question for the ladies ?

Question

how many of you have suffered from an abusive boyfriend/ husband before ? i was in a relationship like that for a long time. i just got out of it and when i started telling people about it, i was shocked to hear that a lot of people i know were / still are going through the same thing with there husbands or boyfriends . so have you ladies ever gone through something like that with an abusive partner ?
thank-you for sharing

immature , i don't think so . no offense but i think you need to grow up April . It wasn't a confession but a question to other ladies that have been in that situation. If you didn't understand the question there was no need for you to answer at all . Everybody else understood the question perfectly , but you didn't .

Answer 1

Yes I was I was also shocked to learn how often it happened and how most people didnt know. My x husband did alot of things. Called me everyname under the sun always said things like I was fat or ugly. He would do everything in his power to start a fight with me no matter what. He was very good in martial arts to so he did alot of submission moves choke holds, an such. He slapped,punched,stomped and slung me all over our house. He broke things of mine like my daughters 1st piggy bank my papaw gave here. She was born on his birth day and passed away 12 days later. I got a angel with some Ivy from he to him for the funeral he broke it. Lots of things that can never be replaced. Then after he'd beat me and tore our home to shreds he'd try to love on me and I wouldn't so he raped me violently. Why did he do these things, well heres some of his reasons. My son got introuble for playing with his pensil in school and I didn't punish him. I left some hamburger meat in the fridge like he asked and he didn't use it for and by the time he did it was bad and I should have known that time he through the bowl at me and busted the side of my face up pretty good black eye and all. People dont understand why you stay after the 1st time but untill you live it you can't judge. The 1st few times is shock the next is he doesn't mean it and if I'm abetter woman to him he will change the next is fear. It feels like its better to keep your enemys close be cause of them coming after you. Then enought is enough. And death is better than the hell you live in so you find your courage again and leave. I feel for any one who has been there and pray for all still there.

Answer 2

I am currently going through a divorce. Married to a mostly emotionally abusive husband. What was the final straw that made me leave was when he decided I was his property. He would grab me in a personal way and force me to kiss him. Once left a purple mark on my thigh and once with kids in the room. He gave me no affection unless he wanted sex. Also it was constant put downs and and an arrogant attitude he is ALWAYS right. A few yrs before I left he threatened to knock some sense into me but didn't......I have been married for over 9 yrs and we dated for almost 6 and have two young boys.. Even though he is the one that filed still says he's not that bad (I am exaggerating) and everything is my fault...............

Then I read things like the above and wonder was it that bad or will I just end up with worse......I hope there are some truly decent men and I find one......

Answer 3

My first husband used to hit me. When I would say something to other women, they would tell me what they would do. Unfortunately, it's one of those 'you don't know until you are in that same situation" things. I was critisized by those very people telling me that I should have done this or that. I did love my husband very much. He was my first love. I thought that love would change him. Yes I hear those moans and groans from readers here. We all know the story. I was also made to feel by those women that somehow it was my fault. But in the end, it took maturity to realize that HE was the one with the problem and not me. he is still alone after all these years and i feel only pity for him. In the mean time, I am happily married to the best man in the world!

Answer 4

yeah, i've had an abusive boyfriend before . it lasted for 5 years. it took me a long time to build up strength and respect for myself and self love to leave him , and i will never in my life let another loser guy treat me like that again . i learned a lot from that experience and i'm just glad i got out when i did . i know a lot of my girl friends are going through the same thing at the moment , it just makes me sick that guys treat women this way and have no respect for them

Answer 5

Yes, I have been through it before. What always surprised me is some women's lack of compassion for another that is being abused...as if it could never happen to them because they're too smart. You never have a full understanding unless you've faced it personally.

Answer 6

No I've never been in an abusive relationship. I never dated before and my husband doesn't beat me. However I was abused as a child.

Answer 7

Hey i have not been physically abused at all just because i will lay someone out if they tried to hit me. But sometimes emotionally i feel like i am. I am glad you got out of it and never let anyone do it again.You are better then that!

Answer 8

I know for the girls, however I was verbally abused from my wife for 25 years before I go smart, and put a stop to it

Answer 9

WOW... I had no idea men like that still existed---I though rosie o donell sat on them all. (just kidding) Anyways, Im too young 2 marry but If i found any freinds who went through that, I would help them out... Some relationships like that have made it to Oprah--- NOT GOOD

Answer 10

Yes, and I learned how I contributed to it. I have been able to avoid it since and have a happy marriage now. It is shocking to realize that abuse is more prevalent than we think.