Should I live with my grandma?

Question

I'm 14, about 8 montha ago I went through a bad phase. Bad crowd, I got disrespectful, fough ta alot w/ my lil bro. I regretted and apologized sincereley, but my parents were kinda harsh, I got a harsh punsihmente and for some months especially my mom like tortured me emotionally, showing she didn't trust me though I had pologized and showed that had been just a bad phase, They didn't act like parents, showed they didn't love me. I got very sad and depressed, even has suicide thoughts. Fortunately some people , especially my grandma helped me, showed trust and understood me. My parents now say thety'rec proud of me but our relationship is destroyed, I can't see them as loving parents,can gt to them to ralk and ask for advice, There's a deep wound in my soul. My grandma invited me to love w/ her and this is a grtae idea. We love each other and living w; her I' d be in aloving environment, free from the bad memories of what happend. My parents don't agee/ the idea, but she's insisting.

They respect my grandma and I think she'll convince them to let me stay with her for some time. But they are afraid I ened up staying there for a long time, which's exactly what I want. Some people say this would be bad for my relationship with my parents, but they don't love me, werre kinda harsh and I don'1t think we´ll ver have a good relationship based on trust and love. I have the right to be happy

Answer 1

I moved in with my grandma at 16 best thing I did, she passed away in dec and I miss her greatly. Things were bad between my mom and I and I will tell you things did not fix themselves just because I moved out. They were still bad and for the most part I still don't have a good relationship with my mom. Think things through but also look at it from their end they were hurt too as well and are just as confused as you. Good luck.

Answer 2

First off, your parents do love you. SOme show it different. If you was actting out, then they thought they would give you a taste of your medecine. I do not want to sound rude, but I have been you, and now I am a mom of 2. When your child acts out a parents must do whatever to change that. I know you dont see it, but it did work. My parents did the same thing, and now I am very close to them. You have to understand that the little signs of bing bad can lead to major actting out, like drugs, running away, and being arrested. Your parents did the best that they knew how to get through there problems, and so did you. I think you should try to live with your parents because your parents know that grandparents will let you get away with murder. I did the same thing, and when I went to live with my parents I got arrested, expelled and in a lot of trouble. It is not that my Grandma is a bad person, she just cant keep up with me, and then she did not want to see me get in trouble, so she did not tell my parents. That is what a lot of Grandparents do.

Well good luck, and I wish you the best.
mk

Answer 3

HEY THE SAME THING HAPPENED TO ME!!!! I'm living with my grandma right now. Its a lot better then when i was living with my dad or my mom. Grandparents seem to be always there for you know matter what. Sometimes I'll go visit with my dad or mom. Maybe stay a couple days. But I like living with my grandma. My life has changed a lot(for the better). The only thing that sucks is your parents have to agree with you living there. you cant just go one day and not come back. But if your parents agree i would say its an excellent idea.

Good Luck

Answer 4

Ok if you have apologized and you have shown some improvement, then your parents should give you another chance. It's good to be harsh, but some changes are being made, and you are doing your part, then they should value and appriciate that. I think it would be a great idea for you to live with your grandmother especially if she is offering. You are only 14 and it's better for you to live with someone related that end up living out there with someone you don't know just bc you don't feel love by your parents. Stay with your grandmother for a while and if your parents, after seeing that you are gone, they realize that they were making a mistake, then give them a 2nd chance.

Answer 5

I think it's a great idea, but your parents have the right to refuse to allow it. Ask them if you can go there "for a while" and see if things improve with your parents, maybe you all need a break from each other. Just be sure to be good to grandma, help her out with things. It's obvious she loves you. Grandmas always seem to love kids more than anyone else.

Answer 6

hi
you ask this question 4 time before
2 days ago
now i counted 4 times since then for the same question
How can I convince my parents to let me live with my grandma?
what do expect for an answer

Answer 7

Your parents as woeful as you describe them, are your best bet to learn how to grow up and make it. Grammas are dated, mean well love you to death and you might think youll have more freedom-- but its just running away-- she'll have to take her geritol and eats old people food, watches old people tv, and you'll be living with old dinosars and end up a complete nerd--your parents are alot more with it, younger and can teach you the ropes in life. You'll even smell like an old person if you live with her, have to be quiet when she goes to bed at 8pm. She'll drag you to funerals,cause thats what they do for fun. They keep their cheese in the freezer, and supper once a week is oatmeal to keep their cholestrol down. they throw adult diapers in the grocery cart! UGH!

Answer 8

Go live with your grandmother. Your parents have annihilated your trust in them, and at your age it is nearly impossible to be living with someone you don't think you can trust. However, you need to help your grandmother out around the house to repay her for her kindness in taking you in. Do the dishes, help make dinner, take out the trash, make your bed, clean up the house, etc. She will be happy to have you even if you don't do this, but it would be very kind & considerate for you to help.

Answer 9

sounds like it might be a good idea but I do think your parents really do love you! sounds like they didnt' handle everything in exactly the right way but this is hard for them, it really is. If you go stay with your grandma please talk and try to rebuild a relationship with your parents.
good luck, sweetie.

Answer 10

I think you should live with your grandma if you only want to.