I don't want to be Homosxual!!!!?

Question

I don't want to be a homosexual!!! Sometimes i find myself looking to goodlooking guys...I hate it....Sometimes i dreamt that i have intercourse with some other guys... and i feel disgusted...when i'm masturbating i always fantasized with a guy... and i hate it...what should i do...to stop this madness!!!please help...any psychologist there?i'm serious!!!

Answer 1

I'm not sure of your age, but what I am sure of is there is nothing wrong with you liking the same sex. You are who you are and there is nothing you can do about it! stop beating yourself up over liking and fantasizing about other guys. Society is the one that puts pressure on people defining to them whats right and whats wrong. As a psychologist, I tell you, be who you are!

Answer 2

First you need to ask yourself why do you feel disgusted for your attraction to other guys. If your answer is somewhere along the lines of "simply because it is not accepted" or "it is against your religion", then it is clear that you are in self-denial. Accept yourself for who you are because homosexuality is not something that can be changed. No matter how much you try to conceal your orientation it will just create problems for you in the long run. You might not want to display your feelings outright, but at least acknowledge them.
Perhaps you have been spending too much time around men. Try thinking about and spending more time with girls. Do you feel any different from when you are with guys?
Another option is to try spending more time with guys. Do you still feel the same way after that experience?

some extra info: Studies have shown that there is a correlation between the number of older brothers a man has and his likelihood of being homosexual (for biological reasons).

Answer 3

What have your relationships been like with women are you sexually attracted to them? Do you have sexual fantasies about them? Do you get sexually aroused when you have fantasies about women? You must sit down and honestly answer these questions. What ever you do don't lie to yourself you are only hurting yourself. There is nothing wrong with going to a sex therapist; talking to someone who doesn't have a hidden agenda (basically unbiased) is the best way to go. There are plenty of support groups out there if you are. BTW you could also be Bi if you are OK stop beating yourself up on something that you have no control over. Judging from the majority of the answers you have gotten so far you will not have any trouble finding understanding supportive friends.

Answer 4

First thing you have to do is accept yourself. You are hating yourself because you move away from what you feel is normal. Instead what you should do is try it out. If you are homosexual, the experiance may open your eyes and help you become more open minded to what you really are. If you truely are not homosexual, then being that close to a man will REAAAAALLY make you wish you were with a woman.

... Just a thought ^_^

Answer 5

sometimes it just a phase.
I went thorough it. You can usually tell after awhile if you really are gay or if its just a curiosity thing. For me I think its curiosity, I find I like really hot white guys or cute black girls but that was it.

can you see yourself settling down with a female? If you can then no worries. Then the guy thing is just a masturbation issue.

Answer 6

You are who you are. Any attempt to change your natural sexual preference is just going to hurt you emotionally and psychologically. Religion might help you act heterosexual out of guilt even though you are still homosexual and still are attracted to men, but I don't think anyone wants that. Just accept it and move on with your life, is my advice. I have plenty of amazing, interesting, kind homosexual friends who are well-adjusted and have accepted that their lifestyle may not be the societal norm, but on the whole our society is moving in the right direction.

Answer 7

Please don't be upset about questioning your sexuality! It is normal and it's okay. There are lots of people out there that will tell you it's bad and it's not. Some were just taught by their parents that it is bad and we all know that parents do not know everything! Others are homophobic because they are gay and don't want people to know it. Some people just fear what they do not understand. If you need to talk feel free to e-mail me because I have talked to many people about this before.

Answer 8

excuse me while I make a written verbal expression of my frustration over the matter before I answer this... "YARGHHH!!"

Ok, with that off my chest, I need to say:

1. there isn't such a thing as gay/straight/bi/whathaveyou
2. it's all in your head

with that in mind, all you need to do is calm yourself down, and begin conciously stopping yourself whenever you think you are about to have a homosexual thought. after you've gotten yourself to the point where you can stop your thought process before you go through with it, then relax, chillax, chill, attempt to live like things are normal, and before you know it, I'll bet you'll find yourself flirting with a girl.

just remember, all your sexual thoughts are your thoughts. you aren't jammed into some sort of gay determinism, unlike what popular culture tries to tell you. the fact that it's gotten to this point is because you actually believe this widespread falsity about set sexualities.

Answer 9

it's normal to have thoughts about the other sex. That doesn't necessarily make you homosexual, in my opinion. You may want to talk to a sex therapist. I would say to accept your thoughts as normal and everything will fall into place.

Answer 10

Check out fhu.com and search for the topic on there.