Social Problem!?

Question

I care way too much what impression I leave on people.

For example, the way I say goodbye to someone or the way I say hi to someone. It leaves me thinking about it for a long time after it happens. I know it doesn't matter at all to that person, but for some reason I think that it really does matter. That person does really judge how you act, and I don't wanna do something to make someone not like me.

I fear rejection, so I have trouble connecting with females. And the ones I do connect with I'm too afraid to actually ask if they wanted to hang out or go on a date.

Even on facebook, or MSN. I don't make very many comments or talk to people that much.

I suck! Is anyone else like this, or was not very socially confident? And how did you overcome it?

The whole rejection part kinda came out wrong, I don't really fear rejection all that much, and I do look at myself positively. People that get to know me think I am very unique.

I just have a hard time starting a strong relationship with someone, but once we get to know each other we can have the most amazing conversations.

From what I've read so far, I would say I have some social anxiety.

I'm also very introversive. I associate those social whores who drink every weekend with unintelligence and idiocy.

I enjoy alone time, but I also enjoy connecting with people who are also as smart as me. So yeah, I guess I understand my problem.

Thanks to everyone who responded though.

Answer 1

I'm kind of like you in one way. I do care a lot about the impression I leave on people. I am always thinking about how I approached a person and what I said and how I said it. And just like you said, the other person doesn't really care that much, but I do. I don't really fear rejection, I just want to leave a good impression, and I want to feel good about it. Using Yahoo Answers has really increased my communication with other people though.

Answer 2

I totally get what you mean. I have been critisized for doing the same things pretaining to the 1st problem.
The thing you're doing is overthinking. You're thinking way toom much on things that other people take 2 seconds to consider. Just don't think.

As for the rejection, u need to be more optimistic. So you get rejected. As long as you did it you can't regret it. Knowing that you gave it your all at the end of the day is something to be proud of.

Answer 3

Let me see if I get this straight. Your screen name is delicreep and you make statements like, "I suck." Yet you wonder why you have trouble attracting the opposite sex. Hmmm. Here's a hint: self loathing is unattractive. It also does nothing for the self esteem.
Read some self help books or see a therapist. Don't worry about dating until you can look at yourself positively.

Answer 4

I hear ya Im the same way but you have to put yourself out there, some people will like you and some wont that it just the way life it. You do not want to go through life alone so you have to be yourself and know that others are like you. Have fun in life, good luck!

Answer 5

It sounds like you have a mild social anxiety. I would highly reccomend you visit socialanxietysupport.com, register and join the forums where you can post your frustrations and get advice from people who truly know what you're going through and will be able to offer you the best advice. Good luck.

Answer 6

I believe you had answered your own question - you are not socially confident. Work on it or seek some professional help. On the statement "I suck!" - I believe it must be a personal sexual abberation or has ''gay-rish'' connotations.