At what age do you feel someone should be given the respect of a self sufficient adult?

Question

Kids are different these days it seems but some are really mature. I dont know I would just like to hear others opinions.

Answer 1

There is no single age. When a person behaves that way, I respect them as an adult. People mature at different ages, and there is no single single solution.

Answer 2

When that person starts acting like an adult. That means taking responsibility for your actions and doing the right thing. Some kids are truly mature; but some kids still are not there yet and that is okay cause they are kids. If the person is mature and takes responsibility then he/she should be given the respect of a self sufficient adult. Age is just a number. You can have a mature 16 year old who is responsible and you can have an immature 16 year old who is not responsible. It is entirely up to the individual if he/she wants to be given the respect of a self sufficient adult.

Answer 3

There isn't a specific age on age of accoutability. It differs. I didn't come to the age of accountability untill I was 15. But I have an 12 year old neice who has already hit the age of accountability and has given her life to Christ. So it just differs with each person.

Answer 4

Respect should be give to a person their whole life. I don't tell my kid's to clean their you I ask, Can you guys please get this room picked up? Then I give them each assignment, one to go get the trash can the other to start picking up the toys and monitor them. Respect is a very important thing to teach. I treat them like little adults all the time and give them room to be a kid. If you practise this there is not a magical time to start treating them as an adult, it is a natural process of just allowing more privilages as they age.

If I have to re-inforce a request that was made politely, then they will get a nice polite warning, "I asked you nicely to get your room picked up, if you don't get back to cleaning then your not going to like your punishment, thank you, if you have a problem let me know so we can figure it out together."

Third time, not done, ok, you had two warnings - lite swat, or threat of a loss privage, or forfeiture of an actively usually gets it done.

I am always using respect in how I talk to them, I always use please and thank you, and I love you, and I really don't want to do this but your not listening to me, I raely have any problems from my kid's because I respect them but they still know who is in charge.

Hope that helps...

Answer 5

They should be given the respect of a self sufficient adult when they BECOME one!! This includes having thier own place to live, paying for ALL of thier own bills, paying for thier own healthcare and car notes... etc. When they have reached the level when they are no longer depending on thier parents for ANYTHING except emotional support and the occasional "loan" when things get rocky (fully intending on paying it back) only THEN should they be treated as such! :)

Answer 6

I think it basically comes down to the individual kid. Some kids may be more mature at 15 than some are at 21.

Answer 7

I don't think there is a set age. It really should depend on the person's age. There is an interesting article in this month's Psychology Today about this.

Answer 8

its not the age that matters it if they have earnt it both my mum and my auntie have spoke to me as an adult since i was 14 they tell me all their stories as they would if i was one of their mates, it has helped me to learn more things in life that i would of proberly found out the hard way on and me and my mum are very close because of it .

Answer 9

i think the appropriate age would be probably 15 or 16. if they seem to be a responsible person, maybe 14 years old.
some kids are very mature.

Answer 10

The number of years isn't what's important here... every individual, wanting respect, has the responsibility to prove him/herself deserving of such.