does divorce create long-term negative effects for children?

Answer 1

There's many criteria to consider in this question. The effect of the splitting of the family in terms of relationships, income and parenting issues are the ones I find to be most consequential. Really all of these factors depend upon the situations of the individuals involved. In terms of income it can certainly have a negative impact for children who have mothers who have been SAHM who now need to return to work force after many years removed or if the parents made just enough to support the family together. The ramifications become more drastic the lower down on the income bracket one is. Parenting issues can also create I think a negative effect, in terms of a child not having parents to provide care and attention needed on daily basis. Not only in terms of single parent not being available as much but also the non-custodial parent is removed generally on a daily basis from these activities. This however, doesn't have to be the case but requires a cooperative relationship between and determination of the parents to work out the details to make this a possibility. In terms of familial relationships, it seems to me is the one area that shouldn't be a problem if the parents attitudes and behaviors in relation to their child(ren) and their ex-mates is done with consideration. If have and maintain a good relationship with your child(ren) and your able to interact with and make decisions with you ex to benefit your child(ren) then it really shouldn't be an issue. Maintaining a positive image of family, intimate relationship(s) with their child(ren) and cooperative relationship with you ex-mate in terms of your child(ren) even in divorce is something great parents work hard at doing.

Answer 2

Not near as much as staying in a negative marriage for "thier sake" would.
It is less harm on the kids for parents to split while they can still at least talk about the kids without screaming. Then if you try to struggle and stay together and fight constantly.
I personally have been there and even if you think the kids dont know they do. They feel the tension and hear more then you think.
It maybe hard it may take alot of adjustment but overall it is better for them to be children of divorce then children of a unhappy household.

Answer 3

It does if the parents use them to get back at each other after the split. The DIVORCE doesn't cause negative effects, the PARENTS do. Just the same if they stay in a miserable marriage, the PARENTS cause the negative effects. Good parents raise good children, divorced or married.

Answer 4

Minor age children not only are a life-long bond between two people who, pretty much, despise each other, but they witness this scary break-up of their parents marriage---and all kinds of fears and mournful feelings literally pour out their minds and hearts---which gets broken tragically--espicially if THEY feel to be blamed for their parents divorce.

Sad, isn't it? Divorce is pretty much ugly---hmmmm....interesting how that got stated......

Parents can do their part by openly speaking to their children, comforting them positively---and for God's sake---refrain completely from insulting or "bashing" the other parent....NO MATTER HOW MUCH YOU HATE THEM!!!

Let the kids know the divorce is NOT the end of anyone's world, just means a few changes in living have to be made---but all will be all right. Divorced parents also share burdens in answering 'Are you and Mommy/Daddy going to get back together????" Well....THAT is YOUR issue.

Answer 5

For today's youth it is more comman to have divorced parents than married ones. Show them by example how to be good people, and assure them that you both still love them. Try to work out an arragement that you can both be part of their lives. And don't talk badly about your ex to the kids. Venting needs to be done away from them, they do not have to choose. If you consider your actions an show you care, the children will be fine.

Answer 6

Yes. Unless a parent is violent or on drugs parents need to do the right thing and make a happy family for their children. Children have a greater chance at a healthy secure life and future when their parents are mature enough to put themselves last and their children first. It takes mental stability and a REAL belief in GOD to do the right thing!!!

Answer 7

DIVORCE is a very critical decision made by both husband and wife..especially if they have kids. i am from Philippines and there is no divorce in here. BUT, i am amenable with some other countries having divorce as a legal action. parents should slowly little by little to explain and to feel the real atmosphere between what had happened to their home. kids had a hard timer to cope up with it ,so parents should have patience to deal with it. crisis intervention needed for their kids .so that love and respect should be instilled not anger to the kid's heart and mind,. CAREFUL parents. this is a big decision. Save marriage as you can. PRAY. Think for your kid's future . Do not give assurance to your kids but be supportive and stay with your kids until he or she can cope up with it.

Answer 8

everything has it's cause and effects so to answer your question, yes. but it depends on how you educate your children and how they view your divorce. my parents aren't divorced but they live unhappily together and has a long term negative effects on us!

Answer 9

Plain and simple, yes!

But so does having two parents that don't love each other and just stay married because of the children.

Answer 10

yes...if the parents don't get along! For the sake of the children, be civil and cordial to one another.