Does anyone have any advice that can help me?

Question

I 've asked questions like this before, but no one has given me advice that I can use.
I'm not ok living my life. I'm tired of it. I want to believe I can fix it all. But I doubt it now. I don't know what exactly happened, but I lost everything I thought I was. This year was important for school. I messed it up completely. I wanted to be a doctor since the 2nd grade. I don't care any more. But school use to be part of who I was. My Mom is so disappointed.
I knew it wasn't normal for me to be as unhappy as I was. I told my Mom. She says it's all in my head.
I went to therapy once. I didn't like it.
I was falling and I asked for help. No one wanted to help me because no one really cared.
If I wanted to die, I would be dead already. I've seriously consdered it. But I can't. I don't know what to do.
Keep in mind that there is no one for me to tell. No guidance coucelor, no other family members, no real friends. Everyone thinks this is a joke.

Answer 1

Hi, Moe, I think I've read one of your similar questions before, and I actually gave you advice. I'm sorry to hear that you didn't find it particularly useful. I'll try again.

I'm assuming you're still quite young, in high school or college maybe. First, let me assure you that it's quite normal for a young person to suddenly feel this way, like nothing matters and like all the things you used to care about are now somehow unimportant. I think it's because as we grow up, we start to see things in the world that take away from the original magic and optimism we once felt as children. I'm sure that since 2nd grade, you have looked forward to being a doctor, with much enthusiasm for helping people and saving lives. As you've progressed through school, however, I'm sure you've come up against quite a bit of adversity, with people constantly telling you how hard it is to become a doctor, how much money, effort and time goes into getting an MD, etc. Or maybe you took a class in school that was geared toward preparing you for a medical career and you didn't do well, or it wasn't what you thought it was going to be. Believe me, I've been there! I wanted to be "famous" so bad when I was young. A singer, an actress, a model- I didn't care as long as it got me well-known by millions! I used to even go on auditions, and had a few promising opportunities. However, once I got a more intimate view of showbiz and what would be expected of me (or, more accurately, what I'd be giving up in order to follow my dream) I realized that fame wasn't where it's at for me after all. I was lucky to have a very supportive family who loves me no matter what I decide to do in life, but at times I still feel like a bit of a failure for not sticking with my childhood dream. You know, childhood dreams are just that- if you don't want to become a doctor anymore, nobody can make you become one. You need to explore all the different sides of yourself to find out what is going to make you truly happy in the long run. Are you artistic? A good athlete? An avid reader? All of these could lead to a lucrative and rewarding career that makes you happy to get up every day. Take a step back from everything and assess what you love to do versus what you think you're supposed to do in life. I think you'll find the source of your unhappiness. Best wishes to you!

Answer 2

I'm not sure how old you are or what year of school you're in, but anything is possible as far as your education goes so don't let that be a burden on you. It might take a little extra work when you are ready to work towards your academic goals, but don't let it be something that weighs you down a lot when you are not in an emotional state to deal with it properly.

If you are a teen/young adult, what you are going through is common, normal really. I know that doesn't help really because even though I can empathize because I was once there, I can't really say I know what you are going through because the circumstances would have been different for each of us. Just don't feel like you are alone in your feelings, in general.

I had planned on pre-med too. All through high school I never took a study hall, took extra science and math instead. High school started out rough for me, but I finished well enough. However, my first year of college I blew it big time. I just started wondering what I was doing? Was medicine right for me really? I hated chemistry, loved biology and physics was ok. Tried to get a tutor my second semester for Chemistry and that didn't work either. My mother was beyond disappointed of course. I was really down on myself, wondering what the point of it all was and really down in a funk because I had let myself and my parents down up to this point.

Then I realized if I had this much trouble with Chem 101 and 102, scraping by with Ds in both, I'd never get through Organic. So I started looking into other degree paths that I thought I might like.

Now this may not be the right choice for you. If you really want to go into medicine, you have to make a decision. Do you want it bad enough to push the depression aside and do what you have to do to get there? If not, then maybe a take a break from it for awhile and revisit it after the school year is over. You may just be putting too much pressure on yourself to begin with which may be causing the depression itself. Try to take some time for yourself, evaluate where you want to be in 5 years, 10 years then just let it all go for a little while and work on your emotional wellbeing. In a month or so, go back and re-evaluate again and see if you come up with the same answers.
GL

Answer 3

Never get disappointed. Its not too late or its never late if you really want things to change and want them to be your way. Coming to school dont worry you can still do it. If you have the will to change it you will. See you have so many friends like me, you can consider me one. Your mom loves you too and many others. everyone goes through this phase of feeling lonely . Its not just you. Studies are important at the same time dream what you want to be. If your grades are not good just pass the classes. Apply for community colleges or any college who would accept you and start of biology or whatever major you want to do. keep your self busy and involved in activities and clubs at school. In college if you do goood ,you still have a change to become a doctor. Or go to school that gives nurse practision that would help you in medical field. Dont give up. Dying is a bad option people who are not brave would be the one who want to die. When you are born dying is not an option until it comes to us.

Be brave...
You have friends so many here on yahoo answers
Never get disappointed
You can do it, you are still young.
Think that you are the best and can achieve your goals
Be active..play sports..cook ..have some fun time..
Relax..watch a movie.....study to achieve your goal of becoming a doctor..
Or dream something good and you'll be fine..
Life is a process we meet new people and life continous.....

Answer 4

You are seriously depressed. One of the symptoms is not caring about the things going on in your life. If you ask for help and don't truly mean it, or are not receptive, people won't take you seriously. Your mom could be right, it could be in your head, it's called a chemical imbalance. Anti depressants don't make you happy, it changes your perception of your problems, it makes molehills out of mountains, shrinking them down to a manageable level. You'll need to speak to your regular doctor about help for that. Then get yourself back on track by listing your goals, what you want out of life. Wanting to be something from the time you were in 2nd grade is a long time to concentrate on one thing, maybe you still want it because it has become a habit. Really think about what you want and make a list of "reasonable" goals rather than a list of pipe dreams. Be realistic. You can fix it, you just need some help, possibly chemical help. Only then can you work out the rest of your life, from a healthy emotional and mental standpoint. Good Luck.

Answer 5

i think you may be suffering from an identity crisis. it's happening to me now. one thing i think you might do is to let go of some overwhelming thoughts and feelings by not feeling or thinking for a while.here's an exercise that might possibly help you: at night lie in bed in whichever position you find the most comfortable.then, breathe in and out slowly and concentrate on ur breathing only. that's all. it just helps clear the mind a bit.
and,oh, yeah, i think that trying to believe in something...anything...that you think truly good may help.
this problem is not a joke and someday, it'll make you realise that people are really strong, that you are strong.

Answer 6

all i have to say to you is this : if you cant live your life for yourself, live it for other people, get it? im saying that you should go out and help others if you cant help yourself. volunteer at the homeless shelter, the old folks home, etc. Everyone in life has a purpose, you just gotta let a person on Yahoo! answers lead you. dont go killin yourself now.

Answer 7

you know what i have a similar problem
sometimes i just want to die and see if there will be a difference in my friends lives but i think that it will be bad to commit suicide and that same as you i cant do it.
the eople that really cares for me
i dont know what i will be in the future i just let things go their way and see what will happen to me

Answer 8

listen ive been there, for me it was because i had a lack of motivation the goals i set when i was youg didnt seem important or reachable i understand how serious it actually is what helped me was being around people who actually motivated me and finding someone i really cared about to fight for good luck tho because its really your choice all you have to do is try