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Question

i think that i'm pregnant. but i'm only a sophmore in high school! i just turned sixteen and i've felt like this for three months or so. i'm going to the doctors tomorrow and the guy that i had sex with is coming to. i need help. i really don't know how to deal with it. my mom said she would kick me out of the house and i'm against abortion. HELP ME! what to do

Answer 1

OK, Honey, just relax until you have your doctor's results. At least the young man is going to the doctor's appointment with you. That is one good sign.
If your Mom is serious (and I hope she isn't) then I would suggest you sit down with your boyfriend's parents and reveal everything . They are going to find out sooner or later and you may as well find out where EVERYBODY stands right at the beginning. Be prepared to cry a lot ...that's just the way we females are.
You may have a pleasant surprise by your boyfriend's parent's reaction.........who knows?
If not, then email me and we'll figure something out ok? Don't do anything crazy because you think that no one else cares. There are many people reading this question right now who will jump in to help you I am sure. Keep me posted.

Answer 2

Firstly you are young but not young enough to know about birth control. Have you taken over the counter tests? They are 90% accurate. That might save you some pain and worry. Though since your going to the doctor they will give you one anyway. I hope your mom isnt serious about kicking you out. She was young once she should know the dangers. The last thing a teen in high school whos pregnant needs, is to be homeless. Can your boyfriends family take you in? There are alot of programs out there to help teen moms cope mentally and physically, and to get them finacial help, contact your local social services department for your county you will be suprised at the programs they have for unwed mothers. Dont feel so down babies are miracles. You were granted one for a reason. Now the challenge is for you to know what to do with it. If you feel you CANNOT take care of a baby, then opt for adoptions. Its a better option than Abortion.
Im 31 and had an "accident" also. After all I knew about sex and pregnancy it still happened to me. Long story but I know how scary that road can be.

Answer 3

Do whatever you think is best. Since you are against Abortion! Remember that you can always do Adoption. You can ask your doctor about all of this. And you should maybe talk to your mother and let her know what happened and how far along you are and dont forget to stress to her that you are against abortion. Sometimes parents say things but if it actually comes up they will take it different then they expected. You should really just talk to her about it and let her know everyhting and how you feel! Im sure you will be ok! Good Luck!

Answer 4

Well first see what the doctor says. If you are pregnant, I really think abortion is the best way to go. What else could you do? Right now, your education is the most important thing. If you really are against abortion, maybe your mom could take care of it once she calmes down. Explain to her how sorry you are, and how you really need help. Take care of yourself.

Answer 5

CONGRATULATIONS AND LET ME SAY THAT I AM VERY PROUD OF YOU THAT YOU WILL NOT ABORT YOUR BABY!!!! I DON'T ACTUALLY THINK YOUR MOM WOULD KICK YOU OUT SHE'S MOST LIKELY IN SHOCK THAT HER LITTLE GIRL MIGHT BE PREGNANT. TRY TALKING WITH HER AND LET HER KNOW THAT THIS IS THE TIME THAT YOU REALLY NEED HER THE MOST. I'M A MOM OF 3 YEAR OLD AND 12 WEEKS PREGNANT AND THERE IS NO WAY THAT I WOULD KICK MY CHILD OUT IF THIS EVER HAPPENED I KNOW I WOULD HAVE BEEN VERY DISAPPOINTED . WISH YOU ALL THE BEST

Answer 6

Well, you obviously felt that you were adult enough to engage in adult activities with your boyfriend, so now you've got to pay the consequences. It was your decision to have sex, and you've got to deal with the reprecussions of that decision. Be an adult about it, and just tell your parents. If she kicks you out, then there are other choices for you. There are shelters you can stay at, for one. Just think the next time you decide to do anything that can change more than one person's life.

Answer 7

well honey you have to think if you wont this baby, or if you going to give it away or keep it. Me if I was going to give my baby away I rather get rid of it. But, if you are "pro life" have the baby I know your parents will help. Just talk about how you wont to go to school and what your goals are in life. ANd say you made a big mistake and you will get a job to cover the baby food and colthes. Its okay that you might be pegnant but never make that mistake again you don't wont to be like some girls that have 6 -8 kids before there 30. Be wise and think???

Answer 8

It is so sad your mum is like this with you i would be devastated if my daughter comes in at 16 an tells me she is having a baby, but i could not turn my back on her! if you are pregnant then YOU need to decide what you want to do you could get the baby adopted, do you think when your mum sees the baby she would change her mind? could you go stay at a relatives? when you talk to your mum you need to be strong an try to be grown up make your mind up what you are going to do before you tell her an let her no you are sad she is treating you like this you know you have made a mistake but what is done is done, i hope things work out for you x

Answer 9

Just try to relax for now. Take it one step at a time. Right now focus on your doctor's appt. If you are pregnant, then you take the next step. Your mom says she will kick you out, but chances are she will help you out. She is probably just scared and a little angry, but that will change in time. Good luck.

Answer 10

I`m sorry your mom isn`t supportive. She may change her mind as soon as reality hits. Your so young, but in my opinion worse things could happen. Make sure after this that you get on birth control and not make the same mistake twice! I hope things work out with your mom. You`ll need all the support you can get. Finish school!!!!! That`s very important!