His phone, laptop now have passwords, he is abusive ,verbally and some times phisically and very demanding no thank you no please, as if he just hates me. He never used to be like this
2007-04-29 23:06:14 · 14 answers · asked by Crocky 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It doesn't matter if he is cheating. He is hurting you and that is worse. He has no right to treat you like this, and you have no business taking it. You need to go for conselling about this situation because this forum doesn't begin to have enough resources to help you. You need a plan to deal with him and the abuse problem. Good Luck.
2007-04-30 00:10:38 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whether or not he is cheating, the abuse is what should be foremost at this point. If he is verbally and physically abusive you need to make arrangements to leave. Don't put yourself in harms way. Get out of there and then worry about working on things. Is it possible he has a substance abuse problem? If he was never abusive and suddenly has become so this raises some red flags. This could also explain his sudden secrecy.
2007-04-30 06:13:47 · answer #2 · answered by zento1110 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is cheating. He would not need those passwords if he wasn't. File for divorce based on the abuse. They will get a order for him to vacate the premises. Also make sure the file for a restraining order, so that he can not come near you. If you don't have the money for an attorney, contact your local District Attorney's office and ask them to refer you to a legal aid attorney because you need to file for divorce. (Be sure to mention the abuse)
If you want him out quicker, the next time he physically abuses you, go to the nearest phone, and call the police. They will remove him from the home. File for a restraining order (the police will tell you how), change the locks, and file for divorce immediately before they release him.
2007-04-30 06:26:24 · answer #3 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes I would say something is going on. Do you pay the bills? Are the bills in your name? Do you have his social security card? If you pay the bills find out what numbers are calling him or him calling out on his cell phone. If you don't have access to the bills then call about them using his social security to get access, explain you are his wife and blah blah come up with a story to get it.
Also you could start following him or have hire someone to do so.
But most importantly if he's beening verbally and physically abusive you need to leave him. Get out now. If you let him get away with it now it will just get worse and he will think he can always get away from it.
2007-04-30 06:27:48 · answer #4 · answered by LC 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A private investigator would do the job but they don't come cheap. If you suspect that he is cheating on you then you may have no other option. You may wish to try a Marriage Guidance Councilor etc. Hope things work out for you. The grass in never greener on the other side it only seems that way until you get there.
AGONY UNCLE.
2007-04-30 06:12:33 · answer #5 · answered by coofooman 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Confront him the earliest possible time, ask his passwords and tell him that you think he is cheating on you. If he doesn't reveal his passwords it is a sign that he is hiding something from you. Gently remind him of your shared vow to God as husband and wife to become one meaning no secrets. Ask permission to use his phone or laptop if already opened by him then browse on the phonebook/addresses and ask him of suspicious names or copy the numbers or contact them using another phone or laptop. If you confirmed that he is cheating you, ask him directly if you derserve such treatment and make him decide if he is to stop or your marriage to be broken. His answer has to be yes or no, no conditions.
2007-04-30 07:36:32 · answer #6 · answered by pidyang 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well being the *** that he is being with the abusiveness I wouldn't care who he is with I would have to leave. People have so many excuses as to why they can't leave a person. I would rather struggle and have my self respect than have a man make me feel worthless not to mention put his hands on me. They need to air the Burning Bed again so men can see the results of a woman tired of bullshit.
2007-04-30 06:12:48 · answer #7 · answered by cinnamon35 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that does not sound like he is cheating. Usually if men cheat they are in better moods because they are getting what they were missing. Maybe he is having trouble at work. Maybe you are a bit*ch and he is just tired of it. It does not sound like cheating to me. It sounds much more like depression.
2007-04-30 06:10:23 · answer #8 · answered by searay092003 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
who cares if he's cheating? he's abusing you! get out now, and worry about the cheating later on for the divorce proceedings...
2007-04-30 06:09:30 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
why do you feel you deserve such treatment ?yes you do need to find out if he is cheating it will be good evidence when you divorce him.that is the reason you need to know right?you to can love again i been you .i feel for you i truly do.
2007-04-30 06:16:17 · answer #10 · answered by STALKER BLOCK 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋