I'm not saying that I want to have kids...I don't right now...I'm saying that if I was stuck in that situation where I got pregnant, I would be morally opposed to abortion. I would "suck it up," and do the mature responsible thing...to raise the kid...even if it was at the expense of selfish things or having fun.
Yet a year ago when I had a slight "scare," I confided in my friends about it and they all viciously opposed me having the kid!! They kept trying to justify abortion....even my Christian friend did this! It was angering and depressing. I felt cheated, like they were saying to do an evil sin(abortion) b/c apparently I must inadequate or not be "good enough" to raise a kid(I wasn't a teen...I was in my mid-20s, with a college degree!).
So a year later, this vapid snob who is lazy, does no work except modelling gigs, is a drama queen, and was mean to me in the past...is pregnant, and everyone's congratulating her! No one's discouraging her the way they did me. FOUL PLAY!
2007-04-30 04:29:30 · 7 answers · asked by I Hate my haters 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Other - Society & Culture
What does SHE have that I don't? It angers me that apparently it's okay for other people to have kids, but as soon as I feared the chance of being pregnant, all my "friends" kept singing "abortion"!
I dug myself out of deeper holes before. At one time, I was homeless and owed money to nearly everyone in the world(bills and creditors; not friends/family). This situation was 85% beyond my control(long story). I was innovative and hard-working, and dug myself out of this hole in less than a year. If I can overcome THAT challenge, which was literally more costly and life-or-death than raising a kid, why did people jump on my sh*t about the chance of pregnancy?? Isn't that kinda messed up?
So why do you think people did that to me? NOTE: I wasn't homeless at the time that I had the scare. Also -- has anyone else been in this boat?
2007-04-30 04:32:10 · update #1
Rebecca - Thanks for your advice!(I'm curious to see what other responders will say) I think you are right. At one time, I wondered what "lesson" could be learned from this pregnancy scare...either that sometimes aborting a fetus is okay; or that sometimes I should abort friendships if they're that negative and have such little faith in me. I got into a big argument w/ one of my best friends about it this morning. He claimed that I was "psychologically upset" and "in turmoil" for the 2 weeks I thought I was pregnant, but I told him it was b/c no one seemed to care or be there for me other than saying "I'll drive you to the abortion clinic."
2007-04-30 04:36:32 · update #2
Ballbuster -- My pregnant ex-friend is certainly NOT married. She's not nice either...she's a drama queen who is quick to judge others. She severed a friendship w/ me 5yrs ago b/c of false accusations. Since then she has occasionally done mean stuff, like leave profane comments on my Myspace site. So yeah I'm bitter.
2007-04-30 04:37:47 · update #3
NOTE: I DO NOT want to have kids!! I already said this, bAbA. I don't want kids but I would do the mature moral thing by raising one if I accidentally became pregnant(abortion = murder).
The point of this whole thing is, I WANT RESPECT!! If people don't think I could "handle" having a kid in my mid-20s, but they think better about their teen friends and my ex-friend(who is lazy and barely works, except for modelling stints), then they obviously have no respect for me or think that I amount to much. I don't think it's a jealousy thing...some of the people that discouraged me, have kids of their own. Some of the other people said that if they were in that spot, they would raise the kid. Yet they tell me otherwise! >:( What, do I have a stigma because I used to be homeless??? What is it? >:( I don't want to have kids right now...I just want RESPECT!!
2007-04-30 04:53:01 · update #4
Oh, do get over yourself.
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2007-04-30 04:36:08 · answer #1 · answered by abetterfate 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I agree with Rebecca. It kind of sounds like these friends are the jealous type. They know that you would probably make a great mom and that would completely alienate them because their singleton stories would seem trite compared to your mommy and baby stories.
Whereas the vapid person who you referred to would probably be miserable and these so-called friends are salivating for her misery, so they can gloat about how good they have it.
2007-04-30 11:40:44 · answer #2 · answered by germaine_87313 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a carry over from the 'population boom' a few years back we were all going to die-to many poeple - so many wanted to save the earth now many nations are going bye bye don't believe every thing you hear about this earth
2007-04-30 11:40:21 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
how long you have been trying? its been 13 years for me. some friends of mine tried much longer than that, i know a person who has been trying up to 18 years.
hang in there. you will have one when the time comes. just dont stop hoping and trying. good luck
2007-04-30 11:40:04 · answer #4 · answered by bAbA 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe it's because she is married. If not, sounds like she has a nicer personality than you...at least she seems interesting. GO TO CHARM SCHOOL & quit judging others.
2007-04-30 11:36:05 · answer #5 · answered by Ballbuster 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Life is full of injustice, I can certainly tell you that. Never mind what people say, you're your own boss.
2007-04-30 11:35:05 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me like you need new friends!
2007-04-30 11:32:13 · answer #7 · answered by ReBecca B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋