Do you think your boyfriend has the right to tell you how to spend your money, that he didnt give you?

Question

We have lived together for 8 years...both have been married..and we choose not to be married at this time. We 1/2 the bills...except I buy the food & toiletries + my 1/2 of bills. He buys what he wants...when he wants. I told him I think since we are not married...he doesnt have the right to tell me how to spend my money...I use coupons..and am very good with money...I would like to know others opinions on this.

Answer 1

Start telling him how to spend his money! I don't care if you go out and spend $500 on a pair of boots right now. He has NO RIGHT to tell you how to spend your money! It belongs to you. You belong to yourself.

I'm sorry if I sound angry. I think I'm a little outraged for you right now.

Answer 2

As long as it's your money and you're still paying your bills on time then you have the right to spend it however you want. If he has a problem with that, wake him up to his own spending habits. Or if he goes out and buys a $50 video game or something, buy something for yourself that's $50. If he says something about it, point to the video game he just bought and ask him why he gets to spend his money but you don't get to spend yours. Even if you were married, he still has no right to tell you how to spend your money, especially if you're still paying your bills. And the food and toiletries on top of that!

Answer 3

Well since it IS your money NO, he does NOT have the right to tell you how to spend it. EVEN if HE GIVES you money he has NO right to tell you how to spend it. Once he gives it to you it is your money. Unless of course he gave the money to you for a specific purpose. But other than that NO. My check pays the house mortage, my truck payment and a little extra the old lady takes care of everything else. My side job is spending money for both of us. This works well for me. But your plan sounds ok too. But your BF needs to contribute a bit more I think.

Answer 4

he is a controlling person, if this is true in other aspects of your relationship (does he help clean? shop? pay the bills? etc etc) you may need to rethink being with him. sometimes things creep up on us and we don't realize how bad they are until it is pointed out to us. i hope that's not the case, but no he has no right to tell you how to spend your money, and start giving him the receipts for food/toiletries and aking for his half!

Answer 5

Well I can see why he sticks around he has it good with you.You said you pay your 1/2 plus you cover all food and toiletries.
Tell him to get to paying his share of the groceries and toiletries,and spend your money as you see fit.
If he doesn't like it ,tell him to hit the road trust me it is his loss...

Answer 6

NOBODY has a right to try and tell you how to spend your money, when he doesn't contribute to your finances directly. I know his type: his money is his, and your money is his also.A chauvinist.Usually these types have "control" issues in their relationships. Of course after 8 yrs., you already know this!!! Absolutely DO NOT give into him and his petty whims..Good Luck

Answer 7

He has absolutely no right. Tell him if he's gonna be a jerk about it then he can buy his own toiletries and food.

Answer 8

I think if you've been together for 8 years, there's a lot more to this story than you're telling us.

Answer 9

My bf would need to duck very fast after he said something like that to me. That's why my bf doesn't live with me. My place, my dog, my bug, MY life. You need some boundries in that relationship.

Answer 10

yes thats right - your money is your money - maybe he's just caring on how you spend your money

but if you are good at it - then there's no problem