When Do you think it is okay for someone to have there first baby in 16 and i want a baby but im scared to hav

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Answer 1

i was a teenage mom.. barely tuning 16 before i gave birth to my son.. i wanted to have kids too.. but, my body was still immature, as was my brain.. my mother didnt put me on birth control or try to keep an eye on what i was doing.. i got pregnant and dropped out of school.. the baby's dad swore the kid wasnt his.. my friends were all like in the "know" about everything.. half of the time, when i did get to see them, i didnt know what the hell they were talking about.. since i was sitting at home, getting sick, throwing up, getting stretch f*king marks.. it felt like there was an alien inside of me.. and it was soo scary that there was something happening to me that i no longer had control over.. it really sucked.. my hormones changed and i kept getting sooooo HOT.. like old people going thru menopause, HOT..!! i was always uncomfortable and hot and yuk and fat.. and felt soo gross.. my son was breech, which means he was feet down and his head was stuck inside of my ribcage since my body was small and under devolped.. my bag ripped and did not break all of the way, so i had to stay in the hospital for three days, they wanted me to stay 6 WEEKS..!! i had already been on bed rest for a month.. which means you can only get up to pee.. i went into labor while in the hospital and my son's heart rate was dropping and they had to do an emergency
C- section.. they cut open my belly and tried to dig him out.. it was horrible.. it took a very loooooong time to heal from the surgery.. and the scar, 13 f*king years later is still ugly.. my son was born 3 pounds and 13 ounces, which might not mean much to you, but babies are supposed to weigh 6 pounds.. he was soo sick.. and he was too early and he didnt know how to suck on a bottle and had a feeding tube.. i cried everyday and took the cota bus everyday from my house to the hospital since i wasnt allowed to stay in there with him.. i cried and cried.. all of the time.. i was alone and my mom was stuupid.. my friends didnt understand and didnt have the means to help me.. and didnt want to hang out with me anymore.. WAY TOO MUCH REAL DRAMA.. they only wanted to worry about which shoes they were going to wear or who was flirting with their stuupid boyfriends.. and i was worried sick, wondering if my baby was going to live or die.. he had to stay a looong time in the hospital.. i carried my breast milk to him every day in a cooler on the bus and stayed until they kicked me out.. sometimes i tried to hide and sneak in to see him.. he laid inside of an incubator and i was only allowed to touch him thru a hole in the side of it since the temperature was regulated and had to stay at a certain level.. if he got too cold, he could get sicker.. he was too skinny to be cute.. but i loved him.. and he lived and grew and is 13 now..and got cute, too but he was always a little behind other kids since i had him soo young and he was soo early.. he also had lots of asthma and was on a breathing treatment machine.. until he was about 4.. 4 TIMES A DAY!! he had surgery to get ear tubes for chronic ear infections like 6 times.. it sucked.. i am way older now and i just had my second son.. and i am with his father.. we have been together for a loong time.. having this baby was sooo much better.. my body was more ready to have a baby and i had lots of help from his dad.. he rubbed my belly and talked to my belly.. he held me when i was frightened or worried and told me everything was going to be okay.. he got a little fat right along with me.. he was and has always been there for us.. and i wish i would have waited for my first son's sake.. so he could have a daddy in his life and that was there for him since his birth and was there for me too, because i was just too young to really understand all of the things that came with having a baby.. it will make you stronger and tougher.. but, its REALLY REALLY F*KING SCARY.. its no joke, honey.. please think about it.. then look around at all of the "mommies" in your life, too.. ARE THEY HAPPY..?? DO THEY HAVE HUSBANDS/BOYFRIENDS THAT HELPED THEM..?? ARE THEY SKINNY..?? who are you going to hang out with after you get pregnant..?? or after your baby is born..?? you wont be able to just run right out of the door and go to the mall or to the movies.. sh*t, i cant even go out on the porch to smoke a cigarette..!! and all of your money will go to the baby too.. no new clothes for you.. no new nothing.. anyways.. w/b if you want.. and .
FOR ALL OF YOU OUT THERE RESPONDING TO THIS GIRL.. PLEASE RESPOND LIKE IT WAS YOUR DAUGHTER ASKING THIS QUESTION WITHOUT YOUR KNOWLEDGE.. DONT CUT HER DOWN OR PUT HER DOWN.. BE REAL AND BE HONEST.. IF YOU DONT HAVE A DAUGHTER, I WOULD ASK YOU NOT TO RESPOND.. AND TO THE PRICK TALKING ABOUT HER TYPING.. THERE'S NO LAW THAT YOU HAVE TO KNOW HOW TO TYPE TO HAVE A BABY.. LOTS OF ILITERATES DO..
AND BESIDES, THAT S JUST SHORT HAND, BABY..
GET HIP..

Answer 2

I had twins when I was 16...it's very hard. It's never as easy as people think it is. You lose a lot when you have kids young. I don't have an education; I wanted to go to college, but had babies to take care of. Daycare is expensive, diapers are expensive. I'm assuming you'll be getting help from the government cuz there is no way that you'll be able to afford diapers, wipes, bottles, clothes, daycare for work, formula, and anything else a baby needs. Formula is very expensive. And if you breastfeed, pumps are expensive and you still need to make sure that you eat right and take care of yourself and you'll still need bottles for when you go to work. You also will get little to no sleep. Your body will be pretty messed up after birth too. It's a very traumatizing experience. You will give up everything because you won't have a choice. It's also hard not to sometimes feel resentment towards the baby that you gave up your whole life for. As for going and hanging out, forget it. Babysitters are expensive and all your money is going to the baby. You have no education and nothing to offer a child. I wish everyday, that I was able to give my kids more than I can. It's hard and depressing becuase I thought I was mature enough to have sex and now my kids have to suffer and I have to suffer because I have nothing to offer them. I work my *** off for nothing. Barely making it. If you have a choice, wait. Don't put yourself through it or an innocent child. I feel guilt every day because I brought them into this life...they did not ask to be here. Think of the unborn child's life that you will be ruining, if you won't think about yours.

Answer 3

Being a parent is one of the most time consuming jobs, and very expensive too. Its not a job thats done when the child turns 18, its a life long responsibility. Don't have children until you are old enough to take care of yourself and that baby as well. And, you should be scared to have sex with all of the diseases they have going around. Aids is a very real, non curable disease. At your age its just not the right thing to do. Its a faze and you'll get over it. Try to keep someones baby for like a week, it will change your mind. e-mail me if u want to talk more.

Answer 4

I also worried a lot about this but I was told that the placenta was at the front. So, I didn't really show until about 22 or 23 weeks and that's also when I felt the kicking. If you're tall like me your baby might not show until later because there's so much room on the inside. Nothing to worry about! Just as someone else said it's different for everyone.

Answer 5

30 minutes ago you were looking for a name for your baby girl.

Please don't procreate.