. My grandma and I always have the discussion that we should've switched places in time. I would love to have been a part of the 1950's. What you're describing sounds like the ideal wife/family. I'm going to work to acheive this in my upcoming marriage. It will be a little different though because both my fiance and I have full time jobs. The thought of dinner on the table by 5pm isn't a realistic one for us. But I do like the points you've brought to light.

Answer 5

Obedient behavior is very important. What you are doing however, is honoring your Husband... unless he has asked you to do these things. If he has asked you to be as you have written, then you are being obedient, and deliciously so for him.
Obedience is doing as you are directed by the head of the household, even when you disagree, you are submissive to his will, and his role. He on the other hand, must accept the responsibility and consequences of his decisions, AND, your actions in accordance with his direction. It sounds like you are both doing well. You are a jewel in his crown.

Answer 6

I think "obedient" is something each couple needs to decide the meaning of for themselves.

My husband refused to let me promise to obey him.

However, when it comes to making important decisions, if we disagree, I tend to defer to his judgement, as I feel that SOMEBODY needs to take the lead when there is no agreement, and I feel that in general he has the better judgement in those matters, not because he is The Man, but just because he is better at that than I am.

Our marriage vows were to Love, Honor, Cherish, and Trust. I trust him to make the right decisions. He trusts me to let him do so when necessary. And I trust him to let ME do so when necessary.

Answer 7

I believe you are the picture of the "Proverbs Woman" and my husband and I both salute you. I am working on doing those very things. We don't have any children together (this is the second marraige for both of us), but I am working on the rest. That is a goal I believe all women should have. If you enjoy doing those things....Great!

Don't let anyone tell you otherwise. Women are to be "Helpmates" to their husbands and the house (and ALL in it) are the woman's responsibility. I have been tought that if you treat you husband like a King...He will treat you like a Queen. Mine does, and I hope yours does too. Other women who don't agree, don't know what they're missing.

Stay strong on your convictions and Good for you!!!

Answer 8

For some women that may seem to the extreme. Me personally I tried that and I became very unhappy because I was raised that 2 people should share marriage and family responsibilities equally. But I feel like if you truly enjoy doing these things and you are comfortable in this role...then who are we to say it is wrong. If your happy why try to fix something that is not broken? I just hope that he is as good to you as you are to him and appreciates your efforts to make your marriage comfortable and loving.

Answer 9

If you enjoy this life and don't have any complaints, that's wonderful! You are a very traditional lady and your husband is a lucky man.

Answer 10

Ha! I did the same for my fiance. He just cheated. Men do not want a doormat who caters to them. They want a strong, confident woman who takes care of herself and is good in the sack.