i really love him i really want this to wrok.
i've been with him 3 years the only downfall to our relationship is that i'm 18 and he is 19 and it almost feels like we are too young.
I really want to be with him i want to be a pilot and i'm not sure how he'll do with me being gone all the time and i really want to be with him but ah i really don't know if i can fit into his family.
his parents are a little weird... but i really do love him i just worry...
2007-04-30 02:25:35 · 13 answers · asked by ubermenchen 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Maybe see how the relationship goes with you trying to be a pilot. If it can last over a distance or it can last with some tough times, it might well be a good enough relationship for marriage. If you think you need to get married in order for it to be sustained through all that, you probably shouldn't be getting married. In other words, make the relationship strong first, and THEN think about marriage. Marriage is for life after all, and it can either greatly enhance it, or ruin it. Both results can happen no matter how much spark and chemistry there is between you, trust me.
2007-04-30 02:31:41 · answer #1 · answered by btpage0630 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take it from a woman who has been married for nearly 20 years to a great guy... give yourself 5 years to become who you are, and let him do the same. You will be way different when you are 23 than you are now. Do a little dreaming, grow up some more, THEN think about marriage. I married at 19, so I've been there. People tried to tell me the same thing I'm telling you. I didn't listen. You probably won't either, but at least think about this before rushing off to the altar. In this throwaway world, marriage is something you should make last.
2007-04-30 09:36:27 · answer #2 · answered by Jackie F 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
In my experience, you are too young. Although, everyone is different, some do make it from early ages. The odds would be against your marriage working. I
also married the guy I was with for 3 years when I was 19 and it lasted a year. I wanted to do what people that age do, party. Especially once legal age to go bar hoping arrived.
I think if your love is meant to be, then it will still be when you are older, finished school and all. Plus, things would pan out with his family issue too, time will tell in other words I guess. Good luck to you whatever you decide.
2007-04-30 09:40:21 · answer #3 · answered by REBECKA 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are young for marriage, especially with so many questions flying around. You say you want to be a pilot but you are not sure how he'll do with you being gone....have you talked to him about this? If you do talk about this and he tries to keep you close and you would possibly lose your dream, something is definitely wrong.
Fitting into his family is another big thing. I am sure they love him, but do they love him enough to allow him to make his own decisions about you and love, or will they try to interfere, even if just subtly. Families can make almost any relationship very hard and only the strongest can survive. Do you feel like a survivor? Does he stick up for family ahead of you? You have a tough decision to make, but you are young and have your whole life ahead of you. Make your decision and don't put up with a lot of crap.
2007-04-30 09:41:43 · answer #4 · answered by Paulette S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are right. You are young. You shouldn't be worried about being a wife and having a family right now, or trying to fit into his family. This is your time to explore the world. If you want to be a pilot, then that's what you should do. If it is meant to be then he will want to be a PART of your life. Not your life. Never give up yourself to be with someone else. In the end you regret not fulfilling your dreams and you resent the person you gave them up for.
2007-04-30 09:33:35 · answer #5 · answered by ╚╔╩╦ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well first of all,your with him not his parents,and eventually you might get on really well with his parents.secondly wether your 18,21 or 40 something,you carnt help falling in love,and if he loves you,it wont matter if your on mars he will still be there for you when you get back.and lets face it there is no law saying you have to marry before your a certain age,cos you dont.so c how things go,you have the rest of your life to decide wether or not to get married.i met and started going out with this guy when i was 11. we lost touch for 3 years then got back together,i am now 32 and been with him for 11 years married for 8. so YEA it really can work if you both love each other. good luck.
2007-04-30 09:38:48 · answer #6 · answered by chief 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are wise to recognize that your ages may work against you.
Go on with your career plans.
If this relationship is meant to be, it will work out.
Been there, almost made a mistake 30 years ago. Glad I waited and ended up with current hubby of 28 years. :)
2007-04-30 09:31:22 · answer #7 · answered by CountryLady 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
stop worrying. you may be young but you sound mature enough to know that although you're in love you also need to be something in your life. you sound as though you're trying to make something out of yourself and are aware that things may be a little fast. take you're time and be the pilot that you want to be. if you're love for each other is strong then it will prevail. as far as his family, if and when you guys get married, you'll be marring into his family, not his family. love him for him. get engaged but don't rush to get married. make an agreement that you'll set a date to marry after you get your pilots licence.
2007-04-30 09:35:05 · answer #8 · answered by NoDeal21 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are awfully young
take this test: it works: plan a nice wedding... take 1 year to get it all planned... make him help you, if the relationship lasts, then get married!
2007-04-30 09:28:56 · answer #9 · answered by bronzebabekentucky 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are young, go out be what you want to be continue to date and if you are meant to be then a couple more years will not kill you
2007-04-30 09:35:56 · answer #10 · answered by Eyes of Green 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋