Is life unfair?

Question

Why do people, including myself, claim that life is unfair when things don't go our way. Doesn't that make it FAIR in reality? If we always got our way it would be UNFAIR wouldn't it. Think about it...

Answer 1

People need to take on responsibility for their own actions and life choices. Life is what you make of it and this is the truth. We all wake up every single day with choices to make. it is up to us to make the right ones to satisfy our lives. So, I see people that have things that I may not have... some are things I think to mysel... I want that too. So then I set out to figure out how I can make that happen in my life. I am 25 years old... a single female who owns her own house, going to college in the evenings and works full time in the day plus free lance photography on the weekends and also some photojournalism when needed for local magazines. My life is what I have made. I saw some of my friends buying homes... of course they were all married and having dual incomes... but you know. I went to a broker and said "what do I need to do to get a house for myself" we set out a plan of a how I could get that... and 6 months later I was in my very own house. college... well that is self explanatory... I filled out a FAFSA and started attending. next semester I will wrap up my Associates Degree and then on to my Bachelors. But you know... about 5 years ago I was an alcoholic. I woke up one day and didn't even rocognize the person I had become. I was embarrased to even be around my family because I didn't even feel like myself... I was fed up with the me I had become and set out to be the ME I knew I really was. I stopped making excuses for all the reasons why I couldn't do this or that and just started making changes.
now not only am I proud of myself but I am someone my family can be proud of too!

Answer 2

Personally I dont think that is is a race thing, unfair lives happen to all of us, no matter the colour of our skin. For me, it seems that almost everything has gone wrong and I am not where i wanted to be at this point in my life. Recently, this week actually, i was passed over for my increase and they have employed someone 7 yrs my junior at the same salary (who has no experience yet simply a paper saying she studied)... i have been here 3 yrs with 14 yrs experience in this industry......I work an hour early most mornings and leave an hour late most nights, i work saturdays to keep up! She arrives exactly on time or late and leaves exactly on time, a clock watcher! THAT IS UNFAIR! Buy hey, ive got a job right... at least that is what the optimist in me says.

Answer 3

What's fair?

I know what you mean, it's easy to look at someone who has more money than us, a better house, is better looking or has less problems than we do. Especially if the person has what they have through luck. Nothing would get to me more than if my next door neighbors - who I like just fine now - won the lottery. I would never be able to be friends with them again, for no reason other than I envied them too much.

But is my life really that unfair? I'm in pretty good health, my immediate family is all alive and I am pretty close to them. I don't have a lot of money, but it gets most of my bills paid (eventually!).

You could look at anyone and say there is someone better off but there is also always someone worse off. That's hard to imagine when you think about it, but it's true. Kind of keeps me from being too down sometimes.

Answer 4

Jeff, I like your thinking. I think it would be more appropriate to say that life seems unfair. If we don't get what we want, that can seem unfair to us. In reality, us not getting what we want may or may not be fair. Many times it is probably exactly what we deserve, but we would never see it that way.

Answer 5

When we think by egotism that our will rules, and then something bigger thwarts that purpose, then we claim that it's unfair because we don't want to acknowledge our finiteness. There is a hidden justice to everything, or putting it another way, a cause to every effect. We just don't have the consciousness to see all the relationships and associations, so we tend to blame and cry foul when our puny little will thinks it's king.

We have to strike a balance between willfullness and acceptance, and grow to the point where our wisdom knows the difference. Then life becomes more just and fair.

Answer 6

Life may seem unfair during certain circumstances, but we all have our FAIR share of good times, bad times, happiness, and suffering. The hardships we all suffer in life are truly learning experiences. Think about this; How much do you learn and grow from the good times compared to the bad?

Answer 7

No its not unfair. Life gives exactly what is asked of it. Everyone does get exactly what they want!!! What the problem is, is that once they get it they realize what they asked for wasn't really what they wanted!!! Then are unhappy and have to deal with what they asked for as well as continue living day to day and start the process over. A big part of the problem too is that most people have no clue as to what they really want (or need)!!!

Answer 8

Nothing is unfair.
Things just happen along the line of life that don't seem right, or seem unfair, when really, those "unfair" things help you in the future.
Do you think if everything in life was perfect, we would learn anything?

Answer 9

Life is not fair.. Life doesn't come with a rule book.Situations happen that we can't control; the best we can do is handle the situation the best way we know how. and learn as we go..

Answer 10

life is random, there is no such thing as fate or pre-ordained plan, bad things happen to ALL people because of coincidence, Murphy's Law, and random acts of nature and people. When the tectonic plates crash into each other and cause human calamities, are they worried about who's good and bad? Don't make me laugh. To think that good people are protected or somehow immune to the laws of nature is not logical or rational. If you start believing in fate and pre-ordained plans, then you're reverted to superstitious CAVE MAN logic....