The mother of my two children is involved with someone else and is planning on moving to another state within the next few weeks. I see an invitation to death standing in front of me...please help me!!!
2007-04-29 20:06:14 · 10 answers · asked by briansmithem 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
dont you dare do anything silly. your kids love you and need you around. it will get better trust me it does and theres someone else out there for you and you just have to believe that.
get some counselling and believe in yourself. nothing is worth taking your life - imagine how sad your kids would be.
chin up and soldier on...
2007-04-29 20:36:10 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all...you need to realize that she is obviously not the one for you...which means that THE ONE is somewhere out there still. Do you really want to leave her all alone in this world?
Have faith that you will find her.
Also...as expensive as this must be for you, ask to see the children on regular-ish visits.
Just know that there is ALWAYS something out there to make you happy. You may be rock bottom right now, but the wheel of fortune WILL turn in your favor eventually...trust me.
I have been this upset before myself and then time goes by and I am happy as can be. I had a good friend murder another close friend when we were only in highschool. It was over nothing too (not that anything would have been ok).
I have experienced A LOT of pain and heartache throughout my whole entire life, and yet I know to keep on going because then those times come that I would never have wanted to miss.
Think of your mother. Think of your father. Think of your CHILDREN. Think of all those who love you and will miss you.
At times it may seem as if there is nobody who cares...but I can assure you there is ALWAYS someone who cares...you just may not know it.
You children especially NEED you here. I am not close at all to my father and he also doesnt live near me, and yet if I were to lose him...because he died...I dont know what I would do. I would for sure be sent into a deep depression.
You should talk to your doctor about this. He/she may be able to help.
Keep on keeping on!
2007-04-30 03:16:38 · answer #2 · answered by Intuitive Dreamer 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey Brian, hold on. Look at all the great things you've got. You have two children you want to watch grow up. You've got your own life which will present new opportunities and new challenges to you every day. So look inside and see all the great and wonderful things you are, and celebrate how stupendous you are. Honor yourself. If your spouse is running off, she obviously has lost her marbles, doesn't have the brains or common sense to recognize how wonderful you are...so who wants someone like that? Look how lucky you are to have discovered she isn't the one for the long haul. Thank God you discovered it now instead of later. So celebrate your good fortune, celebrate your own greatness and focus on the wonderful life you will make for yourself.
2007-04-30 03:13:29 · answer #3 · answered by judgebill 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have every reason to live coz God created you with a purpose.You should not end your life coz God does not want it to end now.I believe that you have not completeed your mission in this world so gain power to face all and complet what God wants you to.Also remember temptations exist to test your faith.She might leave you now but that is not the end move on ,conquer all and the world shall be on your side.Have trust of God and he shall help you through.All the best and God's blessings.
2007-04-30 03:19:09 · answer #4 · answered by Sirah 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you love your children ???
That is reason enough to stay alive and be there for your kids.
How do you think you children would feel to know that Daddy was a weakling and couldn't handle the fact that Mom left him ???
They would think of you as a coward WHO DID NOT LOVE THEM !!!
You need to stop thinking like that and concentrate on what you have to do.
Go in the morning to the court and file for custody of your kids...and tell them she's leaving out of state with htem.
This will put a bolder in her road.
****THINK ABOUT YOUR KIDS AND HOW MUCH THEY NEED YOU AND WANT YOU AROUND !!! DON'T HURT THEM. THEIR MOM IS ALREADY DOING THIS BY TAKING THEM AWAY ****
2007-04-30 03:13:43 · answer #5 · answered by CUTIE PIE 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OMG!! you are finally relieved and you're thinking of death? ei take it as a blessing in disguise cuz now you can be yourself and find someone better, provided you have been the almost perfect husband to her, if not, ye she deserves to be happy too.
isn't the two kids enough reason to live?
2007-04-30 03:24:27 · answer #6 · answered by jables 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I promise you it gets better, your children may be a little further away but they are only a phone call away. Plus summer is coming up and you should get them the whole summer!
My heart goes out to you.
2007-04-30 03:11:12 · answer #7 · answered by betty_htch 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to suck it up! You are obviously depressed ( and who wouldn't be) and need to seek some help. You also need to fight for your kids! Don't just let her take them to another state, call a lawyer. Another point i would like to make is......how would you like for your kids to know that Daddy killed himself, and didn't care enough to stick around and be a father? You don't want that. Seek some help with the depression, its normal, and fight for your kids. Don't give up, things will get better.
2007-04-30 03:11:28 · answer #8 · answered by Jessica S 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it may seem grim right now,but life will go on and it will shine on you again just stick around to allow it. this is fresh even a papercut takes days to feel better,now a heart takes a little longer but this to shall heal.
2007-04-30 03:13:04 · answer #9 · answered by STALKER BLOCK 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know things seem to be at their worst but honey you have to love yourself before you can ask someone to love you. Even though she is moving you still have kids who love you and need you here and not dead. God bless you honey..
2007-04-30 03:47:13 · answer #10 · answered by memori_19 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋