Thanks all. If it was just fun and sex why would he want to spend his life with me? He could just go out with me and have some fun without even committing. By the way I never talk about marriage or something like that with him and even avoid such talks. But he would always talk like he would wish to have kids with me and travel places etc. He says he will never find a girl like me, funny, smart, sexy and beautiful. I love him but never show enough to him.
We both had partners before of course. He said he was loyal to his previous gf.
I had men committed to me as well. But didn't want as it seemed to be early or I wasn't sure. I consider about it this serious now, because I love him, and i reached age 29, where I realised I should marry someone I love.
2007-04-29 21:12:19 · 14 answers · asked by coco_80 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
One word : Love
That's all you need.
He sounds sweet.
If you love him, and he loves you.
DO IT!
I have had the same experience but I was younger.
I knew what I was doing..
Goodluck for the future.
x
2007-04-29 21:14:51 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Im not sure if in the long run it is the right thing to do. Men develop quite slower than us gals. My fiancee' is 24 and he acts like he's 18 sometimes... lol... as a mature woman I am sure you would like to share some of the same qualities and not feel like you are talking to a child most times. Even IF he is very mature, he is only 22. You haven't even BEGUN to live life yet. Especially not to be married. Wait it out some. There's nothing bad that can come from it. There are 2 options:
1. Wait s few years and he leaves. Which only tells you he was never really ready to commit to life anyways...
2. Or wait a few years and he will not only be a little older, a little more experienced, and mature, BUT your bond will be a few years more solid, giving you a stronger foundation to begin a SUCCESSFUL marriage. Until then, ditch the thoughts of FOREVERNESS and right now work on TOGETHERNESS! Good luck and let me know if this helps!
2007-04-29 21:19:58 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Age is not a matter. If that bothering you.
Commitment after marriage is more important. Thats a huge different between single/dating and spouse/marriage. Definitely you want to spent the rest of your life with someone you really love, mature and committed. Are you sure that he is the person? How will you be sure? And for how long he will be charmed with your characters until he get bored? So if you satisfied with your own answers...then i wish you good luck. Hope you will be happy and loved forever and ever.
2007-04-29 21:23:12 · answer #3 · answered by miya 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My grandmothers second husband was just about 2 years older than her oldest daughter! Which made him about 16-20 years younger. They were married many years, til she died. They were very happy, so good luck!
Oh I did date a guy that was also 7 years my junior and we had a lot of fun but alas, I met my husband and had to break his little heart. Last I heard from his mom (my friend) he had found a woman with a son and they were happily married. He always went for the older women. Some guys just like them like that. My oldest son included.
2007-04-29 21:23:27 · answer #4 · answered by califdreamer_2000 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since you're having second thoughts about this guy and you are an experienced lover you should hold off.
He sounds like a fun guy but maybe that's the problem, you don't see him as true husband potential. It sounds like you don't really respect him that way.
He's fun and a good lover and you enjoy his company but your idea of a life partner is completely different.
Unfortunately he has become confused between fun and love/respect and you need to set him straight as to how you see him.
you want a husband who can be a provider and father and this guy is not that and since you're nearly 30 and feel the need to be getting settled down you need to be honest with him and go and look for future hubby.
2007-04-29 21:23:27 · answer #5 · answered by crr_rndy 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
my husband is 18 years older than me, and it has worked out just fine, age is just a number!! If you love someone and it feels right, go for it!! you could get engaged, give it another 6months to a year to be sure this is what you both want and then do it, all you need is love, if you're ready to commit then why not!!
2007-04-29 21:50:02 · answer #6 · answered by KrIs 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am 9 years older than my husband and we have been together for 17 years. Emotional maturity is the more important factor to consider. He sounds like he is a good guy so go for it.
2007-04-30 01:52:30 · answer #7 · answered by mnwomen 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When it comes to relationships and marriage, age never matters. As long as you two have a strong bond together and share many of the same interests.
2007-04-29 21:16:10 · answer #8 · answered by Reems 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Definitely, you are both old enough to know if your happy and want to marry each other. Go for it what does age really matter anyway? We all need true love.
2007-04-29 21:16:10 · answer #9 · answered by detraf 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes ofcourse marrying 7 years younger than u ..may cause trouble in future...
now he is young...not enough matured...he may feel that he loves u som much thats ofcourse deep
but i think its not true....after some years u turn 40 and he turns 30 but he always thin that he is younger and may search for anyother girl
anyway it depends on u ...take a good decision ....based on ur experience ...not just by passions...
2007-04-29 21:17:20 · answer #10 · answered by ss 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My parents have been married for over 20 years now and my father is 11 years older then my mother. Go for it.
2007-04-29 21:14:49 · answer #11 · answered by Warrior Poet 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋