Why don't women like porn?

Question

I know for a fact that men are more visually stimulated than women but wouldn't it turn a woman on when they see a naked guy?

Answer 1

Not necessarily. A woman might get stimulated by a real naked man in the same room with her, where she could smell him, hear his voice, make eye contact, feel a casual touch, and enjoy looking at his body up close and personal, but the same guy as an image on a screen just doesn't have the physical power to affect her, the way a woman's image seems to for men. An image is an abstraction, women respond better to tangibility.

Of course each woman is different but I hear this from women often, in conversation about it.

Answer 2

I caught my gf watching porn one night when I came home from work. Then she was all over me. In my opinion, guys who get turned on by just seeing a naked woman on a screen are pretty scummy. I'd much rather see my gf laying in bed with just a bra on than that...

But I know for a fact, that most women will not admit to being visually stimulated. Same as how they lie about masturbating. For some reason, that's considered "unlady-like."

Answer 3

You answered your own question. Men tend to be more stimulated by visuals. Women need more context, even though they do get aroused by images. A man gets hard when he sees boobs. A woman needs a story to go with her porn. I've never met a woman that gets turned on just by looking at a random penis. If the guy makes her laugh, shows kindness, AND takes his pants off, THEN she'll be turned on.

Answer 4

women do like porn, some just arent into seeing women treated violently, which is the case in a great deal of porn. Personally, I have a larger porn collection than my boyfriend does.

Answer 5

Porno makes me frigid major.
I love naked men ... but loath naked women.

In Europe they have "Soft - porn" (on public television ... weird) which was more romantic, softer, and more dignified. It didn't make me frigid like the USA stuff. Soap-opera's are like woman's porno ... it's the story line (cheesy or not) which gets us. (Dito on Mother's answer ... soooo true)

I guess the USA stuff like "Debbie does Dallas" is so crude that it makes me hate being a woman. I never want to be an object like those porno stars ... I want more ... there's got to be more. Just the though of a man who I like getting into this junk ... well, there's something wrong with him ... he's got to be numb to sex and intimacy to enjoy this ... honestly ... there's got to be more ... If not, I'm becoming a nun.

Answer 6

I like gay porn.. there's just something about two guys. I don't like hetrosexual porn, because it always seems to be in the favour of men, i.e. you can see all of the woman's intimate parts, but for some reason they won't show the man's penis.. That really pi55es me off!

Answer 7

Because all guys look the same. Women's parts are internal, that is our mystery Also women's power is in the brain, not in the groin.

Answer 8

First off, let's remember that lots of women actually do like porn- the number is far less than men who like porn, and often they enjoy a different type of porn than the typical heterosexual porn made for men, but they're out there. Personally, I quite love porn, so I'm at least one person to disprove the whole 'women don't like porn' thing.

As for why a majority of women might not like porn, though, here are my top ten reasons:

1) Most porn out there is produced by men and targeted at a male audience, and it has a different aesthetic than that which women generally enjoy (although there are many women out there who like raunchy male-oriented porn, too). Women generally like storylines/plots and softer, more romantic sex.

2) Most of this porn I mentioned has an inherent misogynistic attitude that treats women as b*tches, sl*ts, whores, and ho's to be used and abused by the men. If there's anything to turn a woman off quicker, that'd be it.

3) Most straight porn doesn't feature good-looking men. Now, there are of course some nice exceptions, but on a whole, and particularly the more amateur the production, the less appealing the men are (compare that to gay porn, where the boys seem to all be model-perfect!), while the women are still porn-perfect. It stems from whom the target audience is, of course (generally, men), and the mistaken idea that the only thing anybody is looking at is that 10 inch penis . . . but women tend to enjoy the whole package- handsome faces, sexy bodies, everything. No wonder women don't go ga-ga for it.

4) It makes us feel bad about ourselves. Women are infamous for our comparisons to pretty much every other woman out there, and if that's already a blow to our self-esteem, then watching porn, or knowing that most men out there watch it, is the ultimate nail in the coffin- because who can measure up to those bleach-blonde, liposuctioned, silicone-filled models? Women worry that the reason men watch porn is because they're dissatisfied with the women that they have at home and wish they could have porn stars instead. Nobody wants to watch or condone something that makes them feel so insecure and self-doubtful.

5) Most porn doesn't feature much in the way of real female sexuality. I once heard a female porn reviewer joke that if you added up all the male-on-female cunnilingus scenes in the entirety of porn, it still wouldn't last longer than five whole seconds. And while that's exaggeration, it's a sad truth- women in porn either don't have orgasms at all, or the actresses fake really bad ones. The cunnilingus, fingering, clitoral stimulation, if there at all, are usually pretty bad and inept. In reality, women take a while to get aroused, and statistics overwhelmingly show that women do not, in fact, usually orgasm from the ol' in-and-out pumping, but through clitoral stimulation instead. Try and find that reality in porn, though, and you won't. What woman wants to watch something that doesn't feel real, that she can't relate to?

6) Some women don't like porn on the basis that it's degrading and objectifying to women, that the industry is harmful to the actresses, etc., etc.. And given some of the porn that's out there and the horror stories, I wouldn't exactly say they were off-base in that feminist assumption. Still, I very strongly feel that Andrew Dworkin and her like are wrong- not all porn is inherently degrading. But women often come from the standpoint that men are perverted horndogs who only want women for sex and their bodies, and when they see porn that reinforces that idea, they are not only turned off sexually, but completely disgusted by the very idea of porn itself.

7) Some girls just don't like porn, just like there are some guys out there who don't. It's just a personal preference.

8) Women may view porn as cheating if it's watched in a relationship. I don't agree with that viewpoint, but some women believe that by fantasizing about being with another person, it is an affair of the heart/mind, and that isn't cool. And if you feel your partner is cheating on you, of course you're going to be pretty angry and ticked off.

9) Women can't connect with a lot of the acts portrayed in porn that is produced for men- things that may turn men on, like double penetration, the concept of c*m sl*ts who take multiple ejaculations, etc., etc. will probably have most women running for their lives, forever branded with a fear of what they think most men secretly want to do to them, and understandably so.

10) Women are socialized to not be interested in sex. Even as things are getting better than they were, say, in the 50's, still, female sexuality gets put on the back burner. Boys are encouraged to masturbate and look at pornographic materials (i.e. the whole fathers giving their sons Playboy magazines at puberty), or at least their sexuality is turned a blind, indulgent eye, but girls are rarely encouraged to masturbate, are definitely not provided any female-oriented sexual materials, and their sexual innocence is closely guarded, the idea of virginity lauded (whereas sexual conquest is expected for boys), and basically, being a sexually-minded female is synonymous with being a sl*t or a dirty girl. Most women don't even begin to seek out porn because they feel ashamed, embarrassed, don't know that porn made for women exists, etc., etc..

Hope that helps.

Answer 9

call me weird..i gag at the site..i don't even like watching wrestling..thats like gay porn..