My roommate and I had been friends for over a year before he moved in with me. He started dating this girl a year ago and she has been nothing but a strain of problems for our friendship. At first she lived at the house without my permission. I spoke to my friend about it but he didn't understand, nor respected my concerns. She was there when he wasn't, and used everything without paying for anything. Finally she moved to a different place and they now hang out between the two places but she hates my guts. She is constantly mean to me due to her insecurity in the realtionship. She claims to be sick and calls in the middle of the night if he is hanging out with me or any friend who is a female. It has gotten to a point where it is even impacting my other two roommates (they are married). I just am tired of having her come into my house and snap at me for no reason at all. I hate myself for not being supportive of their relationship- I really could some advice and support.
2007-04-29 19:05:18 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Tell your friend this needs to stop. Don't ask them to stop it, tell them. Give him an ultimatum. Pretty much it boils down to this: respect me or go. If he's truly your friend, then he'd abide by it. If not, then it's better he leaves.
Also, you probably should mention his gf is being unhealthy in the way she expresses herself. Way too jealous, but to be honest with you, he probably won't hear you out. He seems to rather enjoy ignoring the red flags. Sometimes you have to sit it out and let your friends take their lumps.
The key to being a friend is this: you have to be a water fountain not a river. You have to be able to sit back and let them drink at their convenience, not drown them in good intentions.
2007-04-29 19:12:45 · answer #1 · answered by jon s 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Are you my brother? Because this situation sounds oh too familar. Ha. Anyways, who's house it exactly? If the relationship is effecting everyone in the house you need to talk to your roommate about the situation. Who evers house it is needs to have a talk with him about the fact of her using their stuff and how you dont mind her being there (even though you do) but if she is going to use your stuff she is going to have to contribute. You guys all pay rent and utilities if they are being used by someone else on a regular basis they will need to be charged or have to make up for it some how...making dinner, painting etc. Sometimes people do not think when roles are reverse they would not like that if you would do that to them. She might get upset when he initially tells her but she does need to understand that if she had that happening at her place from one of her roommates she would be freaking out. Good luck and hopefully everything will work out.
2007-04-29 19:15:45 · answer #2 · answered by marinesprincess 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try talkin to your friend. tell him every thing you just told thousand of strangers. Tell him this living situation is not working out because of his girl. Of course he will be upset. You have to set the record straight and let him no that you can stand his girl. You might lose a friend but in the end you have two think of your other to roommates. you can always find a new friend.
2007-04-29 19:14:05 · answer #3 · answered by tanlaask 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask him to move out. That will solve all the problems. Say that you have all spoken about the trouble this girl has caused and it has been decided that he should move somewhere else as you all cant handle that stress on top of your own stuff.
2007-04-29 19:13:26 · answer #4 · answered by karena k 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get a friend to do the same to her - snap at her, be mean to her, etc., you could do it too, but it would be better coming from another girl.
Or you can kick him out, but make sure you have a replacement.
2007-04-29 19:09:22 · answer #5 · answered by Veronica 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
so that you and your fiance favor to cutting-edge a united the front and sit down him down and tell him the homestead guidelines. both he obeys the guidelines or he's out of the homestead. and that i might want to ask him to sparkling his bathing room and do dissimilar the different chores too. both that, or he pays for a weekly cleansing woman. And NO dishes contained in the bedroom, ever. allow him purchase paper plates.
2016-12-05 02:29:40 · answer #6 · answered by niesporek 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"I spoke to my friend about it but he didn't understand, nor respected my concerns".
You could have stopped right there. The problem is not his girlfriend. Get It?
2007-04-29 19:12:54 · answer #7 · answered by David M 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Kick your roommate out.
2007-04-29 19:13:55 · answer #8 · answered by philip_v_ph 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
what a gay gf get rid of the itch
2007-04-29 19:08:35 · answer #9 · answered by Ivanka <3 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋