I don't want to offend anyone, but I used to have bootie relations with my husband, but for the past few months it hurts too much. I don't know why things have changed, but they have. Is there a way to make it better and more comfortable. My husband is requesting it.
2007-04-30 04:06:07 · 31 answers · asked by Tara C 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
ill!!!! Thats gross. The rear is designed for exit only, not entry. Let him know that it's uncomfortable. He should understand. If he doesn't tell him you'll only continue to do it only if he allows you to stick a dildo up his. That sounds fair. Plus, you can damage tissue in that area if you continue. That should only be done 1 or 2 times a year in that area. The vagina is designed for benetration all the time not the anus!
2007-04-30 04:13:04 · answer #1 · answered by #1 Monkey Minion 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Are you using lubrication? In the past, natural lubrication may have been enough. Also, you may have developed mild hemorrhoids as a reaction to the action. Your doctor should be able to check for that as well as to tell you different things you can try. But if it is hemorrhoids, as it may well be, you may find that you are unable to make as many bootie relations or may have to use a lot more lubrication and preparation before hand.
2007-04-30 04:10:29 · answer #2 · answered by Chali 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you don't think there is anything medically wrong, and i'm sure you already know to use lube, then you might try a but plug. If you use this while having non-bootie relations it will help satisfy him and loosen you up at the same time.
2007-04-30 04:35:49 · answer #3 · answered by tesko138 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take your time and do it slow. For me doing it from the back doggy style helps out a little more. Try to relax as much as you can and just take it real real slow. Maybe even take a break from if for a month or 2. I don't know why it would change but maybe your irratating it too much. I wish I could tell you more. Use Lots and LOTS of lube.
2007-04-30 04:12:23 · answer #4 · answered by mmm mmm good! 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
By bootie, I assume you mean the back door? Mental mindset is very important. Maybe deep down you don't want to do that and that is why it hurts? Relax your mind and body. If it still hurts, you may have some damage and should avoid it.
2007-04-30 04:09:40 · answer #5 · answered by Mandi N 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yar! Maybe yer 'treasure chest' is getting too small from lack of "bootie". Lar's thinks ye should try KY lube, and maybe use something a bit smaller than your husband to loosen it up a bit. ARG!
2007-04-30 04:11:37 · answer #6 · answered by Cutthroat Lars 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be careful and research this more!
Dr. Drew Kinsky (spelling?) has said repeatedly that this isn't a good thing. Not that it is "wrong" or that he is trying to make you feel guilty, but that you can get hurt. Many adult stars and gay men have had to have a replacement anus. Not a simple "fix it" procedure.
2007-04-30 12:03:38 · answer #7 · answered by frograbbitcow 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make sure you've been going to the bathroom! Also make sure that he is being gentle, but to tell you the truth and I am a bootie freak! LOL, there is sometimes when I just can't do it. I always make up by doing other things, but the truth is sometimes you can't relax like you need to. Explain this to him and if one day you get really turned on, you'll take it like a pro. take it from me!!!! And he always understands, I just can't take it today baby. But when I can you can have it just like you want it!!
2007-04-30 04:17:58 · answer #8 · answered by cutie_pie28 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
If you used to do this without too much pain and now it is painful, you might want to consult your doctor. Some women find this painful at anytime but others don't. But to suddenly find it painful when it used to be ok might mean you have some type of a soft tissue injury inside.
2007-04-30 04:16:43 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Water based lubricants and lots of foreplay.
My wife used to say it hurt, but then she got into the idea and now she requests it. If you can't relax, it will never get better for you.
2007-04-30 04:09:05 · answer #10 · answered by INDUSTRYkurt 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋