im 31yrs of age.my husband cheated on me to a 20yr.old,single,virgin b****!...my husband is good looking,he's 2 yrs older than me,but he look young in his age.we're in the process of fixing our marriage.my husband admitted he fell in love to that girl..,but he cant accept to suffer our marriage just because of her.,i know he's physically attracted & she's younger than me.,my husband is the first guy in her life,,,i know eventhough my husband is with me,i can feel he miss her..& i know in times we're making luv..he thinks her.,,its very hurting!!!i tried to be good in bed.,but its not enough,i can feel it.pls help me,,i'm not beautiful,i feel dump,insecure!!!help me to regain the love & affection of my husband.
2007-04-29 20:34:27 · 8 answers · asked by shannel d 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
you act like you did something wrong.girl don't do that to yourself.you deserve better.you say hes good looking who cares .take my advice please .leave him and you to could find love ,but real love i did.remember this when it gets hard after you leave him.i left him ,im glad i made that move i have control.let that little raised by dumb as*es home-wreaking tramp have him it will last about a minute and he will do the same to her but by this time you ll be chilling with Mr right instead of Mr right now cuz i cant think straight.i was you.i feel for you i truly do.
2007-04-29 20:59:24 · answer #1 · answered by STALKER BLOCK 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you got to pick yourself up and look forward to a new day because you deserve it. Pray for God's guidance and trust in the Lord. I think you need to allow yourself to explore other avenues in life where this is not the end of the world. You can always talk to your husband and ask him what he wants in life. If he still cannot forget that girl, I suggest you split and get on. There is much more to life than it is now.
2007-04-30 03:43:19 · answer #2 · answered by Ashley 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whether he is thinking about her or not, you are torturing yourself over what happened. What he did was hurtful and wrong to you, her and probably himself.
If he was just attracted to her because he could have sex with a younger virgin woman, then they probably have nothing in common and his interest will quickly pass.
But... if he has serious interest in her, or if he is the type who will do this many times with different women then you are better off leaving him now.
There is little you can do to regain his sole attention if he is the type who will always be looking for others. In this case, for your own welfare your are better off leaving.
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2007-04-30 04:08:25 · answer #3 · answered by Ratsoo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe what you think you are feeling, as far as him missing her or thinking of her, is just a part of that insecurity. when someone hurts you like that it's deep and affects your whole self. you don't feel worth anything because of what he did. point is, you cannot make him do anything. he will do what he wants, he will make up his own mind. he made up his mind to be with you and he has to hold true to his promises. what you are doing right now is comparing yourself to this other girl. i don't know any surefire ways to stop that mindset, but i do know that it will overcome you if you let it. it is up to you if you want to continue to live feeling like this, knowing he admitted to having feelings for this girl. personally, no matter how much i loved someone, if they told me they loved someone else i would have to let them go. you will feel insecure and you will hurt for a while to come so be patient with yourself. write it out, talk it out, because if you let everything build up in your head you will only feel worse. you can't make anyone love you, they have to decide this on their own. you deserve someone who loves you completely.
2007-04-30 03:58:54 · answer #4 · answered by mrs. lady 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You will be coming into your prime within this decade. That means you will wake up one day, and ask yourself what you wish to do with your life. AND it may NOT include your husband. His infidelity will no longer affect you, and your insecurity will vanish. BELIEVE IT!
2007-04-30 04:13:27 · answer #5 · answered by iyamacog 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
forgive him nd talk to him about the girl. meet the girl and tell her how much pain she is causing u and herself by getting in to a guy who is not worthy of trust.. when he has ditched u he can ditch her too.
forgive ur hubby once more and live with him forgetting about the girl.
2007-04-30 03:55:07 · answer #6 · answered by hubby 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Dump the dirt bag.
2007-04-30 03:45:12 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
go to a freak show and then you will realize how lucky you are that you dont have 3 legs.
2007-04-30 03:43:49 · answer #8 · answered by Luna 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋