Why do alot of women (not all) get mad?

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about their significant others going to strip clubs?

and how manby of these women have visited a club to see what it is like?

Hey Freed - FYI - studies have shown that access to "pornography" has contributed to the decrease in rape/incest/assualt crimes.

Cheers and have a nice day!

Answer 1

let me answer that by asking you a question:

If your gf or wife wanted to go to clubs where they had men who danced around nearly (or completely) naked, squatted over her and did the "grind" into her, sweating and panting over her for hours at a time, would you be okay with that? Honestly? Your male ego wouldn't suffer at all? And would you want to see your hard earned money going there? Are you okay with her spending money the two of you could be using together, by stuffing it down some other guys g-string?

Let's take that a step further. How would you feel if you went in there and saw your mother, girlfriend, wife, cousin, sister etc.. in there dancing around with dozens of men watching? Or worse, giving someone a lap dance?

What bothers me about those places is the double standard that takes place. It's supposed to be okay for guys to go there and leer and drool over the women. But if they are honest with themselves, theywould admit they don't want the women they love in their lives working there. But those women dancing are SOMBODY'S daugthers, mothers, sisters, cousins, granddaughters, wives, etc... Would you be comfortable taking one of those women home and introducing her to grandma?

As a woman I can tell you MY feelings on the subject. I don't speak for all women but here is what I feel.
If my husband went to those places, I would feel like he did not find me attractive and that he was looking to be "excited" outside of our relationship. I would make me feel like I was not woman enough for him and I would be hurt by that. It doesn't matter if that was the case or not. What matters is that this is how I would FEEL. Since he respects me, and loves me, he is willing to avoid those kinds of places. When you are in a relationship, you should put the feelings of the other person head of your own. If your significant other is bothered by this, then you shouldn't do it. If you do, then that speaks volumes about you as a man and your integrity.

And you are incorrect. There are significantly more statistics that show men who commit acts of violence against women almost ALWAYS engage in some form of pornography viewing and/or self gratification wether it's strip clubs, magazines, video or internet. Sooner or later, looking at it isn't enough. Either what they are looking at fails to arouse them so they need see something more "extreme" or just looking is not enough and they need to "participate". Eventually, then want more.

I think the underlying concern for most women is just that. That eventually, just looking won't be enough and you will want to "touch". Statistically speaking, there is a good chance that this will be the case.

(yes, I've been. It's gross. The men in the audience are like lions on the Serengeti waiting for prey.)

Answer 2

I have to agree completely, with Freed and Teacher. If you really do have a solid relationship, there is no need for either partner to visit such places. Its actually a slap in the face to your partner to go there, its like saying your not hot enough so I'm going where the Men/Women are hot. The excuse that access to such trash reduces rape and incest is total bull. Married or hooked up people can go home and have sex with their partner to release the pent up desire from watching such shows. But the rest of them have only two real choices, Rosie or attacking someone.

Answer 3

I personally don't care if my man goes to a strip club as long as he tells me that he's going. I think the main thing is that many woman get mad because they feel excluded in the where. Oh honey going to the club with the guys, but didn't say which club. I've been to one just to see with my guy and it wasn't bad. And yes there was a lot of women there just to be there too. You'd be surprised that you as a woman would get more attention from the dancers than some of the guys. And yes some women are offended that he's at a strip club -- they have insecurities and trust issues. If it gets him riled up and I get the action afterwords I really don't care.

Answer 4

I have been to strip clubs, several times, and have conversed with men (and women) that frequent them. A LOT MORE goes on than just stripping. For example cunnilingus during lap dances. That's why they get pissed about their men going to clubs. And the fact that they're spending money on other women that could be better spent on them.

Answer 5

First, you have to step into the shoes...women are bombarded shortly after birth with the marketing exploits of "look good"...and given standards of impossibility to go by...

Now, you want to go to a place where she imagines beautiful near-naked women dancing before you (and this is a truism), and wonders "what's wrong with me? Am I not enough?" "Why does he prefer there to here with me?" etc. etc. etc. It becomes a confidence shake-down.

I, personally, have gone to these places myself (I am woman), and do see how you guys enjoy the atmosphere...it is very much man-space, and I have to say, some of those ladies are very good at what they do! And I love that you bring that horny home where it belongs! But that's just me...

Maybe a little understanding on her part would quell the anxiety a bit...take her out to one of your clubs one night...not for a whole night, but a pitstop kind of thing...make it a surprise...let her see what you see...and remind her in every instance that you know where home is, that you love her, not them, and this is just a guy thing...something you enjoy. Hope it works!

Answer 6

Porn and strip clubs are slightly different. I believe porn is a insult to women. I don't think it's any good for young men to view women as sex objects. I do think men wanting to view women naked is pretty normal. As long as it's in good taste. That's where the debate lies.

It's the commitment, the respect, and love that make for great relationships. Married men that have these three things don't visit places that might embarrass their wives.

Answer 7

Because it is disrespectful. There is no reason for my boyfriend to go to those places. He has whatever he needs with me.
There is no reason for a woman to disrespect her self in that manner.
Why do I need to visit a club? There is nothing there for me but to feel sorry for these woman that are selling their bodies for money. This is one of the reasons that we have so many problems with rape, molestation and abuse towards women and little girls.

Answer 8

I've visited these clubs. I've had friends and enemies who have worked at these clubs. There are VERY few I would want my Hus going in. I'm fortunate, he thinks strip clubs are dumb, anyway.

Answer 9

I'd only be upset if he went behind my back. If he told me that he was going to one for a guys night out, that would be perfectly fine. As it is, I went to a male strip club for my best friend's birthday. I told my guy about it and even gave him some of the details of the night. He was perfectly fine with it. He thought it was amusing.

Answer 10

Because the significant other is paying a half naked woman to grind on his lap? lol.