im 26 weeks pregnant, due in august (cant wait!) and the girl across the street has just miscarried, she was due in november. she was set to be a single parent, so since she found out she miscarried, her friend has been staying with her and her friend told me when i asked how she had been.
i know how horrible it is as i had a miscarriage 2 years ago, and didnt take it very well at all. should i say something to her or just ignore it, unless she says something to me and i cant avoid it. i know how i felt when i lost my baby and everyone around me seemed to be pregnant or had newborns and i was very bitter toward strangers. im quite big and my pregnant belly is taking over my body so i cant hide it and she knew i was pregnant for months. i just feel bad incase i make someone else feel as bad as i did back then just by them seeing me.
serious answers - not a nice subject.
thanks xxx
2007-04-30 00:03:34 · 8 answers · asked by Şơƥɦɨȩ'ȿ ♡Μυɱ˗Μυɱ♡ 5 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
Maybe she can see you as an example of hope.
You did lose a baby buty you are proof that later down the line she may go on to have another child.
I know that's not what she is thinking about right now, btu let her know that if she wants to talk to you, you are willing to listen, perhaps by dropping a note through her door, so that she knows you are there, but doesn't have to be confronted by your bump if she doesn't want to.
All you can really do is be ther for her, I'm sure that doesn't want to left alone for fear of someone upsetting her.
2007-04-30 00:09:29 · answer #1 · answered by ♥Pamela♥ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have to agree with the person who suggested a basket filled with girlie goodies. Find a nice card and tell her that you have been in her shoes and if she ever wants to talk that you will be there for her...right across the street. But if you run into her at the mailbox, give her a hug and invite her over for coffee or tea.
2007-04-30 00:40:01 · answer #2 · answered by Just-a-wonderin' 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What a sad situation. The only thing I can tell you is that you're more able than most to put yourself in her place and decide from there what you should do. How would you have felt 2 years ago?
2007-04-30 00:08:27 · answer #3 · answered by Alice K 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I think you should go to her, but don't get upset or offended if she rejected you, just come back if she didn't like your visit. And then try to share your own experience of miscarriage and tell her that no matter how you felt after you lost your baby (and I don't know how you felt) you have another one now...I think it helps a lot!
2007-04-30 00:13:13 · answer #4 · answered by Rachel 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why not just send or have delivered a nice bouquet of flowers with a simple note saying you know how she feels as you have been there and if there is anything you can do ...etc. It lets her know you are thinking about her.
2007-04-30 01:55:44 · answer #5 · answered by elaeblue 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well heres what you could do, go buy her a sympathy basket..get an empty basket and fill it with things like lotions, perfume, soaps, candles, maybe a new robe, slippers..things that would make you feel good and then a sympathy card will top it off, it will not make her forget her baby but it will help get out of the dumps!! good luck!!
2007-04-30 00:08:53 · answer #6 · answered by becca 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would suggest sending a card saying that you are sorry for her loss and if she ever wants to talk she can as you have been in her situation.
2007-04-30 00:21:31 · answer #7 · answered by finabella9 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sorry to hear about what had happened to you & to her SO sad
why not send her a card or a note , let her know that you know how she feels & if she wants to talk you are there
take care
2007-04-30 00:15:13 · answer #8 · answered by start 6-22-06 summer time Mom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋