Thanks all. The problem is how would his and my parents react and most important what will happen in time? I never got married with the reason I never believed men could be loyal to women. Or in other words I will be so hurt if someone I gave my heart deceives me (never experienced it and try to keep myself away from such things). I love him, but I don't believe there is a forever love. What happens when he is bored with me or vice versa? I am really confused.
2007-04-29 20:10:24 · 16 answers · asked by coco_80 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Wait 3 years.
It is hard to really say, but I think that people change a lot between 20 and 25. At least I did.
Also, what is the hurry? It is not uncommon for people to have long engagements nowadays.
2007-04-29 20:14:31 · answer #1 · answered by Jeremy D 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First - if you loved this man you would not have to ask ANYONE for their opinion.
Second - if you have never been in love or hurt because of your fear of pain or rejection - how do you know that you are in love with this man?
Surely you are old enough to understand that NO-ONE can predict the future. You will either grow up together with this man or he will grow up on his own and away. There is not a think in the world that will stop happening what is going to happen. Have you ever heard of the saying 'live for the day' - well, that is all you can do. You can only live for today because you have no idea what tomorrow is going to bring - or even if you have a tomorrow!
I would rather have been in love and had some precious times that I will remember all my life than to die with regrets.
Seven years is nothing! When you are fifty and he is forty three who is going to know? No-one except the two of you.
And because you say that you do not believe in forever love you are already saying that this is going to fail. The moment that we tell ourselves that we cannot do something - the game is up.
Of course there is such a thing as forever love - I found it - so can you!
Take the leap of faith and from the first day of your marriage - FIGHT to keep it alive and well!
Good luck and best wishes for a very happy future to you both!
2007-04-29 20:19:02 · answer #2 · answered by isobellistowel 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Im unsure if interior the long-term it is the staggering element to do. adult men advance particularly slower than us gals. My fiancee' is 24 and he acts like he's eighteen each now and then... lol... as a mature female i'm particular you may want to proportion a lot of a similar characteristics and not experience such as you're speaking to a toddler maximum circumstances. regardless of if he's extremely mature, he's basically 22. you haven't any longer even began to stay existence yet. exceptionally to no longer be married. Wait it out some. there is not any longer something undesirable which could come from it. There are 2 innovations: a million. Wait s few years and he leaves. Which in straightforward terms tells you he became into by no skill fairly waiting to devote to existence in any case... 2. Or wait some years and he won't in straightforward terms be a sprint older, a sprint greater matured, and mature, yet your bond would be some years greater good, providing you with an superior beginning place to start a effective marriage. till then, ditch the ideas of FOREVERNESS and precise now artwork on TOGETHERNESS! good success and enable me be attentive to if this facilitates!
2016-10-14 03:48:58 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no age thing here, he is 22 that would make you 29 so you are a few years older that is not a big thing, the big thing here is you making a big deal about it hon relax you already thinking about how is going to be in the future, you always going to be seven years older than him, forget about it if it makes you feel better you could exercise and keep in shape so you can feel physically compatible with your man.. but other than that the age difference is not really big. Think about it this way when he is 80 your will be 87 get it? you both are going to be old as hell LOL you are in the same age group now quit stressing your self over this.. If he hurt you is going to be for the same reason that all men do, because they are men and they can do it and we allow it.. has nothing to do with age.. Just relax hon and enjoy your relationship is all good. Good luck..
2007-04-29 23:23:08 · answer #4 · answered by boricua_2290 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he is committed to you and up for the family reaction then that is 2 things in your favor. Seven years can make a big difference when the youngest is a teen, but he has had 3+ years out. But has he been out on his own or dependent on parents for school, etc? Even so, it is an individual case by case situation. So if the choices could be (1) you don't try a relationship and 10 years go by alone (2) you go for it and 10 years go by before it doesn't work, which would you choose? But of course you don't want to go forward expecting it to fail in 10 years or ever. So if the possible gain is worth the risks then go for it.
2007-04-29 20:18:08 · answer #5 · answered by Over The Rainbow 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you even think that there is no forever love than the answer is no.
You are worried about him being bored with you. You do not trust him.
If you think you are really in love then there is no rush. Time tests love. If you are still together after awhile and you learn to trust him then go for it.
Marriage is very serious. Yes, you can get divorced but it's very time consuming and can be costly.
The guy is young, perhaps he doesnt't know whatlove is and may develop a wandering eye to "experience" the world. Perhaps he is loyal and will love you forever. I cannot say..
Give it time and you can probably figure everything out on your own.
2007-04-29 20:14:47 · answer #6 · answered by J R 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i understand what u mean by not being able to trust guys and i dont believe there is a perfect true love but i think there is a forever love wen u have 2 ppl that love eachother enough to not ever do anything to hurt them and such. as far as the age difference and u having difficulty deciding u have to ask yourself how much he loves you and how faithful u think he can be, unfortunately especially cause hes younger, but if u think he really loves you and he wouldnt do anything to hurt you and you feel the same way marriage could definately be the right way to go, but at the same time be very catious.. love and marriage are delicate things
2007-04-29 20:16:44 · answer #7 · answered by D4Ni3L 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi Coco 80, I don't see a problem with a 7 year different. One thing i know for sure is don't get marry to anybody. This way if things don't workout you can grab your hat and move on. I just went through a very nasty and dirty divorce. You would not like how your ex husband can turn against you in court specially when they don't want to pay alimony to you. I made a promise to myself after going through HELL with this abuser, lier and a cheater than i will never marry anybody ever again. I will live with them until something happens to make me move on. This is how i feel now and will live. I forgot it doesn't matter what your parents think or his. It's both of your lifes' not theirs'..
A Friend.
Clowmy
2007-04-29 20:23:13 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can almost guarantee you that he will cheat on you 99% of all
men cheat it's a fact of life.But other then that the two ot you
can have a normal happy life together.I married a man 6 years younger then me and that was one son and 28 years
ago.He was 20 and I was 27 when we married and he was 37 when he cheated on me.
2007-04-29 21:27:13 · answer #9 · answered by Teenie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try a extended engagement. If you two are planning on spending the rest of your lives together, what is 3 or 4 years?
2007-04-29 20:18:04 · answer #10 · answered by sevenelizabeth 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋