My husband and I were having an argument about his married brother. I have never cursed at his brother or any of his family member ( I might have called his brother irresponsable, impolite but I never said things like he is a basta** etc). My family, on the other hand always shows love and respect to my husband. So, while we were having this fight about his brother being irresponsible, out of the blue, my husband called my sister a bitc*. When all my sister has been is respectful towards him. I thought he said that to make me mad but it was completely uncalled for since I never cursed his brother even though his brother is sometimes disrespectful towards me. This fight happened two days ago and we are fine now but the problem is that whenever I remember that my husband called my sister a bitc*, I feel a little angry. Is it ok for me to feel a little angry at this even though the fight is over now but I never cursed at his family member ever during a fight with him???
2007-04-29 21:08:16 · 19 answers · asked by cutey 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I think that what you are feeling is more of a hurt than anger just by reading what you wrote. Now that it is over, you should speak with your husband and let him know that it hurt you so much that it is affecting you still. He should know that he crossed a line. When you argue, you never dis the family. That is a big no-no. It was a very disrespectful thing to do on his part.
2007-04-29 21:17:05 · answer #1 · answered by califdreamer_2000 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Swearing comes easier to some people than others and it is more acceptable in some families. It could just be that to him, calling your sister a bitc* in the middle of an arguement when he is all hot and bothered means nothing. He may not really feel that way about her.
Ask him if he really feels that about her (calmly and nicley) and explain that he hurt your feelings when he said it. It's possible that he won't even remember what he said.
If everything else in your mairrage is good, don't let this spoil things by bubbling away under the surface.
Most people say stupid things when they are angry.
Slim.
2007-04-29 21:20:18 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
From my experience, my husband and I leave our family out of our arguements. I think you and your husband should talk it out even though the arguement is already finished and you guys are ok, but you will always feel some type of hostility towards him for disrespecting your sister even though it was behind her back. Its ok to feel mad about it but the feeling of being mad at him will keep arising in you if you don't nip it in the bud. I learned that from experience. Hope what I said help :) Good luck ooohhh and never tell you sister PLZ don't ever tell her
2007-04-29 21:17:27 · answer #3 · answered by Mrs. A. 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
May I suggest that you sit down and talk with your husband?
You need some time to sort some things out ~ Openly and honestly!
Good Luck!!!!! :)
2007-04-29 21:12:19 · answer #4 · answered by pandora_293 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're not fine. And you have a right to be angry. He needs to aplogize for his ugly statement. He had no right to refer to your sister as he did. That is a reflection on you as well.
You need to resolve the issue, and clear the air. It will eat at you and creep into your next argument.
2007-04-29 21:18:06 · answer #5 · answered by iyamacog 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
every one has arguements and there is nothing wrong in that just let it go and get on track with your husband dont let this get you down the point of a arguement is that you get every thing outa your system then make up
2007-04-29 23:00:23 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Couples argue! In my opinion if we do not than we are lieing at some point. It was uncalled for if you do not use the same tatics, but let it go or you may never get past it.
2007-04-29 21:19:41 · answer #7 · answered by detraf 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Why is my husband mean to my dog?
2017-02-04 04:04:14 · answer #8 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
FIRST AND FOREMOST DO U LOVE YOUR HUSBAND IF SO!!!! THEN U NEED TO LEARN THE BIG WORD FORGIVENESS!!!!!!!!!!!!!
NOW DONT GET ME WRONG YOUR HUSBAND NEEDS TO LEARN A FEW BIG WORDS LIKE RESPECT HONOR DONT JUDGE,BEING POLITE AND BEING DECIENT
TO PEOPLE IN GENERAL WE ALL ARE HUMANS WE ALL MAKE MISTAKES WE TREAT PEOPLE THE WAY WE WANT TO BE TREATED AND HONESTY THIS WORLD NEEDS HONOR RESPECT AND A WHOLE LOT OF FORGIVENESS!!!! GOOD LUCK AND GOD BLESS!!!!!!!!!!!!KIMMY SUE
2007-04-29 21:18:05 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
then you haven't forgotten it. do you want this to rule your relationship? and the title of your question started with "another argument...". you might just want to go to counseling if you are fighting that much. it doesn't seem as though you are "fine now". good luck!
2007-04-29 21:12:20 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋