How many of you, needed those Spankings?

Question

I certainly did. (Ol' Buzzard, was not a good child) I deserved every one one of `em. And I still love my Mother dearly. Now I know there are Parents that abuse their Children. I am sorry for those. But this is about those of us that got it? Got it when we needed it? And it helped us in every way.
Questions to answer. Is this one of the big reasons that Children; Young Kids; Young Teens; And Young Adults. Have problems with their Parents? They've been spared from the Rod. That has made our Generation, respect others?
Have you raised your Children, like you were raised? Or did you treat them differently?

[Again: I do not wanna appear unsympathetic to ones who are mistreated. I know there are too many cases to understand. I just wanna talk about those of us who deserved it]

Don't you wish you could go back, and let your Parents do it all over again? Aren't you a better person for it?

Thank you, Chris! I'm glad to see, SOMEONE, knows what I'm talking about! Jeepers folks!

To anyone else that wishes to answer. I know ones do "beat" their Children. They are disgusting Human beings. I know there are others. Who were given "SPANKINGS", (thank you) that they deserved! Anyone. Any one at all?

Answer 1

I had my fair share of spankings as a child. The funny thing is, before I had children I vowed NEVER to spank my kids. That changed when my son turned 3 and tried to run in a very crowded parking lot. I figure, I would rather have my son with hurt feelings than one that got run over by a car. I don't spank my kids much but when I do, they know I mean business.

I do treat my children differently though. I was spanked for disagreeing with my father. I only spank in extreme cases.

I can't stand it when people tell me I can't discipline my children.

Answer 2

Well I was both spanked and beaten. I can say there is a big difference in the two. I got spankings I deserved. When I ran into a busy road I deserved a spanking. When I broke a dish in the kitchen I didn't deserve to be sent flying across the room. I also believe that the use of an object instead of your hand turns a spanking into abuse. If you use a belt, spoon or whatever ...that is crossing the line.

I also believe there is age as a factor here. Kids under 4-5 don't always know what is a serious mistake. After that they have a good sense of what is a serious mistake or not. After that age I think spanking is really not the best way to handle things. I do spank my kids. But I will say this, I have spanked my older son 3 times in the 3 years he has been alive. All of which were things that could have killed him. He touched my stove after I gave him a warning, he ran into the road when I told him to stay on the driveway, and he played wrestling at the top of a staircase. Because I don't use spankings all the time he knows how serious the offense was when I do use them. If you spank your child for everything they do wrong it stops being effective and starts being damaging.

This has been my experience with my own childhood and how I raise my kids, hope this is what you were looking for.

Answer 3

I guess I did deserve some of those painful spanking sessions but I certainly did not enjoy any of them, especially when my pants were down and I had to get spanked on my bare bottom, lol!

I wasn't a very naughty child but I didn't always obey, if you know what I mean.

But I certainly didn't come up with any cruel pranks either, unlike some kids would, and on a regular basis too, if I may add!

Am I a better person for it?

Probably.

Discipline is very important after all.

Would I let my parents do it to me all over again?

Hell no!!!

Ouch, lol!





P.S. I don't have any children so I don't really know how I would discipline a child, especially one of mine!

Answer 4

I never had behavior inappropriate enough to warrant the beatings I got as a child, I don't think any child should be hit with a belt, or turned over someones knee. And kitchen utensils are never warranted. I was terrified of my mother. I have never spanked my kids and we get along great for the most part. There are times we don't but if there is always appropriate consequences for their actions and consistency. There is no reason for beatings
Thanks for listening

Answer 5

Yes I did deserve many of my spankings, but not most.
My mother was a drunk, a very bitter, hateful atheist drunk. She took her bitterness out on the youngest member of the family, me. She was both verbally, and physically abusive, and died drunk, gurgling in her own vomit. My father was the backslider son of a Free Methodist Bishop. He had long since reject the Faith of his Family, he was detached, and uninvolved, except for applying discipline, and to his dieing day, he never acknowledged his wife's sickness.

No, I wouldn't go back to my childhood and be abused like that again, at 51, I still carry the emotional scares of it. No I doubt I am a better person for it, I can see both my mother and my father in me, and it sickens me. When I was backsliding myself, I was so vile, God help me !

So, yes there were times I needed a good spanking, and I believe in spanking, but some parents just need to get themselves right first ! I apologize if I rambled too much.
Be Blessed in Christ Jesus !
Minister

Answer 6

My mother beat me physically and emotionally and they weren't necessary they were over stupid things like not sweeping the floor properly because she was drunk. So no I raise my son to do things the right way and I only have to look at him a certain way and he knows I mean business, if i raise my voice just a little he straitens right out and tells his friends to stop acting bad and he is serious because his mom is getting mad and it won't be good to get me mad and he has never seen me mad! But for the way I was raised I am raising my son in a way that he is not physically beat or emotionally/mentally disturbed and will need counseling for my raising him badly! I love him and I am very honest with him and i tell him I love him all the time!

Answer 7

My parents beat the crap out of me and I hate them for it. I've used them as a negative roll model as to what not to do. I have never struck my son. He is 17 years old now. All 17 years have been amazing. I just learned to guide and manipulate in non physical ways. My son and I are closer than any other mom/son relationship I've ever come acrossed. His friends tell him all the time that he has the neatest mom.

personally I feel those that spank are lazy. They want a quick fix to a problem. They don't want to take the time to explain and guide or distract. They don't like the fact that when you ground the child you almost ground yourself too. So I feel those that like using spankings as a way to teach a lesson are just plain lazy.

And by the way spankings don't work anyway. After a while you learn that it's just a quick spank and then it's over.

Answer 8

Ohhhhh, MAN! lmao I needed each and every one of them! Talking with my brothers, we are all glad we got spankings! I mean, if my parents had only talked to us until they were blue in the face (which they did plenty of) it wouldn't have gotten through as well. I think properly administered spankings are an excellent training tool! :D My kids will be raised the same way!

Answer 9

Yes, I earned them, most of them. It taught me the manners and respect for others that is lacking in gen x. Ex.. I saw a group of teens crossing a street at the same time an old man w/ a walker was. Did they clear a path for him? No. They kept on going, forcing the man to move to the side. Disgrace and disrespect abound in our young people.

Answer 10

Last time I got it was when I was 5 and it was for something that my cousin did, not I. He beats us both with a belt.
(Why would a couple of five year olds need to be hit with a belt anyway?)
My mom told my dad that if he ever hit me again she'd kill him. He must have believed her.