My wife has infertilty problem,can i divorse her,on what grounds?

Question

She has undergone IVF,failed completely,boy was borned in 8th month has died.Doctors has said that she is not fit for giving birth again,if she goes for another time she will die.
.She dn't even respect my family members,she is behaving like a monster,so i call her father send her father home.Please suggest me.I dn't want to divorse her,but want to go for 2nd marraige.Please suggest me with great soultion to my problem.

Answer 1

you will need to seek advice from a lawyer, but I advise u to keep your cool, maybe her acting as a 'monster' is because she also has lost her 8 month child, an okay if you think she is that bad why not divorce her and why marry another.
I suggest you go and find a surrogate where another women carries your baby, okay it may be your baby at least and that at least you'll have your own biological child/ren, or consider adoption - but it isn't vital and wouldnt recommend it as when the child turns 18 he or she will seek out to find their realparents leaving you discontented therefore the surrogate situation is more suited to you than ever.

Answer 2

Srinivas is that much only you love your wife? Is your wife's life of no importance for you? you want to marry other woman just because she cannot further proceed your generation. You are an educated and sensible person , you should try to understand your wife. You are only thinking about yourself. Think what would be the condition of your wife. She is very depressed and that is why her behaviour is very strange. Sending her to her father's house is not a solution to your problem. You should spent some time with her or take her outside so that her mind is diverted. You should talk to her softly so that she can share her problems with you. Stop taunting her, never neglect her and try to make her mind stable. Never talk about your second marriage. If you want a baby you can search for a sarogate mother or you can adopt a child. If your financial condition is good you can look for some medical treatment. Remember that she has always been with in your good and bad times. When a woman give birth to a new life she thinks that her life is complete, so never taunt her regarding this , so that she may think of ending her life. assure her that you will stand by her all your life in her bad and good times. If your family is forcing you then try to convince them but do not leave your wife alone.

Answer 3

I think you are holding your wife responsible for everything. The whole experience of a failed IVF and a lost baby must be quite traumatic for her and if she does not receive your support and understanding she will definitely turn bitter towards you and your family. If she is being pressurised by you all for a child when circumstances are beyond her control it is not fair that you think of dumping her. Talk to her and understand her feelings. she might be depressed about the whole situation and if there is mutual understanding I'm sure you will figure out a solution. You mentioned you don't want to divorce her but want to go in for a 2nd marriage.....what does that mean? I have a friend who experienced the same problem like you and she and her husband have adopted a child and it has changed their lives. Think of what will happen to your wife if you divorce her. You will carry on with your life after that but she will be in a worse situation.

Answer 4

I assume you are a Hindu. I do not know what kind of marriage you had, but in a normal Hindu marriage, both the bride and the groom take some oaths. They are to the effect that both of you would support each other in times of difficulty, and not leave the other. I think you have forgotten the oaths.

What's the big deal if you cannot have a child? Which century are you living in? There are thousands of childless couples who go through the life together, without abandoning each other. You always have the option of adopting a child if yo are fond of children.

It's not your wife's fault if she does not respect you or your family members if that's the kind of thinking you all have. I think you are in need of some serious counselling. Please see a counsellor so that you can see some sense.

Answer 5

now u posted two diff probs.about the infertility,put urself in her shoes.would she have left u if it were u who had the prob?did u just marry her as a machine for kids?
as for the second prob.do they treat her well like a daughter?even after the babies problem?do they not encourage u to divorce her or remarry?a lady feels all that even if they don't mention it infront of her.speak with both of them.if u find no sollution,then u should give her the right to choose her life,with u if u remarry or without u.this decision is not individual.marriage is all about u and her.u should involve her in such a big step,coz this is a big change,and u didn't tell her u might remarry under any conditions whn u first proposed,so now u should be nicer,specially after her birth prob.don't let ur parents interfere in ur life.believe me,ladies know and feel everything done and made at their backs.be fair to her,to urself,and to the next wife,if there will be one,coz u'll coose her out of need for childres,not out of love,and that's not good.
good luck.

Answer 6

When you tied the knot and went around the ritual fire, all those words the priests chanted mean something like this:

"You as a man would protect and lead this woman throughout your life together, and she shall walk behind you, following your footsteps".

Her inability to bear children is making you think of a second marriage!!

What if you had erectile dysfunction or impotence, and your wife said "I dont want to divorce him, but I would marry again!"

Rao! Look beyond your wife as a subservient, sex slave and children bearing machine! She has her emotions, feelings. She is more hurt by the fact that she has problems with her pregnancy. She needs love, support and above all respect.

I am sure she doesn't know that you are nurturing a monstrous thoght and belittling her in a web forum like this. By asking this question in this manner, you are belittling yourself and your ancestry!!

Behave like a true man!!

Answer 7

No, it is not sufficient reason for divorce. U say she is behaving like a monster, but it appears u are behaving like a monster. Just because she has a problem u want to divorce her, or go for a 2nd marriage. It is not her fault. Don't u love her.
Maybe she behaves like a monster because she feels harsh and is breaking down, because of all of u insisting on your 2nd marriage and a divorce.
Do u think a 2nd marriage or a divorce will solve your problem ? Do u think god will bless u with children if u do injustice to your present wife ?

Answer 8

Your question is: My wife has infertilty problem,can i divorse her,on what grounds?

Your last sentence says I dn't want to divorse her,but want to go for 2nd marraige.Please suggest me with great soultion to my problem.

Get it straight man...what do you want? Divorce her for infertility? or you want a second wife without divorce?

You can't do both.... no divorce is granted on the grounds of infertility and unless you are a muslim you cant have two wives.

How can you think of divorcing her for infertility? What if you were infertile?

Answer 9

Giving divorce is not the solution. Suppose after marraige if you were found in the same condition your wife would not have left you.She is behaving rudely because she is not getting respece and in the Indian culture when the boy died all the blame has gone to her. Even educated persons fail to understand that boy or girl depend on male.
After marraige you love has despaired?
Try to give more solace try to understand a mother who has given birth to a child and died for no fault of her. Try to love her and think always positive

Answer 10

As such her infertility is no ground for getting your marriage dissolved either by way of divorce or ennoblement. As far getting married second time during your first marriage is an illegal act & the second marriage will be void in the eye of law, even if she gives you permission for this & don't bring any criminal charges against you under section 494 of the Indian penal code for bigamy. The second wife bearing child for you & even such a child will be legitimate although your marriage is void, but the second wife will not be able to enjoy legal rights of inheritance of your property after your death, nor any other benefits of a legal wife under the matrimonial law applicable to you. Under all these circumstances you have to decide & make things clear to your second wife all such legal contingencies. The other alternative for you is to adopt some child & give him/her your name as a father & you continue with your present wife.