wanna be independent...need to stop being naive n stupid...would u help me?

Question

what to do when u lost faith in everybody around, ur friends, the whole world even yourself???
when u really feel lonely so lonely n weak...
when u feel totally down n depressed, n dont have the ability to do anything...
how to cope to live without depending on others n without having faith in them...when i'm 23 years old now...i wanna get over of all this...

Answer 1

Start with baby steps..if it is to be independent...start by doing one thing for yourself...for instance...simply going for a drive or walk by yourself one time, going to a social group or hobbie outside the home. Work on alone time just for you as well as socializing. Small little goals each day.
The world can be cruel, hard, confusing but it can also be beautiful, kind and fun.

You can get over this. What you really need is professional advice see a doctor and get referred to
counsellor/physchologist to work on your thought patterns.
Work on diet, exercise and thought patterns before considering medication - antidepressants, unless you have serious depression and the doctor believes that is what you need.
google "mood gym", its a great site aussie site, or go to oprah, dr phil, deepak chopra, dr wayne w. dyer, tony robbins websites etc or read their books.

You need to believe in yourself, take action, write some goals. Perhaps volunteer work might be the go..that way you are focused on others and that could also help.
Being naive and stupid I don't know about that, maybe you need to start questioning people, research, stand up for yourself, work on yourself, believe in you and love and accept yourself, don't do things you don't want to do, choose to not believe things so quickly or jump on board things too quickly...

Everybody gets to a point in there lives where they feel that way...life becomes too much, you have simple choice..you can choose to live or die, choose to live your worthy of it.

Some people choose to get on with life and or work on themselves whether physically, spiritually, emotionally etc.
So many many cases have been shown of humans inner strength overcoming difficulties, you can be one of those people too.

You know whats best for you in heart and mind.
You are still young..you will get over it..but only you can do it, no one else can save you, only you can save yourself.
Its just a matter of mindset and pushing yourself to live each day in life, even when you don't feel like it or even believe its possible.

There is nothing wrong with having faith in people just be careful who exactly they are...if they are a good person with good intentions and they are worth it then by all means, but we are only human so don't put all your faith in them, because you could end up being disappointed.

But It is easy to be dependant, its even harder to independant (for some of us that is) and to work on self improvement. Challenge yourself! Invest in yourself and will become more of a service to yourself and others

Answer 2

Then start relying on yourself, spiritually, emotionally, psychologically and most importantly , financially.
You don't have to lose your faith in them-keep that respect and faith for others around you because you need it in building or boosting your morale. Just dont ask them for any help on anything.
I was also deppressed for a long time, it was because my emotions were feeling at low spirit, ashamed that I could not be how this person is-in social standing and career. But over the time, I realized all I need is my self respect and confidence that no matter what kind of job one does, it is noble and dignified as long as we do it morally right. Almost two years was a long time. Don't worry, you'll come out of it, snap out of it like nothing in due time, and you will be yourself again.

Answer 3

Start doing things yourself. No matter how difficult it is. Once you start that, the rest will seem easy to you. Once you get a taste of independance, it is very empowering. You feel free, not lonely. Everything is a mind set. Do something independant that normally you would have have someone else helping you with. YOu'll see.

Answer 4

First and most important, LEARN from your mistakes. Stop making the same ones. Second, surround yourself with people who are the type of person you want to be. If you hang out with losers, you will be a loser too. Third, study everything and anything. Goto school or take a class to learn a skill. Stop waiting for fate to give you a free pass and take charge of your life. It's YOUR life so take responsibility for it. The sooner you do that, the sooner you will be happy.

Answer 5

A good place to start would be to stop thinking of your self as naive and stupid.

Second realize that YOUR expectations, caused you to loose faith in everyone. Not their actions.

Third realize that you are perfectly capable of taking care of your self and that you do not need any help from others.

You will find out that it is fun.

Love and blessings Don

Answer 6

I agree with Annie, but i would also think you should talk to a doctor.

What you describe sounds like a serious depression, and you should not let this continue for very long.

Best of luck to you.

Answer 7

Live on the internet and let the world go on without you.

Answer 8

Start chanting VishnusahasraNamam daily from today onwards. That work well, provided done daily with patience.

see this group message post.

http://groups.yahoo.com/group/athmavidya/message/396

Sairam