i am young and just had a baby 8wks ago, i cannot enjoy sex anymore, its so nerve racking and i feel like its kinda ruining my marriage. is there anything i can do to bring back the wonderful feeling of wanting to have sex again? no dumb answers plz
2007-04-29 18:31:10 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Women's Health
my hubby gets upset when i cant do it with him. i feel the more i hold out or cannot do it he may leave.. i dont know what else to do.
2007-04-29 18:40:44 · update #1
you had a baby eight weeks ago he need to calm down and if HE cant wait then theres another man that willl
2007-04-29 20:05:00 · answer #1 · answered by shar main lady 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have a 2 month old baby I'm guessing you are quite stressed and not getting enough sleep? Bet you also have quite low self esteem and are slightly body conscious? All of these combined with hormones that aren't really back in sync yet lead to you feeling run down, exhausted and generally not in the mood for sex. My advice is this, the best way to achieve an orgasm is to be with someone you really love in very close very intimate sex. The best way to achieve this is to feel close to that person so try that. Be close to them, talk to them, share your day. Sit down and have a cup of tea together and generally just enjoy each other's company. Also the more you think about organsiming the less likley to achieve it so try not to worry. Accept that it will come when it comes and then it will :)
2016-05-17 06:53:35 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it's been only 8 weeks since your baby, your hormones might just still be a little off. Maybe you should just wait a little longer. A lot of women after pregnancy don't really feel that into sex again for quite a few months.
2007-04-29 18:35:04 · answer #3 · answered by Lot's Wife 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Having a baby is a pretty stressfull experience on a woman's body- & it takes awhile to readjust to a new "equalibrium" (not to mention a new lifestyle!). I know time must be pretty "tight" for you just now, but see if you can squeeze an hour of exersize in every day. That will speed along your body's recovery, increase your stamina...-& possibly restimulate your interest in "other" things... :) (Note; I mean "exersize" as in going for a jog, a long walk, a bike ride- etc. Jumping up & down to check on the baby- doesn't count).
2007-04-29 18:45:14 · answer #4 · answered by Joseph, II 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give yourself a weekend off. Pack the little bundle of joy to your parents. Baby is old enough. Tell your husband to plan romance. If he is wise he won't try to just jump you. If you are wiser, you'll tell him what you want to feel sensual.
You need the whole weekend to reconnect. Spend time just talking, napping together, etc. It doesn't have to be an expensive affair to work. However, a night on the town might help too.
Good luck.
2007-04-29 18:39:01 · answer #5 · answered by amazingly intelligent 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Having a baby floods the body with a lot of hormones that you were probably not used too.. Every woman's body is diff rent so you might want to go to the doctor and see if it's some sort of depression.
2007-04-29 18:34:48 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Having a new baby causes many women to have a decrease in sex drive. It's totally normal. Give yourself time, you will enjoy sex again. Check out these pages and show them to your husband to help him understand what sex after having a baby is like for a lot of women:
http://www.webmd.com/sexual-conditions/news/20070320/painful-sex-common-after-giving-birth
http://blogs.webmd.com/sexual-health-sex-matters/2006/07/top-10-reasons-women-dont-want-sex.html
In addition, sex takes a lot of work! And when you have a baby, it's nearly impossible to find extra time or energy. So try to be patient and keep that in mind.
2007-04-29 18:43:36 · answer #7 · answered by Maggie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Geez you just had a baby, tell him to lay off of you for a while!! Its not uncommon for women not to want to have sex right after giving birth because your body has gone through a lot. And if your husband truly loves you and cares about his family, he will not chose to leave you just because you are not in the mood for sex right now.
2007-04-29 19:16:53 · answer #8 · answered by michelles_sfa 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
give it time, you just had a baby , let the hormones in you body reset themselves. You have to have patience, with the baby that young i would be willing to bet you haven't been sleeping a lot. let your baby grow and enjoy the process and eventually you will want to have sex again. and you will be able to enjoy it. I have 4 kids and watched my wife struggle through the same things.
2007-04-29 18:37:44 · answer #9 · answered by Friar_Jon 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is pretty common among women who recently had babies. The best thing you can do is wait. Adjust to your new parenthood for awhile...when a better routine falls into place with your child, your old desires should return.
Be sure your hubby knows that this is normal, and he may just have to "take care of things himself" for a few more weeks. :-) It will be okay.
2007-04-29 18:35:02 · answer #10 · answered by Esma 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋